Whats the next step please?

MissKeith

Woah, what happened here?

Toothfairy4

You felt this way 4-5 months ago yet still went along with creating a life? Woah, you sound like a real catch! Disgusting.

BitterAndTwisted

MissKeith wrote: »

Woah, what happened here?

A fool fell out of love with his wife some time ago and thought that creating a new life together with her would change things. It hasn't. He left three weeks ago, his poor wife is 20 weeks preggo, the house is being marketed, he's miraculously "moved on with his life" and he wants his hands on the equity in order to "support his child".

This thread was only ever gong to go one way, hence the OP having deleted his posts.

Gillyx

That poor women. Id have castrated mine if he done that.

Taadaa

Don't quite understand the point of asking for advice then deleting it. Perhaps he didn't quite understand the gravity of his actions until he saw some of the reactions here. Let's hope he does understand and doesn't continue with his 'I've messed up but I want to extract myself from this as quickly as possible whilst being sympathetic because that makes me feel better' attitude. I suspect his wife has accepted it because she is in shock.

MissKeith

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

A fool fell out of love with his wife some time ago and thought that creating a new life together with her would change things. It hasn't. He left three weeks ago, his poor wife is 20 weeks preggo, the house is being marketed, he's miraculously "moved on with his life" and he wants his hands on the equity in order to "support his child".

This thread was only ever gong to go one way, hence the OP having deleted his posts.

What a scumbag. An utter coward as someone shrewdly noted up thread.

Betty_Crumble

Guys i'm not taking sides but EVERYONE, male or female, has the right to walk away from something they are not happy about. It is sad that the one being left is pregnant but who knows where the relationship would have gone had he stayed and resentment and bitterness had set in. Please dont forget he came on here for advice and not an ear bashing. I'm sure his apparant haste at wanting it all sorted asap is just down to him being a man and im not being sarky, men ARE different and dont show emotions like us women do.

Please dont forget to use all your wisdom to HELPING this member sort this out in a way that is fair to both.

oh and op I'm not excusing you, your timings are way off and it IS a mess, you must ensure that the amount of stress your wife experiences is kept to a minimum and may have to concede on thing you think are 'unfair' but you made that baby and that is something you cannot walk away from.
Good luck to both of you and I really hope your wife gets the support she needs and that you get some help here too.

BitterAndTwisted

I think the OP may not have anticipated that asking about the equity in their house, rather than how he could be kind to his wife and treat her with the utmost decency now that he has so carelessly broken her heart may have brought out the ire of the other posters.

nearlyrich

Been on the other side of this and watched 2 close friends go through it also, not the best thing to happen whilst pregnant but in my opinion (with hindsight) better to find out he is a waste of space as a partner and a father and move on to show him how little he is needed.

Taadaa

Not only broken her heart, but left her with a child she may now feel very differently about for the rest of her life. Seemed fairly easy for him to up sticks and walk off, not so easy for her.

I think he's got off lightly tbh, I've seen people flamed on here for a lot less. (An observation rather than justification!)