Funeral Costs for Baby Twins

Torry_Quine

GlasweJen wrote: »

I hope no one gets offended by this.

Is the car for family? In our culture we walk behind the hearse unless you're very elderly/sick or the route is long or dangerous. The walking actually helps a bit in a way, the first time I went in a funeral car I felt like i was missing out on sharing my grandads last journey with him.

Have you had a look at the route from the house to the service then service to the resting place? Is walking a viable option?

Obviously if you need a hearse for the children this is entirely different though I would imagine that would be part of a basic funeral.

With regard to flowers, local florists will sometimes do a payment plan in the circumstances. Do you have a proper independent local florist you can talk to?

You don't need all of the bells and whistles to have a funeral and don't feel like you're doing the children a disservice by not having these optional extras. The important bit is gathering the family and supporting their grieving parents through this.

That's news to me. I've always gone in a funeral car and only seen people walking on TV.

OP don't stress about things like this. No-one is going to be bothered, I know that you want to do things properly but whatever you do is correct.

Take time and take care.

GlasweJen

I'm not Christian but I've seen the local Catholics do this, they follow the hearse from the house to the church the night before their relative is buried.

ETA Torry I've noticed you're a Christian, I was raised Jewish which has a whole separate culture.

sassyblue

Torry_Quine wrote: »

That's news to me. I've always gone in a funeral car and only seen people walking on TV.

That's the opposite to my experiences, every funeral I've gone to we've at least walked behind the hearse out of the street, walking allthe way to the church if it's not too far.

We're Christian. X

Torry_Quine

GlasweJen wrote: »

I'm not Christian but I've seen the local Catholics do this, they follow the hearse from the house to the church the night before their relative is buried.

ETA Torry I've noticed you're a Christian, I was raised Jewish which has a whole separate culture.

No idea about Catholics but as a Christian I never have.

sassyblue wrote: »

That's the opposite to my experiences, every funeral I've gone to we've at least walked behind the hearse out of the street, walking allthe way to the church if it's not too far.

We're Christian. X

Funerals I've been at the hearse has already been to the church and the coffin is there as people arrive. This shows there is no general way and I'm not replying again as this is no help to the OP.

amyloofoo

*hugs* Didn't want to read and run.

I agree with the poster who suggested that when the time's right, maybe yourself and OH should seek some counselling. I can't imagine how you must feel, but I've heard nothing but good things about SANDS if you feel you would like some support.

calcinite

Sorry for you loss.

I am based in the North West and when we had to arrange the funeral for our 5 week old the co-op did not charge us and as long as we had the funeral in the morning neither did the crematorium.

Dunroamin

Were the children 21 weeks old or did you miscarry at 21 weeks - I wasn't sure from your post.

mishkanorman

Dunroamin wrote: »

Were the children 21 weeks old or did you miscarry at 21 weeks - I wasn't sure from your post.

The Op states "at 21 weeks pregnancy"

so I would presume a miscarriage

Kitten_Pie

Hi Ambrookes,

Sorry to bring this post back to the front but wanted to add my sympathies.

When we had our sons funeral the funeral parlour (?) did the basic funeral for free, this included a car for the boys and us (not a hearse) for the flowers we went to the florist over the road and got some simple flowers as we didn't want to overpower their tiny coffins. The florist charged us £6 for both the arrangements which was well below the cost they would usually charge.

I don't know if you are aware or even already a member but tamba (twin and multiple birth association) have a bereavement facebook page where there are those who are in similar situations or have been through it. It may or may not be a help to you but if you want to join just contact Carol Clay from the Tamba page.

Best wishes for you and your family.

vax2002

This happened to us at 23 weeks, 6 days and 18 hours, the hospital refused to help them as they were not 24 weeks, they lived 4 and 7 hours.
I feel your pain, right to the centre of where it hurts so bad you can not even look.
Peace.