OS marital ethical dilemma

dianadors

After studying World War 2 at school, and visiting the occupation museum in the Channel Islands, my kids decided that if ever there was another war they would be the only kids that they know that would survive!!. The number of faddy eaters they invite round for tea!
My mum once gave me dessicated coconut (when I was 5) and I was sick, so she never bought any again!!! Yet she would force feed me Brussel Sprouts boiled for 45 mins in water that contained Bicarbonate of soda (so they went to mush!). I grew up hating sprouts, but cooking them every Christmas and eating only 3 (because thats what she made me eat!!) Last Christmas, I stir fried them with Lardons and they were delicious! So I enjoyed sprouts for the 1st time ever, aged 47!! Now the only food that I am truly not fond of is Pineapple, but I can eat it.

Faddy eating is for 3 year olds in my opinion.

spiddy100

rlm wrote: »

I wasn't always like that though. I found out recently from my parents that I was a really fussy eater when I was little. Apparently, I wouldn't eat an omelette if my parents called it an 'omelette' but would if they called it an 'eggcake' and put a smiley face on it with tomato ketchup!

That rang a bell with me :laugh:. When DS1 was going through his big 1-year-old fussy stage, we could get him to eat just about anything if we referred to it as 'humous'. Nearly every dinner got mushed up, served with toast fingers, and called something exciting like 'dinosaur humous'. Ah, happy days.........

barri_2

Will someone please tell me what DH means. I've worked out MiL and Fil and OH but DH defeats me. I'm a fussy eater, but mum just let me leave what I didn't like and fill up with spuds or bread. I'm 76 and going strong so it didn't hurt. BarriA.

scuzz

barri wrote: »

Will someone please tell me what DH means. I've worked out MiL and Fil and OH but DH defeats me. I'm a fussy eater, but mum just let me leave what I didn't like and fill up with spuds or bread. I'm 76 and going strong so it didn't hurt. BarriA.

Dear Husband

Almo

3106catherine wrote: »

I have never laughed so much at a thread before!!

I have less problems feeding my 2yr old than some of you seem to have with OH's and IL's.

I disagree with allicouldwishfors previous comments, from personal experience I spent 26 years saying I didn't like curry, without even trying it and despite my DH pleas for me to just try a Korma. Eventually I gave in and it is now my favourite meal!

DH on the other hand says he doesn't like breaded cod, however he loves fish fingers, and will eat carrots raw but not cooked??

I don't like cooked carrots but I like raw ones. Its a texture thing, lightly steamed or boiled to mush, I just don't like them. I also prefer raw sugar snap peas etc, though I will eat those cooked.

Reading all the above has made me smile at some of the stories. I think there is a world of difference between someone choosing not to cook themselves certain things (which I think is fine, if you don't like it why cook it?) but when it impacts on their kids' diet its wrong. I also think that unless you have an allergy or it makes you physically sick (for whatever reason) in situations like dinner parties etc, just eat it and put up with it. There are a fair few things I wouldn't prepare for myself but that I will eat quietly if I go to someone's house for dinner and they put it on my plate.

Churchmouse

I can agree Almo with your comments about eating at other people's houses, (mine were all taught you do your very best to eat everything put before you) and you never cricise others' food choices whether good or bad. But I do see a hypocrisy in e.g forcing a child/OH to eat beef when you don't cook chicken 'cos you don't like it, or force feeding carrots when you never cook turnip because of personal preference.

Just my opinion, but I have some dislikes and so am willing to allow dislikes in others. Only if someone won't eat any fruit or vegetable is there a problem.

Almo

Churchmouse wrote: »

I can agree Almo with your comments about eating at other people's houses, (mine were all taught you do your very best to eat everything put before you) and you never cricise others' food choices whether good or bad. But I do see a hypocrisy in e.g forcing a child/OH to eat beef when you don't cook chicken 'cos you don't like it, or force feeding carrots when you never cook turnip because of personal preference.

Just my opinion, but I have some dislikes and so am willing to allow dislikes in others. Only if someone won't eat any fruit or vegetable is there a problem.

Oh absolutely churchmouse, I definately agree with that. There is very much a hypocrisy. I should possibly have explained that I don't have kids and OH and I don't live together, so at present those circumstances dont apply to me. If someone (child or adult) has tried something properly previously and doesnt like it, I don't think they should be force fed it.

As an aside, I actually hide things in my own food! I don't like fresh tomatoes on their own or in sandwiches but will perfectly happily eat them in my own cottage pie for example, or will put sweetcorn in something (chilli or bolognaise) to get some more veg in me when I wouldn't normally have had an extra veg.

auntieooff

This is well a buzz!!!!!!

My brother wont eat cream but when i call it Angel Delight it's fine! Also baked beans are a no no with him but when I cook haricot beans they're fine....is it a man thing?;)

leensarahc

loving this thread, i never used to be able to eat sprouts, but now just par boil for 4-5 mins then fry in some buttere with really finely chopped onion and garlic....yummy:p
i have problems trying to get the DW to eat veg. she never used to but since having our daughter she promised to try so she was setting a good example. she now eats carrots and brocolli and occasionally salad- well lettuce and tomato. And i always mix baby leeks and spring onions in with the mash on a sunday.

Dont know if anyone has started one, but there should be a MSE recipe forum, some of the ideas on here are making me hungry...........

time to raid the fridge i think:drool::drool::drool:

meerkatgirl

My BF is somewhat of a fussy eater. I offered to make some lentil pate for us both and he said "I don't like pate". I replied "what if i call it chunky lentil spread?" and he said he'd be happy to eat it. Very odd.