Nice people thread part 6 - thrice by twice as nice :)

Generali

I feel terrible for you and your sons SingleSue however, without wishing to sound insensitive, is a mainstream school the best place for your kids to be?

I would find it very difficult to manage someone with the range of health problems your eldest has for example let alone deal with them as a teacher who sees perhaps 150 different kids each week.

I ask this as a genuine question rather than trying to make a point either way.

vivatifosi

Sue, I know you have visited the school, but how about visiting the Head again to hand deliver a letter? In the letter, give a reasonable timescale to put things right (say one week given that it really needs to be imminent) and state exactly what you will do if you have to take matters further - for example involving the local authorities.

In the meeting, say you are disappointed that nothing has been done to address the sons' needs and that you are hand delivering the letter so that there is clarity as to what is needed and what you expect to happen.

If they then ignore that, it will be far harder for the school to claim that they weren't aware.

PasturesNew

In my day .... you'd just be expelled
I came very close ... several times.

SingleSue

Generali wrote: »

I feel terrible for you and your sons SingleSue however, without wishing to sound insensitive, is a mainstream school the best place for your kids to be?

I would find it very difficult to manage someone with the range of health problems your eldest has for example let alone deal with them as a teacher who sees perhaps 150 different kids each week.

I ask this as a genuine question rather than trying to make a point either way.

James' problems are easily dealt with to be honest.....don't expect him to rush between schools and accept that sometimes he can't run around like a madman in lessons and that is pretty much it, so no real biggie.

Middle son is again quite easy, give written instructions rather than verbal, be clear (i.e. don't expect him to read between the lines, he will take what you say literally) and allow him to relax by doing something musical in break/lunchtime...oh and speak up as he has a hearing deficit.

Youngest however, should never have been in a mainstream high school because of his difficulties, unfortunately, his IQ was too high to go where he should have gone, although they never actually tested his IQ!

At the moment, it is poor communication which is causing the problems, middle son has been there since the 1st year and he is now 5th year and it has only been a major problem this term. James, there is a bit of an excuse as he has only had his diagnosis for a couple of years or so along with the fact that none of the teachers had actually heard about EDS, let alone POTS or GERD and the impact it has on him as he looks so healthy and doesn't make an issue out of it when he has a dislocation (he just pops it back in while everyone is running around like a blue bottomed fly in panic :rotfl:)

Things have changed since the schools became an Academy, it has gone from a child centered place of education to one where everything is about money and to hell with the wellbeing of the students, if something can be cut, they will cut it...hence not enough TA's to cover the statements, no training being given to staff so that they understand ASD's and none of the close parent/teacher relationship which was so encouraged under the previous headship.

It was said the schools were failing a few years back (they had been but then the head had turned them around to above average results), well if that was failing, this is completely and utterly failed.

lostinrates

I had threading this morning. Its amazing. To any nice ladies who fancy trying it i strongly recommend over any other method i have tried. The draw back is you cannot do it to your self i don't think. I am foing to try and get dh to learn....he tried before but got bored.


I also discovered mpghe junior hairdresser at my new salon is a stone mason. How cool is that? Anyway, he is foing to come and look at the fireplace thats been blocked up when we reopen it and make the surround for me hopefully. (i wonder if i can gety him to wash my hair or give me a head massage while he is here too)

lostinrates

I would love always to be given written instructions.

It has previously annoyed some employers when i have taken notes of what they are saying as they say it, then quickly run it back at them. I usually find this is because they are speaking out of the top of their heads and don't want this to be found out.

Initiative is fine when you know the ropes, but unless the basic steps are understood what seems like initiative can be a massive mistake, so i like to know the basics and have them to refer to.

I sympathise with sues middle son on this.

Wheezy_2

wheezy westie is 2 today.

Nikkster

Wheezy wrote: »

wheezy westie is 2 today.

Happy Birthday Wheezydog! The material in the background makes it look like he is at a photoshoot (this is where you tell me that that was his birthday present or something)

Wheezy_2

Nikkster wrote: »

Happy Birthday Wheezydog! The material in the background makes it look like he is at a photoshoot (this is where you tell me that that was his birthday present or something)

That's the throw on the sofa to protect it from westie paws, he likes to scratch and dig..
Also good catch for westie puke when he's been eating grass again, or westie dribble when he gets overexcited with a bone or rawhide.

PasturesNew

Wheezy wrote: »

That's the throw on the sofa to protect it from westie paws, he likes to scratch and dig..
Also good catch for westie puke when he's been eating grass again, or westie dribble when he gets overexcited with a bone or rawhide.

It's handy that Mrs Wheezy kept that, from when she first met you