Hoarding...not just on TV

greenbee

Lots of supermarkets and community recycling centres also have bins for books/DVDS/CDs too.

You could also post on freegle offering stuff suitable for car boot sales if you don't want to list all the items individually.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Does something offered for sale that cost the owner significant money have value if nobody wants to buy it?


I hear that the value of an item is the amount somebody else is willing to pay for it. What is that amount in this case?



Had a successful gig this evening and a good giggle with a friend. Slight come down to get a message from eldest daughter announcing she's off 'up north' to university and could she have money - first contact in months. But my children being only interested in what they can get out of me, casting me off when they don't get their own way doesn't change that other people like me. Just not them. Or the rest of my screwed up family. Since I started saying no to them, actually - like both their fathers, and my other relatives, once I said no, they couldn't drop me fast enough.


I have had lots of lager, a lamb shish kebab, hot buttered toast and a huge mug of tea. I shall feel better in the end, hopefully before I am forced to go into the garden and eat worms.


Off tomorrow to see MIL and some of her grandchildren. They like me, too, so I'll be bundled by noisy children and an even noisier MIL when I get there at about 9am. I have to be up by 7! :eek:


Think of me as you relax at home tomorrow morning in peace and quiet!

Brighton_belle

HannahIOW wrote: »

Thanks whitewing, trouble is, I bag stuff up for the charity shop and then the bag gets shoved in the spare room as I don't get many opportunities to take stuff there.... does anyone know if they are open on bank holidays?

Quite a few charity shops will collect from you. There may be a few weeks waiting time as the service is staffed by volunteers but they could take quite lot at one time.

wannabe_sybil

D&DD welcome, they are a lovely lot here, also Hannah but I am sure you have posted here before so welcome again - it is nice to see you, also anyone I have missed.

They are so lovely here that I can dare to post without actually having done any de-richarding myself.

However I thought I would chip in with lots of hugs and say that one book on decluttering I read said the best way to start was at the back. That way you could find all the stuff you hadn't used for ages and had more reason to get rid of and then you would have places for stuff that you wanted to keep.

I have been pootling away at this for ages and I have done a lot of the easy stuff. However I find that the things that are helping me are limiting what goes in, recognising why I am keeping stuff, doing a bit at a time and whenever I am in the mood acting on it straight away!

Buffythedebtslayer

Hello,
I have a list today but got to eat breakfast first.

Just thinking about why I hoarde, why I keep things I don't NEED.....I find it hard to tell as I am sort of accidently sharing/renting with Mum I keep stuff for when I move out and put it all in the shed. I was very ruthless a few years ago and am being ruthless again.

BUT I do have boxes in the shed for when I move out.

And today the shed is being tackled. a bit.

katep23

MrsChaos wrote: »

Or in the case of my DS1 'There is food in the house, but it requires thought and preparation/cooking. What I really want is something ready-made that I can just stick in the microwave/poor hot water on.'

He he, my OH is exactly the same - he looks in the larder (which is bulging with food!) and asks how we can have so many ingredients but have nothing to eat

Was good yesterday - went to a food festival and we decided not to buy things as we walked around but to try things then decide what we really wanted and buy it before we left.

So we ended up with some blue cheese, a couple of pies and 3 bottles of wine, all of which will be used quickly (although the wine is apparently meant to be kept for 2 years and we said it would be our housewarming wine - I suspect we will have a Friday night where we run out of wine and it's either that or the cooking wine we bought in France for just over £1 a bottle!)

I didn't buy the bottle of whiskey liquer I tried which was gorgeous but would end up on the window ledge in the larder being forgotten (along with 3 bottles of baileys )

So I am learning!

