Would you..

parsnipnose

Hire a Private Investigator to see what your other half was up to?

Personally anyone that says they completley trust their partner 100% must be lying i believe there is always a niggling doubt, i can't stand when people say 'Oh my partner would never have a second phone' when most likely they do and just hide their sim card in their glove compartment. or 'I know where he is at all times and even 'Oh he would never use social networking sites'

Yet those people who are just being catagoric are the ones more than likely to have an Unfaithful Partner.

What is your opinion?

alwaysonthego_2

No I would never do that, if I was so mistrustful of my partner I was considering hiring a private detective then I would say it would be the end of the relationship. I can honestly say that I trust my OH 100% due to the way he conducts himself in our relationship and I would like to think it was reciprocated.

SmallL

I don't see why you need to give an 'excuse' to why your partner is 100% faithful, surely its just a 'feeling' you get that you believe your relationship is 'secure' from your point of view?
The explanations of 'i know where he is all the time' is just people looking for a reason for those feelings of security.
only YOU know how 'good' and 'secure' your relationship is and you shouldn't have to justify it.

thatlemming

alwaysonthego wrote: »

No I would never do that, if I was so mistrustful of my partner I was considering hiring a private detective then I would say it would be the end of the relationship. I can honestly say that I trust my OH 100% due to the way he conducts himself in our relationship and I would like to think it was reciprocated.

Exactly this, if it's got to the stage you think you need a PI then it's got to be time to end it!

Jo_F

I trust my partner totally, he is a week out lorry driver, could be getting up to anything in a layby at night, but I know he isn't and I would have no reason at all to have any doubts about him.

He trusts me too, I have access to his email, the mobile account, the tv/phone/broadband accounts (in case I need to talk to them when he is out), I even have his logon details for online banking and any other computer logons.

HeadAboveWater

thatlemming wrote: »

Exactly this, if it's got to the stage you think you need a PI then it's got to be time to end it!

Bingo! If you don't have trust, what have you got?!

System

Hire a Private Investigator to see what your other half was up to?

No because if there was something wrong i'd know. I can read him like a book.:D

fluffnutter

parsnipnose wrote: »

Hire a Private Investigator to see what your other half was up to?

Personally anyone that says they completley trust their partner 100% must be lying i believe there is always a niggling doubt, i can't stand when people say 'Oh my partner would never have a second phone' when most likely they do and just hide their sim card in their glove compartment. or 'I know where he is at all times and even 'Oh he would never use social networking sites'

Yet those people who are just being catagoric are the ones more than likely to have an Unfaithful Partner.

What is your opinion?

My opinion is that people judge others by their own standards. I trust my partner 100% and object to being told I'm lying. You clearly don't trust your partner, either because he or she is untrustworthy, or because you yourself are. Don't tar everyone with the same brush.

And your assertion that those who trust the most (I assume this is what 'just being catagoric (sic)' means) are more likely to have an unfaithful partner is absolute nonsense.

Sa-ra-ra-ra

Quite apart from the fact that I do know where my DH is approx 97% of the time, and I know that he hasn't got a SIM he hides in the car (as it's my car)...

I also trust him. And if I ever considered hiring a PI to investigate him, then either a) I have a problem, or b) his behaviour is so out of the norm that we would need to have a discussion about that.

emsywoo123

I very much enjoy the game of "who has re-incarnated themselves this week"

I like to see if the username is a clue to their past troll identity.

I admit I'm stumped with this OP.........

SqueekyMouse

parsnipnose wrote: »

Personally anyone that says they completley trust their partner 100% must be lying i believe there is always a niggling doubt,

Wow, that's really quite a sad thing to say. I hope that your bitterness isn't a result of personal experience but I suppose it must come from somewhere...

I trust my partner totally, and he trusts me. We don't have a problem with each other reading texts/looking at each others facebook etc. I know his passwords and he knows mine. While we may tell each other small white lies from time to time if we ask each other to say something "honestly" we always fess up and tell the truth.

If you don't have complete trust and honesty in a relationship, I personally don't see it working out. It's about respect for each other really

If you get to the stage where you'd consider hiring a PI, it's defiantly time to walk away