step daughter had baby has to stay in for 5 days

thepenniescount

I had a home birth and baby and I had to go into hospital for 5 days as he pooped inside me and needed a course of antibiotics in case of infection - so really could be a simple explanation.

DylanO

duchy wrote: »

I was told I had to stay in for 5 days when my son was born-I thought it only applied to him and popped out for milk the second day home and got roundly scolded by the midwife -so it may not be as unusual as you think........although I don't suppose that'll stop you thinking the worst of your husband's daughter by the sound of it so please don't let me spoil your fun .

You weren't kept in hospital then, were you?;)

amyloofoo

Could be that they're watching the baby for withdrawal symptoms... but could be that they want to keep mum in for observations for something as routine as blood pressure. Best way to find out is to ask

I can understand your concerns and scepticism given the events you've described, but think of the impact your doubt (if expressed badly or misconstrued) could have on a new mum who's in a vulnerable position if she really has gone to rehab and turned her life around.

tyllwyd

Things have probably moved on since I had my first baby 12 years ago, but I stayed several days in a community hospital while they made sure sure I was breastfeeding OK, knew how to bathe the baby etc. If there are concerns about your stepdaughter, perhaps they might want to make sure she is coping OK before she goes home?

coolcait

chipsdog wrote: »

I;m sure there is a story here my husband is not being told.

But, if the stepdaughter is an adult, and able to deal with her own affairs, there is no reason why your husband should be told anything about the reaons why she is staying in hospital for five days.

"Both mum and baby are fine" is a phrase which seems to be used for any circumstances short of immediate life-threatening situations.

A friend of mine was described as 'fine', after having lost so much blood that she needed a transfusion, and was kept in for observation.

Another friend was described as 'fine' after she had torn so badly during the birth that she was kept in for observation and to be pumped full of antibiotics. Close as she was to her dad, I don't think she ever felt able to tell him "Dad, they're keeping me in, because your grandson took a 'slash and burn' approach to my lady garden on his way out...".

A family member was kept in for more than five days because she had had pre-eclampsia. She was also described as 'fine' :eek: (I guess that came with a subtext of 'under the circumstances').

There are umpteen reasons why she might be kept in. But, I get the impression that you had already decided what the reason is - even before you posted.

minimad1970

I was kept in for 5 days as my son had jaundice.

whitewing

Why do you want to know?

In our local hospital, parents are kept fully informed of their situation, so I perhaps if you don't know they may not want to discuss it with you at the moment.

For my DS, jaundice kept us in for a week. For my DD, they wanted us to stay to help establish breastfeeding but I wanted to be home so we did leave.

SingleSue

I was kept in for 7 days, partly to keep an eye on eldest son and the risk of diabetes but mainly because I bled horribly after delivery and needed a transfusion and was generally not ok to be let out due to damage done.

got-it-spend-it

It could be to ensure that the baby is feeding well given the relatively low birth weight, it could that they suspect PND or bonding issues, it could be that she had some gynae issues such as cutting/tearing that she is too embarrassed to tell your OH about. Is she young? It might be that they want to increase her confidence looking after baby. They could be treating baby for jaundice or any number of things. I really don't think 5 days is abnormal for a first baby.

heretolearn_2

The hospital rightly won't tell a relative information on any problems ash she has the right to confidentiality. It's not that they are deliberately withholding information from him to be difficult or cover up for something. 'Fine' is what all relatives are told about all patients in all situations.

I really would NOT be able to discuss any personal details about my ladybits with my mum and dad. Friends, probably yes, but family, no. It's not logical but I would be embarrassed. So it could be all sorts of things...maybe the birth has caused some damage to her and she needs to stay in, maybe there's an infection, maybe all sorts of things....

It could equally well be something related to the drugs/social services, true. I do hope for everyone's sake that it isn't and I can see why you are both worrying 'in case'.

But don't start leaping to conclusions just because she isn't telling you why. It could be something entirely innocent she just doesn't want to discuss with her dad. So ... wait and see and enjoy the baby in the meantime.

P.S. In the 80s it was common practise to keep first time mums in either for 5 or 7 days so they could rest, bond with baby, spend a week in the company of other baby-obsessed women, establish feeding etc. I appreciated it up to about day 4 then started getting stir crazy but I still can't imagine having to come home to cope within a few hours of giving birth! Maybe this is still the policy at some hospitals?