ETA - D&DD, love the Avatar!

pixnmix_2

Good morning! Found this thread the other day and having spent ages reading posts from you all, I decided to chip in to confess my hoarding experience...and it's not pretty

For reasons too lengthy and boring to write about my ex husband and I decided to carry on sharing our marital home when we split up 10 years ago. The house was big enough for each to have our own space and it was good for the kids to have one home instead of two. 4 years ago ex moved down south with his girlfriend, leaving me in the house and our intention was to sell it, split the proceeds and me buy a smaller place with the now grown up kids. Which is what happened. BUT my ex was a hoarder of all things mechanical and practical. Our 3 large cellar rooms were full to bursting with tools, metal filing cabinets and all sorts of other rusty/ mouldy/ rotten gubbins. The loft (very big) was crammed to the rafters with 20 years worth of kids old clothes, toys, books, my collections of all sorts of things, kept "just in case" Storage spaces in the rooms of the place were crammed with more stuff and duplicates of stuff. It really was a task. Plus the house needed redecorating and sprucing up before it was saleable. It took me 18 months and every spare minute to get it up to scratch but I did it, with the help of my current partner and kids. Ex eventually took some of his carp from the cellar when I threatened to get a skip to sort it. The rest of it, went to the tip, along with endless carloads of other stuff. A charity shop van collected all the kids old stuff from the loft and I took dozens of other things to a friend who works in another charity shop.

I guess what I'm saying here is..it is possible to be a hoarder and not even realise it until it threatens to hold you back. It is equally as possible to free yourself of the clutter and move on to a better life. If I can do it anyone can, and the best thing of all it...I now have a lovely modern house, free of clutter and a tiny loft which makes hoarding up there impossible

Gingernutty

I have a confession to make.....

Yesterday, I was trying to find a temporary home for my Exam notifications (Recently did a Foundation GCSE Maths and got a C) until the certificate arrived.

I have a folder with my exam certificates in little plastic pockets so I don't have to put punched holes in them. Could I find a spare plastic pocket anywhere? Nope. Not one.

I could have sworn I looked everywhere too.

So whilst out shopping, I popped into Wilko's and bought 25 plastic pockets.

After I brought them home and used one, I had to find a home for the other 24.

I had the bright idea of putting the spares in a desk drawer I specifically use for spare stationery.

And what did I find? Hundreds of the beggars! :eek:

I thought I'd got over forgetting I had something (umbrella, stationery, toiletries) and buying another.

I was soooooo annoyed with myself. :mad:

I know it's only 45p, but it's more than I needed and it turned out I didn't need it at all.

OoooooooooH! I thought I was doing so well too! :mad:

littlegreenparrot

I've decided just to let go of the aspirational stuff, what's wrong with being the person I am anyway?
I know rationally that my life won't change if I straighten my hair, and as I've got by perfectly well for 10 years not doing it, why keep the blessed things? They're in the cs bag, along with a loose bottomed cake tin that leaks, and assorted pointless gubbins.
Have thrown out a knackered saucepan, and am going to start using the lovely new one that was a christmas gift (no idea why I didn't do this before)
Cookie cutters are going to my friend, her two little boys will have a lot more fun with them than I will.
Have been eyeing up the (near collapse) bookcase, that might be next up for the cull....

The magazines - A few weeks ago I saw an article in one of those home ones about how to do a 'wonderful display' on a coffee table.
Really? Are their people who don't keep 3 months worth of newspapers/mags/letters/ on the coffee table? It was a revelation!

whitewing

Had to pop to the local supermarket so 9 milk containers and 1 glass bottle went for recycling.

Have a bag of clothes and some photo albums for MIL for charity.

Gave my mum 2 blouses. If I give anything to her I usually tell her if it doesn't fit or she doesn't want it to put it in the recycling clothes bin by the local shop. It gives her permission to get rid otherwise I think she'd keep it regardless.

Am sorting out my confidential waste for the rest of today. Have a cupboard that needs some clearing. I will do what I can today, and then put the rest back in the cupboard for another clearout next weekend. Am going to pace myself and choose to be pleased with what I have done rather than desperately try and do loads.