Dilemma ! how much would you give up for your kids ?

lady_fuschia

lebly wrote: »

Have you not seen darcey bussel, wayne sleep etc etc you can have a long a career as you want. Plus with those sorts of qualifications she can allways go on to teach dancing and acting etc. Sit down with her and have a real heart to heart, see if you can talk to other ex pupils of these schools so can can let her know exactly what it is like and how hard she will have to work.

If she loves dancing etc that much she will want to do it, that love and wanting to do it very rarely fades!

True, but that doesn't mean she has to go to a stage school to get ahead. Is till think it would be preferable for her to continue in state education and then go on to study dance at college when she's sixteen. There's really no need to send her to an expensive stage school for her to become a succesful performer.

Lillibet_2

[quote=lady_fuschia;4617972_There's_really_no_need_to_send_her_to_an_expensive_stage_school_for_her_to_become_a_succesful_performer.[/quote]

Sorry but this is really a very ill-informed comment. There is every need for her to go to drama or dance school to specalise in one of these professions. Very very few actors & even less dancers make it through to a paying career in the field without some degree of drama-school training, although drama school is most defanitely not limited to under 16's & is as easily available to over 16's as under, but in some professions, such as dancing, the younger you start to specalise then the better chance you stand. Not only are we talkign abotu one of the most competitive professions on earth, professional dancing is physically comparable to being an athleat, due to your bodys development you reach your peak at a young age (about 19-21 I believe), a few are lucky enough to sustain this for a longer period but still need to estabilsh themselves very early. There is no demand for "new" older dancers & older actors are in very low demand even when estabilshed, except the very few elite household names.

From what the OP has said in further posts, I am leaning towards agreeing that this might well actually be the better option for her daughter if she can find some way of meeting the financial aspect. I do think a real heart-to-heart is required, if nothing else to prepare your daughter for the possabiltiy that even if she gets the additional funding you may still not be able to afford it. You might also be suprised at what other information comes out once you open this door : on several occasions I have seen people drop out of this sort of thing becuase they went into it because it's what they & everyone else though they ought to do & even wanted to do, never rminding if they were ready for it! It does put teeneagers under a lot of stress, both emotionally & competitevely on a daily basis, which can either make or break them. If all the factors are right for your daughter then it will probably be the best thing in the world for her, but if not then don't be afraid to wait a bit. She is your daughter 1st & a performer 2nd.......for now!

Psykicpup

Personally I would send her! It sounds like she is working far too hard at the mo and may burn out or just lose interest as she has no 'life' except school & dance!
At least she wont have the same amount of pressure at stage school as shes putting her self & you under right now! & she will still get her good education.:T

I think that maybe after struggling so long as a DFW:A you are just loathe to spend that much. Its habit forming lol :eek:
Look into the funding issue & as another poster said ask at the school if the can suggest something!

Good Luck to you both tho what ever you decide to do!:beer:

Sharra

I think I would send her if you feel it would be best for her.
The money side of it - why do we moneysave if its not to be able to spend it on the things that really matter? Whether its holidays/cars/old age, whatever is important to us, moneysaving is a means to an end I feel.
It sounds like you're ahead of the game financially. If you feel this would give your daughter the best life, then whats that weighed up against money.
Maybe think about what your decision would be if money wasn't the issue, work out whether its right for her or not, then think about the money