Is it too soon to renew your vows after 5 years of marriage?

faerie~spangles

Padstow wrote: »

It is as shirlgirl says. You are not married in the eye of the Catholic Church. Best thing is to consult your Priest with what you've asked here.

If the op is a church goer and has a Parish Priest he will be able to advise, however I suspect the op wants to flounce down the aisle. With no real regard to the religious aspect of the ceremony.

Willing to be corrected:o

jenhug

I suggested to my husband about renewing our vows a few years ago, when it first became trendy. His reply? "Why? we haven't worn the first ones out". I thought that was lovely and correct. We haven't broken any vows so why renew them?

I think perhaps a church blessing is a little different to renewal of vows though, and you can do that when you like.

shellsuit

faerie~spangles wrote: »

I don't wish to offend: Renewing your vows????? !!!!!!?

You cannot renew the vows you made when you got married.



Personally I would not attend or acknowledge a renewal of vows ceremony.

Of course you can renew your vows, lots of people do it, even though it's not everyone's cup of tea.

It's something we would consider doing, just alone though, we wouldn't make a big thing out of it.

OP if you want to do it for your 5th anniversary, you go right ahead and do it!

babyblooz

"I suggested to my husband about renewing our vows a few years ago, when it first became trendy. His reply? "Why? we haven't worn the first ones out". I thought that was lovely and correct. We haven't broken any vows so why renew them?"

Love it! Sounds like you got a good one there!

Scrapaholic

When I mentioned this a few years ago to my husband , he said that our original vows hadn't run out . It seemed to be something that people were doing a few years ago . I don't know of anyone who's done this . What you feel is right for you both is what you should do .

jenhug

babyblooz wrote: »

"I suggested to my husband about renewing our vows a few years ago, when it first became trendy. His reply? "Why? we haven't worn the first ones out". I thought that was lovely and correct. We haven't broken any vows so why renew them?"

Love it! Sounds like you got a good one there!

Indeed I have, thanks! :beer:

lazer

Sorry,

I'm another one that doesn't get the point in renewing your vows, you made your wedding vows for better or worse, for richer for poorer etc "all the days of our lives", "to death do us part" or whatever the wording was then - so there is no need to renew them they are everlasting.

Saying that - as you are catholic, and you had a registry office wedding, I think you are not married in the eyes of the church, only in the eyes of the state, so talk to your parish priest if you want a blessing.

lostinrates

My perspective is that we have been married, um seven years i think, yes, seven, and together nine. We had a timy wesding, just him , me two witnesses.

We had planned to have a big party when we bought a house. But didnot get round to that so have been talking about a big 'celebration of life' with our friends for our tenth anniversary.

While ip do not regret getting married when and how we did, it was very romantic, i do sometimes sigh and think of the dress i might have worn and the party i might have had. BUT i have to say, during the time we were pllanning a bigger wedding i think things were quite tense. I did not find it a bonding experience in the way it might have been were we not living together anyway.

I would also resent the money spent on it, we have a large mortgage and not inconsiderable living expenses, why make economies to those that make day to day life harder for an event that brings streas.


A personal blessing, or a fifth year very fancy wedding anniversay party is one thing and could be bonding and strengthening and delightful. A 'wouldn't it be noce had we done it this way the first time' imo could be very stressful, rehash the stuff you have successfully got past (well done to you both, thats the best thing imo) and put tension in your lives, there by risking negative impact on your relationship.

Amara

I think it's a lovely idea and you should go for it. Like someone already said, you're not married in Catholic Church anyway, so it wouldn't be even a renewal, it'd be a church wedding, blessing.
Reason, that you'd like to have a family with you and party is a good reason too.
Go for it

I_wanna_live_for_free

My ex-husband wanted us to renew our vows, I couldn't understand why. We split up about a year afterwards. I suspect he knew things were "going wrong" (no fault, we just grew apart) and he hoped that we could "start again together" with a vow renewal.

Saying that, that was us and not you, OP. If you do want to repeat those important words to each other, go ahead and do it. Not as a big flashy do though. The words are promises to each other not as an excuse for a shindig.

And do celebrate your anniversary anyway - 5 years is a good reason to celebrate. Remember that marriage is for better and for worse. Sounds like you've got through the worst and can see better times ahead.