Whats the next step please?

jamiev

Please ignore

j.e.j.

What a sad situation.

If there's really no chance your feelings for her/each other can be re-kindled (?) as far as I know there's a 5-year wait between filing for divorce and being granted one. That is if both parties agree to it, and if there are no other reasons for the divorce. Someone correct me if I'm wrong.

With regard to the house, where are your wife and child going to live? Do you have in mind selling and both of you moving out? The timing's not good, with her being almost half-way thru her pregnancy.

tanith

You must of been married for at least a year to apply for divorce and you have to live apart for 2yrs if there are no other grounds..
take a look here it does explain some of it. I agree a sad situation especially as a child will now be involved..

http://www.family-lawfirm.co.uk/divorce-and-separation/how-to-get-a-uk-divorce.aspx

Hovel_lady

This may be helpful...

http://www.wikivorce.com/divorce/

jamiev

Please ignore

BitterAndTwisted

You've only been out of the property for three weeks. And no, you shouldn't need the proceeds of the house to support your child. How were you intending to provide support if you were still there together with your wife and child?

For the time being I think you should do nothing and give her the space and time to come to terms with her radically-changed future. A future having to raise your child alone.

17 weeks between being fully-committed and wanting to make a baby to leaving. Your wife must be totally devastated. For that reason alone I would not do anything whatsoever for the time being. You could risk fanning the flames by being so very premature.

Dunroamin

My first response was "you absolute b@st@rd" but as that wouldn't be considered being "nice to all moneysavers", I won't say it.

pimento

I hope your wife and baby take you for every penny.

Taadaa

Well, I think you are very brave to come on here and ask for advice. the only thing I can think to say is that considering the situation you have left your wife in you should be bending over backwards to make sure you are as supportive and helpful as you can be.

I am 19+5 weeks pregnant and if my husband came in now and told me it was over I'd rip his head off. And see if it wasn't too late for a termination as well just as a possibility to keep my options open. The fact that you have felt like this for a while makes it worse.

Dunroamin

jamiev wrote: »

Please ignore

You coward!

Debt_Free_Chick

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

For the time being I think you should do nothing and give her the space and time to come to terms with her radically-changed future. A future having to raise your child alone.

Completely agree -- jamiev, whilst I understand that you want to "move on" you really have some stuff to deal with here in the current marriage. You have no idea what your wife could be going through - I guarantee she will hide a lot of it from you.

This is rather like leaving a pile of dirty laundry on the floor, whereas it needs to be sorted, washed & put away. The only way to do that is to talk, but your wife may not be ready for that yet - only you can tell.

Please do not underestimate the feelings that abandonment is likely to rouse in women, in general. We often don't show them - it's just an "animal instinct" like reaction to not show our vulnerability.

Very sad, but you've not yet earned the right to move on - sort this out, first, please.