Nice people thread part 6 - thrice by twice as nice :)

Nikkster

zagubov wrote: »

If you can't go, can I suggest that a thoughtfully worded hand-written letter about how good a friend she was and the positive impact she had on your llife would be a godsend to her parents /family.

It's the people left behind we should think about. It won't matter to them at all that you're not religious, just that you were a friend. If you can celebrate her worth and contribution to your life, that will go some way to helping her family see her life as rich and complete rather than brief and over.

This is lovely.

CKhalvashi

misskool wrote: »

i'm still working

I'm technically still working; with 2 kids with me

My girls are at a Russian school and things like this come under the curriculum (we're a large music services supplier for the school), and probably half the Georgians at the school are here......

Nightmare!

CK

misskool

right, this is stupid, i'm going to stop now and finish it tomorrow before the deadline

MiddyMum

zagubov wrote: »

If you can't go, can I suggest that a thoughtfully worded hand-written letter about how good a friend she was and the positive impact she had on your llife would be a godsend to her parents /family.

It's the people left behind we should think about. It won't matter to them at all that you're not religious, just that you were a friend. If you can celebrate her worth and contribution to your life, that will go some way to helping her family see her life as rich and complete rather than brief and over.

Thank you Zagubov, I will definately write that letter if I can't go. That's a really thoughtful idea.

zagubov

misskool wrote: »

right, this is stupid, i'm going to stop now and finish it tomorrow before the deadline

Until I had kids, I always found I got most work done by getting up obscenely early rather than working late while the clock hands accelerate and my work rate slows down to a crawl.

Good luck!;)

SingleSue

I am the opposite, I find studying etc much better and easier at 2 in the morning than I do at say 6 or 7 in the morning.

chewmylegoff

Nikkster wrote: »

Yes, it was tds and I have it back. This is last thing I will deal with, and this is only out of politeness as I made a mistake in not telling them myself that I was leaving (well, it was supposed to he both of us leaving).

I am just about out of polite now, and wish I had told them where R.E.M. go when they first asked for money as I am sure I didn't sign the last contract. Should have kept a copy of it for myself, I only twigged that I hadn't signed after I had paid.

I don't think they could threaten me with legal anything tbh?? Although I guess I was technically subletting?

You don't need to sign to be on the hook. If your name is on the tenancy agreement and you paid rent from an account with your name on it the you may have formed a contract with them. If you've done that then you could be jointly and severably liable for all unpaid rent. Terminating a joint tenancy isn't as easy as saying you've moved out and the other tenant is now liable for the whole rent - that's not how the law works as far as I understand it. I do think it's worth explaining your situation on the buying and renting board you will get some good advice on there.

PasturesNew

I deleted this .... which will annoy those that missed it ... however, you missed nothing of value, interest or importance.

Nikkster

chewmylegoff wrote: »

You don't need to sign to be on the hook. If your name is on the tenancy agreement and you paid rent from an account with your name on it the you may have formed a contract with them. If you've done that then you could be jointly and severably liable for all unpaid rent. Terminating a joint tenancy isn't as easy as saying you've moved out and the other tenant is now liable for the whole rent - that's not how the law works as far as I understand it. I do think it's worth explaining your situation on the buying and renting board you will get some good advice on there.

Ah yes, should have thought of that - have read enough about that working the other way (where people want a contract). The rent never went from my account straight to theirs. But at any rate, when I was told there were arrears I covered the unpaid rent so that is no longer an issue.
The moving out bit was more complicated - we were on a rolling tenancy after the AST had lapsed (ll were trying to sell flat so worked for them too). As far as I knew (and I have admitted that I should have done it myself), we had given 2 months notice to both leave - I did. Surely if I had properly terminated my contract then I would not be liable after that?

Anyhow, rent is not an issue as I sorted that, as far as I know it is just these small items. After the deposit has been returned with a small deduction that they requested and I did not challenge - I thought that was the end of it (that is what a deposit is for?). I will be making sure they put in writing (i.e. not just over the phone) when this is settled (which I am sure will take me settling it rather than anyone else). I am sorry that they were inconvenienced, but I'm not prepared for them to bring things up in a trickle of one thing at a time.

Spirit_2

Pastures - if any of it rubs off on you I just want you to know how much you have always meant to me, and that we will be best friends forever.

take care
always yours

Spirit x