July 2012 Grocery Challenge

Soworried

rising from the ashes, how do you know that the people are grabbing the bargins through greed?
For me it is fear Fear that I won't get better soon, I am on the sick without sick pay from a high paid job. I don't know when I will be able to return, my savings are shrinking at an alarming rate and I really am scared for our future.
If I saw 20p pasta then I would take it as I feel me and my family need it right now. I have never bought reduced food before until the last few weeks. Once I am strong again and back to work then I would not continue to either as I now understand the need some people have.
Please do not judge the people buying them as you do not know the details of their lives.

adelight

I'm so fed up of OH's budget wrecking and laziness! Last night he got in a huff, gave me the silent treatment and spent £15 on junkfood(why?!! he has chocolate and biscuits in the house and i make cake if he asks) which is not coming out of the budget, but as he's the lower earner if he blows all his money I have to make up for it :mad:
He's in a huff with me again today (currently sulking in bed) because when I asked if he wanted to help with dinner (we used to cook together or he would at least help/wash up) and he said "if you do X" which I won't repeat, I told him where to get off! I do everything since we moved- yes I'm not at work atm but even when I'm not here he does nothing. When I got back wednesday after being away for a week (with relatives dealing with stuff that must be done, not a holiday) he hadn't spent tonnes of money but the same stuff was still sitting in the dishwasher and he hadn't done any cleaning or washing at all. He's a grown man FGS, he seems to have regressed since we met two years ago.

I know this is only partly budget related but eeesh sometimes you just have to get it out!! I would usually talk to me mum but she's on a lovely night out that I don't want to interrupt

The whole things made me feel really queasy, I don't think I'll even bother making dinner now.

Soworried

Hi Adelight, Have you told your OH how you feel? It sounds like you feel taken for granted, if so then he needs to know that.
Have some chocolate and leave him to stew for a little while. Then an honest heart to heart Lots of hugs x

adelight

rising_from_the_ashes wrote: »

I'll probably be shot down in flames for this .... I would rather they all did this anyway - as long as the food goes to homeless charities & food banks etc.

TBH the way some people are so greedy, shove people out the way (happens in stores near me) & rude and take way more than can possibly be needed by one family absolutely disgusts me - and it unfortunately extends beyond the YS isle - there were packets of pasta on sale in Mr T last year for around 20p (from memory) and people were taking 50 packets :mad: - seriously. Everyone has a right to benefits from offers and everyone is struggling just as much as the next person ...... (Sorry to those that treat it as it should be).

I completely agree with you, some people are savage and there is no need. How do you know your family are so much more in need than the next that you can push, be rude and take from someone elses basket? I have never been completely desperate (living in a hostel with children with £1 to my name or something equally dire) but I like to think I would not act like an animal towards others in a similar position if I was.

rising_from_the_ashes

MrsCD wrote: »

Rising - I agree with you. If the SMs can be trusted to do it right, it's a good idea to give it to charity. I know a group who collect food and pack it into bags to give out to families who need help. They're vetted by Social Services so only families who really need help get the bags.

That sounds brilliant MrsCD and exactly what I'm trying to get at - something that makes sure those who really need it the most get it - regardless of whether they can manage to be at the sm when the YS are out (as a lot of people can't - too far, no transport etc)

Soworried wrote: »

rising from the ashes, how do you know that the people are grabbing the bargins through greed?

Sorry but clearing a whole shelf of pasta and taking 50 packets is greed - there are others in at least a similar, if not worse position, than everyone is so surely they have just as much right to bargains.

Soworried wrote: »

For me it is fear Fear that I won't get better soon, I am on the sick without sick pay from a high paid job. I don't know when I will be able to return, my savings are shrinking at an alarming rate and I really am scared for our future.

Sorry to hear things are tough and this will sound awful - but how do you know the person standing next to you isn't in an even worse position?

Wishing you a speedy recovery

I honestly don't begrudge people taking YS items - it's the ones as I mentioned before who are rude & greedy and take far more than is necessary that I object to and the reason why I feel that things like MrsCD has mentioned or it all going to charities who will distribute it properly should be explored.

Adelight has put it well below:

adelight wrote: »

I completely agree with you, some people are savage and there is no need. How do you know your family are so much more in need than the next that you can push, be rude and take from someone elses basket?

adelight

Soworried wrote: »

Hi Adelight, Have you told your OH how you feel? It sounds like you feel taken for granted, if so then he needs to know that.
Have some chocolate and leave him to stew for a little while. Then an honest heart to heart Lots of hugs x

I've tried a few times but he shuts down if I'm too "aggressive" but even if I'm very calm too. If he doesn't shut down then he says I interpret things wrong or that I'm imagining it all :eek: Can't bloody win.

Soworried

rising_from_the_ashes wrote: »

Sorry to hear things are tough and this will sound awful - but how do you know the person standing next to you isn't in an even worse position?

Adelight has put it well below:

I don't, but then most days I do not even have the thought function to get dressed at present.
That is what I mean, you are judging that this is a callous act, done with forthought to stop the next person benefiting. You can not possibly know that.

Soworried

Soworried wrote: »

I don't, but then most days I do not even have the thought function to get dressed at present.
That is what I mean, you are judging that this is a callous act, done with forthought to stop the next person benefiting. You can not possibly know that.

Although my post probably proves your point, that I am thinking of just my situation where a non biased charity would think of the most needy case

My apologies x

Kitchenbunny

Evening! I managed an NSD today! There was no way on this Earth I was getting out of the car to go to a supermarket with the rain we've had. I've never driven in such conditions and quite scared myself. Still, didn't spend anything, and am confident I don't need to buy anything over the weekend

Tea tonight was baguette pizzas. 2 x part-baked baguettes spread with passata (with some herbs & garlic in), topped with grated cheese, chopped bacon and some sliced mushrooms. Yum!

K xx

jumblejack

Soworried, I hope you get better soon

Being ill with no sick pay must be a real concern