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  • Lotus-eater
    Lotus-eater Posts: 10,789 Forumite
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    JethroUK wrote: »
    You must be the only one that is - apart from the OP that is desperate to believe it's not what it transparently appears to be
    I'm confused about what the guy is supposed to have done? Maybe you can spell it out for me.
    Freedom is not worth having if it does not include the freedom to make mistakes.
  • NoLongerLurking_2
    NoLongerLurking_2 Posts: 26 Forumite
    Maryland Cookie - TALK TO YOUR PARTNER

    As far as I can tell, he hasn't actually lied. He said he hadn't dated in ages, which was true as he dated this woman years ago. He didn't mention when you went away for his birthday that he'd been there previously with another woman (would you let him know that if the situation was reversed?).

    Personally I am very private about my past relationships, up to a point. There seems no point in making my partner worry without reason. I would not, however, lie. He didn't have to tell you they had dated, but he did as he was going to see her and he wanted to be honest with you.

    Talk to him, find out his reasons. If you want full disclosure, ask for it. If you don't want him to go, tell him that (personally I don't believe in trying to keep someone faithful by curtailing their activities, but all relationships are different). Be honest. If he doesn't like it he's either up to something or possibly just not the guy for you.

    But finally, and most importantly - DON'T STAND FOR ANY NONSENSE!!!!
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  • C_Mababejive
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    JethroUK wrote: »
    You must be the only one that is - apart from the OP that is desperate to believe it's not what it transparently appears to be

    No..I'm confused too...!
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  • Sambucus_Nigra
    Sambucus_Nigra Posts: 8,669 Forumite
    Me three - can't see what he is supposed to have actually done.
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  • Debt_Free_Chick
    Debt_Free_Chick Posts: 13,276 Forumite
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    Two things for you to think about.

    Women, in particular, tend to be insecure in the early stages of a relationship, so it's all too easy to link things together and ... reach the wrong conclusion!

    And, many men are oblivious to the kind of situations that can !!!!! a girl's insecurity. Like spending time with an ex!!
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  • heretolearn_2
    heretolearn_2 Posts: 3,565 Forumite
    or me

    is it these two things:

    He thinks 1-2 years ago is 'ages ago' and you don't. Really, this is a very little detail to fall out over.

    He is meeting his ex-girlfriend tomorrow. He has told you this, it's not a secret. Do you know why they are meeting? Do you suspect he is still seeing her behind your back, is that what you are upset about?
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  • Lotus-eater
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    Thank goodness for that, it's not just me then. I was reading the thread and thinking, there must be something I can't see here, as everyone seems to be acting like he's been caught with his pants down...........

    When he hasn't done anything!
    Freedom is not worth having if it does not include the freedom to make mistakes.
  • DonaldTrumpsHair
    DonaldTrumpsHair Posts: 51 Forumite
    Go with your instinct. Less heartache in the long run and there are plenty more fish in the sea.
  • asparagus1968
    asparagus1968 Posts: 1,787 Forumite
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    Lotus-eater wrote: »
    Thank goodness for that, it's not just me then. I was reading the thread and thinking, there must be something I can't see here, as everyone seems to be acting like he's been caught with his pants down...........

    When he hasn't done anything!

    yep,me too!
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  • Carl31
    Carl31 Posts: 2,616 Forumite
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    I cant see hes doing anything wrong, in fact, surely the fact he is being open about who he is seeing tomorrow is better than hiding it surely?

    As someone said, i think some people are immediately suspicious from day one, unfortunately i think if thats the case, things are doomed to fail, no matter what this guy is or isnt doing
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