What's fair rent for working children living at home?

Person_one

Dunroamin wrote: »

I have no idea where you get that idea from as it's completely untrue.

What is recent is the idea that young adults should be able to live at home and keep all their earnings for themselves, or to pay only nominal contributions.

Many teenagers had to leave school as soon as possible because their earnings were important to the family budget. (Not that anyone would want to see a return of that!) Those that remained in education were considered to be very well supported by their parents but were expected to pay in the proper amount to the family kitty as soon as they found work.

I can think of no time in history when it was normal for "children to stay at home fully supported until they got married" and really cannot see where you go that idea from.

I'm going back further than you are. Look at isolated tribes, they don't live separate lives from their family members where they must assert their independence, families stay interconnected and reliant on each other.

(Although my mum didn't pay keep at her parent's home, so what you're describing certainly wasn't universal.)

Mojisola

Person_one wrote: »

I'm going back further than you are. Look at isolated tribes, they don't live separate lives from their family members where they must assert their independence, families stay interconnected and reliant on each other.

If you're looking back that far, you'll see that that everyone was also working for the community - even small children would be scaring birds, guarding the smaller animals or helping to gather food.

What is totally new is for young adults to be supported by their parents, financially as well as having their washing, cooking, etc, done for them. Apart from a very small percentage of very wealthy families who had servants, I think this is a completely new experiment in how to raise the next generation.

Dunroamin

Person_one wrote: »

I'm going back further than you are. Look at isolated tribes, they don't live separate lives from their family members where they must assert their independence, families stay interconnected and reliant on each other.

For pity's sake, we're not discussing Margaret Meade's Samoan tribes here!

MamaJAH

*Ever wished you'd kept your mouth shut and not asked the question in the first place? :rotfl:

But it has helped...

We've had a chat, she's going to contribute £20 to the shopping bill, the cleaner is being reinstated and she is setting up a direct debit to save £100 each week - this will be looked at once the novelty of working full time has worn off and she has replenished her work wear wardrobe! We have said if she saves more she won't have to pay more than the £20.... everyone's happy!

Bennifred

MamaJAH wrote: »

*Ever wished you'd kept your mouth shut and not asked the question in the first place? :rotfl:

But it has helped...

We've had a chat, she's going to contribute £20 to the shopping bill, the cleaner is being reinstated and she is setting up a direct debit to save £100 each week - this will be looked at once the novelty of working full time has worn off and she has replenished her work wear wardrobe! We have said if she saves more she won't have to pay more than the £20.... everyone's happy!

Lucky girl! Glad you have come to an agreement.

Pollycat

MamaJAH wrote: »

We've had a chat, she's going to contribute £20 to the shopping bill, the cleaner is being reinstated and she is setting up a direct debit to save £100 each week - this will be looked at once the novelty of working full time has worn off and she has replenished her work wear wardrobe! We have said if she saves more she won't have to pay more than the £20.... everyone's happy!

Is your daughter paying the whole amount for the cleaner?

caeler

Intrestingly the family and I were discussing this at the weekend as on a meal out one cousin said that he wouldn't contribute to the bill because he paid 'rent'. After a little giggle we realised he was deadly serious. I'd suggest being open and honest about how much it actually costs to run a house hold. The council tax is £xx a month, the TV licence is £xx, Gas is £xx. So they understand how much they contribute.

merlin68

I'm going to charge mine £60 each as i worked out the cost of the rent council tax, utilities and food and divided it by 4.
This is what my friend does whith hers and i think it's the fairest way.
Even renting a room in a shared house can set you back £100 a week alone. So it's still a bargain.

WelshBluebird

merlin68 wrote: »

I'm going to charge mine £60 each as i worked out the cost of the rent council tax, utilities and food and divided it by 4.
This is what my friend does whith hers and i think it's the fairest way.
Even renting a room in a shared house can set you back £100 a week alone. So it's still a bargain.

Out of curiosity, what if they were on JSA? They wouldn't have £60 a week!

Soapn

WelshBluebird wrote: »

Out of curiosity, what if they were on JSA? They wouldn't have £60 a week!

did the poster say they WERE on JSA?