More wedding stuff!

macchicken

hey there! yeah im in scotland, morayshire.

Theres a wedding fare in the Acee on the 23rd and 24th of april. Try https://www.thebestscottishweddings.co.uk for more info.

I looked at that tree house suit too! It was georgeous!!!!!!!!!! Mr macchicken to be said to forget the wedding and just go there for the night!

I know u can hire Dornie castle (way up north) for your wedding and get married in the catheadral across the road (where madona and guy had rocco christened) or they have a beautiful rose garden!

Is there a nice park near you or public gardens, weather dependant oviously!


happy hunting

lynneinjapan

Noozan,

I presume you're talking about the Botanical Gardens in Edinburgh? I know they do entire wedding packages at the gardens in Birmingham, and in Scotland it's the celebrant (minister/priest/registrar) that has to be licensed, not the venue, so I imagine there's no reason why you can't have your ceremony there as long as (a) they'll allow you to use the place and (b) the registrar will agree to attend!

Being in Scotland, you could even have an outdoor wedding at a local beauty spot in the countryside, and maybe have the reception in a nearby village hall or something. The obvious drawback on that idea is that you can't guarantee dry weather! I remember reading an article about a couple who had their wedding half way up a mountain. Fortunately the weather held for them!

katiepops_2

When my sister remarried, she did it at Westminster Registry Office with just our Mum and Dad, and her hubby's Mum. Admittedly I was upset not to be invited (there are five of us in our family, plus other halves and kids, and even more than that on Phil's side), but by all accounts they had a fabulous day, with a very good photographer and a nice meal in a top restaurant, and then had a reception a few weeks afterwards for everyone else.

Undoubtedly if you don't invite all of your immediate family you will offend someone, but even if you do invite them all you're still bound to offend someone somewhere along the line (a wedding isn't a wedding without a disagreement!). At the end of the day, it's YOUR day ... there would be nothing wrong with having a quiet wedding with both sets of parents and your OH's daughter ... then have a big party in a pub later for everyone else. Much much cheaper than having the works - if you have your party in a pub function room (also try local British Legion type places) you could probably get the buffet of your dreams - and presumably it wouldn't be as expensive as hiring out a local restaurant for the food you want?

Above all, do what makes YOU happy, be that a big white wedding or a small quiet ceremony with fish and chips afterwards!

Kate

Noozan

lynneinjapan wrote:

Noozan,

I presume you're talking about the Botanical Gardens in Edinburgh? I know they do entire wedding packages at the gardens in Birmingham, and in Scotland it's the celebrant (minister/priest/registrar) that has to be licensed, not the venue, so I imagine there's no reason why you can't have your ceremony there as long as (a) they'll allow you to use the place and (b) the registrar will agree to attend!

Being in Scotland, you could even have an outdoor wedding at a local beauty spot in the countryside, and maybe have the reception in a nearby village hall or something. The obvious drawback on that idea is that you can't guarantee dry weather! I remember reading an article about a couple who had their wedding half way up a mountain. Fortunately the weather held for them!

Yes, the Botanical Gardens in Edinburgh. I've had a look on their website and you can just have a photography package for £175 which I think is very reasonable. You can also hire several different sized rooms and/or a lawn area for a marquee. I wasn't aware that in Scotland, it was the celebrant that had to be licensed not the venue. That would make it so much easier! Thanks for that. Knowing that, it opens up alot more options for us.

Since neither of us drink and neither do most of our immediate family (except my youngest brother), we didn't think it was too important to be anywhere with a bar, so a garden would be ok.

We're not into disco type things (neither is family) so we were thinking of a meal in a nice restaurant - which, if we are in Edinburgh, shouldn't be too difficult.

I just want a quiet affair really, the most important thing is marrying the man I love so dearly and have been through so much with.

How long do you think it would take to plan, etc? Bearing in mind, I want the Gardens, simple dress (easier said than done though, lol), simple flowers, no cake, no fancy car entourage, no church, no bridesmaids/best man etc, would it just be a case of making sure venue is ok and asking someone to marry us? OH is divorced but other than a letter from his lawyer to this effect, he doesn't have any other documentation, is this correct? I always thought you got a certificate of some description. (scottish law?) How much notice do we need to give the relevant powers that be of our intention to marry? Sorry I have so many questions; I may be back with more

macchicken

https://www.weddingguide.co.uk/articles/legal/scotland.asp
This web site should tell you all you need to know!

Savvy_Sue

Noozan wrote:

How long do you think it would take to plan, etc?

I think I was only engaged for 3 months (long time ago now) but only had to book local church and hall. Getting a 'venue' like the botanical gardens might take a bit longer, although if you're prepared to go for a weekday you probably won't have to book so long in advance. Made my dress, didn't have fancy invitations, organised a Bring Your Own buffet, organised musicians for service, asked a friend to take photos, had another friend with a v. nice white car, chose hymns night before ... no sweat.

daveboy

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/uk/4406019.stm

A very good hint is to ensure the place you get married actually has a licence to do so.

I pity the poor 80 couples who might have to do it all over again.

hohm

Hi

Will be getting married next year in July in Ireland...

We're going to set up a website and instead of a wedding present list, we'll have a few options of things guests can bring, such as flowers, candles, alcohol, etc... or they can donate to a charity or donate to our honeymoon fund.
On the website we'll have a place where people can let us know if they can bring some music or entertainment...
Also if they can give a lift to anyone to get to the venue...
Also will have directions & local B&Bs...

We're hiring a house and going to do it up ourselves...
Rooms in the house can be for paying guests to cover some of the costs...
Food - from local restaurant frozen and hire 2 or 3 local waiting staff to heat up and serve buffet style
Drink - quick trip to France in a van for wine and champagne - will state on the invitations that wine is provided so people can bring their own type of alcohol if they want
Children - we'll set up a few little tents with fairy lights and some games and cushions so they can have an area to play or sleep or just get away from the adults if it all gets a bit boring for them
Music - any friend that plays anything will be asked!
Bridesmaids - having a few and will ask them to buy a dress in a particular colour but the style and price is up to them so they are really buying an outfit they can wear again and again that suits them - as opposed to a one style suits all kinda thing
Ceremony - we'll be using ideas from pagan wedding ceremonies and making some stuff up

Just a quickie note from me that may help you in some way.

Best of luck to you & for your wedding day
Ida

nadnad

Hi there
Try http://www.comlongon.co.uk/ its a beautiful castle - my cousin got married there very reasonably priced for the whole package - the website has a wedding cost calculator.

I got married in Mexico last November to save on the hassle of a wedding over here rather than the expense - we just spent the oney we would otherwise have spent on a month long holiday it was fantastic! We had eight guests - they all would have been going on holiday anyway and so it wasn't like they had to pay much extra to go to our wedding (although we initially thought that no one would go!). Thinking back I'm glad my mum was there I saw some couples getting married by themselves and they looked so lonely afterwards kinda like "right we married what do we do now!".

bylromarha

My friends hired a beautiful church hall, and arranged food from Domino's Pizza + cream cakes from greggs bakery. Drinks bought from Makro.

have to say it's one of the best weddings hubby and I have been to...except our own of course.

I know it's harsh to say this but it really is your wedding and as long as you do what you want, other people need to accept your decisions and zip it if they disagree with you.