Child unwell at school and no one noticed

gibson123

Gingham_R wrote: »

Is he Scottish?

We say 'hinging wi something' (hing as in hang, not hinge) and it means similar, but possibly coming down with something.

LOl he is Indian / Scots, sounds a bit like Javeed from Still Game

zoesmummy_2006

i had same with dd today, she was off yesterday with a high temp, her whole body was burning to touch, she had sore throat and spent the day lay on the sofa, generally on me!!! Unfortunately im divorced from my kids dad and wednesday is his night to have them, i explained about dd being ill and he was still happy to have her, so i gave him list of meds she had taken/needed still and told him to bring her home if she was still ill this morning. He decided she was fine, text me saying she was ok and he was taking her to school, so i asked him to be sure to tell the teacher to call me if she was at all unwell again.

Upon picking her up this avo from school, I saw straight away dd was ill, she has an olive complexion but the only way i could describe her tonight was jaundiced!!!! she was burning hot to touch again and her teacher told me she'd been lethargic and not herself all day and that she had been going to call me..........but didnt.

Since getting home she has just curled up on me, dozed off just after 4 in my arms, woke and had a few spoons of chicken soup with some bread for tea with an icepole for her throat. Ive got the temp back down again, and shes been fast asleep in my bed for the last couple hours. My best mate was here with her 2 kids and as she left she said she's never seen my dd look so ill

Im annoyed that the teacher said she was going to call me to collect her but didnt, i had thought of calling to check on her during the day but thought best not to bother the school secretary, and that they'd call me if dd was ill, but obviously not.

Looks like a day for it today huh........

primaryteacher

I agree this should have been picked up on, by teacher and/or dinner ladies and fed back to the class teacher. From the other side of the fence, children can slip through the net sometimes! Do take it up - but please as another poster said, tread carefully.
The parents who garner most respect from teachers are those who have obvious parental concerns but who discuss things with them rationally rather than jumping in aggressively or going straight over their heads. Have a word with the teacher first and ascertain the full circumstances before firing off any letters! Parents can get worse reputations in schools than the children!!
We have a system where on our staff room wall are laminated sheets for each class with pictures of children in that class with any conditions - from asthma to allergies etc. Their ailment is written up next to their picture, so everyone can take notice. It helps keep those with special conditions at the forefront of your mind - especially if they complain of feeling ill. If your daughters condition is only written in her file somewhere it can be very easily forgotten about when there is so much else to think about!
I hope she feels better soon.

grass_is_greener

gibson123 wrote: »

I would have a quiet word with the teacher when you take her back to school, I am almost certain she will be dismayed that she missed this. However do not be too hard on them. Wee ones seem to run out of steam at this time of year, they are often feeling tired and out of sorts, you may have noticed your own wee one getting grumpy even when quite well. Sometimes a few quiet minutes and the sore tummy, head, sore throat, or feeling sick goes away. My doctor has hos own word for it, he calls it "hingy", which means nothing much wrong just out of sorts. obviously this is not the case with your daughter, but I can understand why the teachers missed the seriousness of this.

Thank you, yes you are right. I like 'hingy', we have had that one before!

I am very glad that I posted on here before sending the ranting email to the head teacher that I had planned out in my head, I think I can just see what could have happened in my mind and that scares the hell out of me. I have always been there when she has fitted in the past, be that at home or hospital and thinking of it happening when it could be prevented angered me. I do know that they would never do anything to intentionally harm her though and I think just a quiet word should suffice instead of going in all guns blazing.

Gingham_R

A quiet word is great, all guns blazing probably isn't, but something in writing and definitely something to the new teacher in September is a really useful thing to do.

Having had endless problems with new teachers not knowing about my eldest son's special needs because his file hasn't been passed on to them, I know how important it is to make sure that things that SHOULD be passed on actually ARE.

gibson123

I am very glad that I posted on here before sending the ranting email to the head teacher that I had planned out in my head, I think I can just see what could have happened in my mind and that scares the hell out of me.

We have ALL worn that t-shirt!! Scares the hell out of you,doesn't it.. i am a very calm person and good in an emergency, but with my own child all sense goes out of my head and panic set in. Get some rest and I hope the wee mite is better soon. hugs to you too

dizziblonde

Could also be what used to drive me consistently barmy when I had my last class - I'd send a child who I knew not to be a habitual malingerer and was looking green at the gils to the office to get someone to call home (no phone in class, no ability to leave the classroom, on yard duty at break so not possible for me to do it then) and depending on if the resident battleaxe (no good other word to describe this wretched woman who'd do anything to avoid work interfering with her ebay habit) was in the office or one of the more cooperative staff... child would get bounced straight back to me with a "Mrs X says I'm not ill enough to go home and just to sit quietly in the classroom"... and Mrs X would refuse to call home for the entire duration of the day.

And these were obviously ill, clearly in danger of upchuck children - but the witch wouldn't ring home because it would take 5 minutes effort from her.

Of course then the parents would come in cheesed off and wanting blood - and funnily she'd happily wave them alllll down to the classroom to shred the teacher who'd spent most of the morning trying to get the ill child sent home! Professionalism prevented us from sending the irate parent straight back up to the office - but boy oh boy did I winge about it to the head on numerous occasions but this woman was untouchable - for she was the only one who knew where the key to the stationery cupboard was hidden!

Mrs_Imp

When I was about 10, my best friend and I felt sick and generally unwell. We told the teacher and were sent to the sick room. To cheer ourselves up we started telling jokes (better than staring at a bucket wondering if lunch would reappear). This was spotted by another teacher and we were sent back to the classroom because 'we were too cheerful to be unwell'. We both had the next week off with a vomitting bug.

It may be that your daughter felt unwell, but tried to 'struggle on' so that she didn't feel so bad.

Have a quiet word with the teacher and find out what happened. And make sure your daughter knows to make more of a fuss next time.

I hope she's feeling better soon.

faerie~spangles

skypie123 wrote: »

Are you for real? :eek:

Of course I am.

Mum didn't see any reason to keep her little one off school. I'm sure mum would have noticed if she'd been unwell.

Little one told her teacher and class room assistant that she felt poorly. They told her to sit in the quiet corner, more than likely because she seemed ok.

By the time mum picked little one up she was upset and when mum and little one got home she'd developed a temperature

I fail to see why mum feels she should go to the school and make a complaint.

bigmomma051204

Personally i would make a bit of a thing by asking the teacher invloved to please notify me in future etc etc and make it clear by your tone that you arent happy that they havent this time round....


BTW - As for the person who said that teachers are educators and not nursemaids etc...i have truly not heard such a ridiculous statement in a LONG time. What precisely do you think teachers have if not a duty of care to the children they spend 5 days a week with.

Legal definition of "Duty of Care" - "a requirement that a person act toward others and the public with watchfulness, attention, caution and prudence that a reasonable person in the circumstances would." Got it?? Or does it need to be simplified?