Would you..

meg72

parsnipnose wrote: »

Hire a Private Investigator to see what your other half was up to?

Personally anyone that says they completley trust their partner 100% must be lying likely they do and just hide their sim card in their glove compartment. or 'I know where he is at all times and even 'Oh he would never use social networking sites'

Yet those people who are just being catagoric are the ones more than likely to have an Unfaithful Partner.

What is your opinion?

My opinion, I think you have probably had a very rough time .
the majority of happily married couples I know would certainly say they trusted 100%'
As to hiring a private detective, I would have been long out of the door before even thinking of that. If theres no trust there is nothing left so why stay.

maire1

I trust my husband 100% no question about it. That's why I married him and why I'm still married to him.

FBaby

I agree with Karen. When you have trusted fully once, twice, and been betrayed you are naturally more guarded. It doesn't mean you don't trust your partner but maybe that you are less likely to think 'that could never happen to me'. You just have to come here to read regularly someone announcing their partner cheated and they had no clue. I trust my partner in that I would be very very surprised if he cheated. Can it never happen? No I am not that confident. Would I rather see it coming if it was the case? Most definitely. Saying that no I wouldn't hire a detective but would check on him if I started to have any suspicions due to a sudden change in behaviour. There has been no reasons to consider doing so yet in our relationship.

lollipopsarah

God no I wouldn't (even if I could afford it).
We've had our bad times, but stuck with it, and while not always happy (whatever that is after nearly 30 years) I wouldn't want to go it alone now - we are like an old pair of slippers!
Mind you I'm a right old tart at work with the fellas, but that's just me, no harm done, no real intentions, just fun and a larf!
Many years ago we had a pub and I used to stand on a chair to kiss the local PC goodnight! - happy days.
xx

Filey

Ha ha ha!!

That is hollow laughter.

It brings back to me the time (very many years ago) when a friend was talking to me about her relationship with her husband, and I said "well whatever my husband's faults I am absolutely certain he would be faithful". This was not long after the birth of our first child.

Shortly after that I noticed he wasn't being his usual randy self in bed and he told me had got gonorrhea and I had to go to the STD clinic.

At least he was honest enough to own up. And it hadn't been a one might stand either.

Pollycat

parsnipnose wrote: »

Why is it when you ask a question on a forum the claws come out?

Could it be because you make sweeping (and inaccurate) statements like this? :cool:

parsnipnose wrote: »

Personally anyone that says they completley trust their partner 100% must be lying i believe there is always a niggling doubt, i can't stand when people say 'Oh my partner would never have a second phone' when most likely they do and just hide their sim card in their glove compartment. or 'I know where he is at all times and even 'Oh he would never use social networking sites'

VestanPance

No, I would never do such a thing. I also firmly believe if you don't trust your partner then the relationship is already broken/doomed.

I have trust issues these days after being cheated on by my ex, which is why I do not date at all now. I see no reason why I should thrust my baggage on someone who has not inflicted the damage. How can you enter a relationship without trust?

dizsiebubba

parsnipnose wrote: »

i can't stand when people say 'Oh my partner would never have a second phone' when most likely they do and just hide their sim card in their glove compartment.

I don't have a second phone... I doubt its most likely people do...

dizsiebubba

LittleMissAspie wrote: »

You're on a money saving site. No I wouldn't hire someone, I'd do the snooping myself!

But I do trust my boyfriend 100% and I'm not lying.

Although, I don't trust him to tidy the living room when I've asked him to... or to bring only healthy food home from the supermarket... or to get up promptly in the morning... or to remember to buy his sister a birthday card...

:rotfl:Love this!!!

thehappybutterfly

I'm afraid any PI I hired to follow my hubby would soon be bored out of his mind! :rotfl:

7.30am - gets in van to go to work
12 noon - spotted eating lunch in van
12.30pm - spotted putting lunch leavings in bin
12.35pm - gets back in van and goes to work
5.00pm - gets out of van and goes home

email access - nothing to report
facebook access - nothing to report
text messaging - "what's for tea?" Nothing to report

oooh racy!