How to make friends

sistafromanothermista

As question above really, moved to area a few yrs ago and have never made any real 'friends'.
I have aquaintances but don't see them outside of the work environment (Only 3 staff where i work) I have tried a google search for a friend forum but most of them seem to be dating forums (happily married thankyou)

Anyone on here know of any platonic female friend forums? would be nice to share a gossip with sometimes :(

(Believe it or not this is a really embarrassing thing to admit!:()

Any help/advice much appreciated

BlueC

get some interests, join some clubs, and meet similarly like-minded people to yourself who enjoy doing similar things. then you'll make some friends.

sistafromanothermista

BlueC wrote: »

get some interests, join some clubs, and meet similarly like-minded people to yourself who enjoy doing similar things. then you'll make some friends.

As an idea, a good one, in practice with working full time and having 2 teenagers i just haven't got time the gym is hardly the best place to find friends either (everyone has their ipods in me incl:D)
I was thinking an online friendship would be best due to not really having any interests! that sounds awful but true, unless you count reading?
Thanks for the suggestion though:)

jinty271

sistafromanothermista wrote: »

As an idea, a good one, in practice with working full time and having 2 teenagers i just haven't got time the gym is hardly the best place to find friends either (everyone has their ipods in me incl:D)
I was thinking an online friendship would be best due to not really having any interests! that sounds awful but true, unless you count reading?
Thanks for the suggestion though:)

I agree ! It is actually harder than it looks, especially when you move to a new area, and even more so if the area where you relocate to is not one of the big cities, where people are more transient and open to new connections. Even joining groups and attempting to socialise, people already seem to have their set circle of long-standing friends, associates, or family members to mix with, and see any new attempts of friendship as a breach of these boundaries.

I shall view replies to your OP with interest !:T

sistafromanothermista

jinty271 wrote: »

I agree ! It is actually harder than it looks, especially when you move to a new area, and even more so if the area where you relocate to is not one of the big cities, where people are more transient and open to new connections. Even joining groups and attempting to socialise, people already seem to have their set circle of long-standing friends, associates, or family members to mix with, and see any new attempts of friendship as a breach of these boundaries.

I shall view replies to your OP with interest !:T

Definately agree. It's really hard as people you speak to say 'oh me and my mates are off here tonight...' and you think 'can i come?'
like being the last one to be picked for PE:(
Quite sad that i've reached the age i am with no best mate

jinty271

Aw it is not nice ! I have a couple of " best mates", friends I have had for 20+ years... but due to my husband's work, I have had to relocate. I meet up with them a couple of times a year, but now that I have no School Run to I have not been able to make new connections. I have made about 5 genuine real good friends through this forum though, and I will be watching for responses to your post for some more handy tips

Sambucus_Nigra

What are you and your new friends going to talk about if you have no interests? That could be part of the problem!

sistafromanothermista

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

What are you and your new friends going to talk about if you have no interests? That could be part of the problem!

Kids, annoying husbands (;)) money worries, general funny things that happen in life

Ich_2

It's an interesting quandry, the join a club route is what I went down when I moved to where I live - 28 years ago!
For various reasons and events it was a total failure even getting involved with other community organisations.
It was only the internet and me finding a particular site by chance that the concept of friends actually occurred.
OK the nearest is about 2 hours away and others in distant continents, but they are friends for all of that. One or two of the UK individuals have become very close. (though there has been a failure or two along the way!!

psychopathbabble

I have no idea where you are but what about joining a Womens Institute or Ladies Circle. They have a fairly good social life, I don't know about WI but Circle meets every fortnight and do social things plus raise money for charity.

theoldcynic

If you do decide you'd like to try something in real life, this site is good https://www.meetup.com (it covers UK too). Just type in an interest or even 'mum' and your area and see what comes up. Or just type in your area/postcode in the appropriate box and see what's about if a particular interest doesn't spring to mind.

There's so much to be found and most of them i find don't require some form of regular attendance. You may find you only need to go to some once or twice and you end up swapping numbers/email addresses and things go from there.

On that site in my area there is a local 'friends' group that describes themselves as a group for locals to meet up that may be new to the area or just simply want to expand their social circle. They just arrange social outings and events for a wide range of interests.