Such a mug

hazyjo

How long was he with her?

When you asked him about his last 'date', he was probably replying when his last 'first date' was. If I'd been with someone for say a year, then split up with them for a year, if you asked me how long ago my last date was, I'd probably say it was a couple of years ago.

Men aren't always as sensitive as us girlies - he probably went to that place with her, liked it, and wanted to take you. I've been to places with people I've been to with exes. Haven't always told them. Been to Prague with several different BFs over the years - and would go again if with anyone else. I might say I've been 9 times with different people (friends too in that number, not all BFs!), but I wouldn't feel the need to list every one.

Your gut instict told you there was something between them. Well, it was right - there was something between them. I've had 'a thing' with someone from work before (just one full on kiss, but we'd been out a few times). That was 5 years ago and we still get the pee taken out of us (nobody knows about the kiss, they just know we have some sort of connection, get on, still go out for drinks together, still talk to each other over anyone else at work...). There have been rumours, assumptions, questions... I would tell any future BF that I was going out for a drink with just him and, if asked, would say we'd kissed once and just get on very well.

My husband has been out with women from work - only as friends, I think, but I know he was keen on a couple before I came along. It does make you feel a bit awkward and you can't help that niggling jealousy feeling, but if things didn't work out (or didn't even happen), you have to understand/realise that it was not meant to be with that person. If they split up, the chances are there was a reason! It might have fizzled out, but that generally happens when neither really gives two hoops about each other. Was probably a bit of a casual thing and maybe he's embarrassed about it, or maybe he knows you're a bit on the jealous side and he's still working with her and doesn't want to make things awkward between you...

It's difficult to know what to say/do. You've only been with him for a few months and it takes a LONG time to build up trust.

I usually say trust your gut instinct, but I've a feeling yours might just be a tad out on this occasion insofar as this particular girl goes.

Not to say he's not still in contact with others he's known for a while! Where did you two meet? Obviously if through a dating site, internet or something, I'd be treading very carefully for a while if he's cagey with his phone.

Jx

FatVonD

Maryland_Cookie wrote: »

I have met this girl and feel a mug that I'd got no idea when I met her that they had been having a relationship. We were also in a group of people who all knew they had been together.

That bit would have peed me off too.

What is it they're collecting that needs her to go, is it something she knows lots about?

ikkle87

If there was something going on between them then surely she wouldn't be happy at being introduced to his girlfriend? A lot of my close friends are people I have had feelings for or a drunken kiss on night out, I still spend time with them now, it doesn't mean that anything is still going on, it just means they are some of the people I am closest to and that I like to spend time with.

He asked you to go with him to pick this item up and you couldn't, it's not like he purposefully set out to just exclude you from the situation, maybe she's the only person with a car who was free at the time.

beautiful_ravens

Depends on the guy. Ive known blokes where this [going off with an ex] would bother me a lot, and some that Id totally trust and it would be no problem.. So, gut instinct seems to be the order of the day!