Seperation advice with no money help !!!

worry_2

you obviously have issues and come onto these forums to try belittle people when they are vunerable , im not interested in your personal opinion of my situation i am looking for practical advice on seperating from my husband , i deal with my debts head-on and always have done and dont have to justify myself and my teaching ability to you or anyone else, im a great mum and wife , you know nothing of what ive had to handle in 16 years so i suggest you clear off and go throw you comments as someone who wants to hear your slur ..

faerie~spangles

Has to be a troll?


Surely not someone training to be an educationalist?


If the op is for real I'm glad my g/kids live abroad!

LordSVS

worry wrote: »

you obviously have issues and come onto these forums to try belittle people when they are vunerable , im not interested in your personal opinion of my situation i am looking for practical advice on seperating from my husband , i deal with my debts head-on and always have done and dont have to justify myself and my teaching ability to you or anyone else, im a great mum and wife , you know nothing of what ive had to handle in 16 years so i suggest you clear off and go throw you comments as someone who wants to hear your slur ..

You have come to the wrong place.

Lord SVS

Emmzi

last time you posted you were considering bankruptcy. I'd look at that again; you need to be free of the debt to start over. Renting will not hurt your kids.

DylanO

worry wrote: »

im not looking for a quick win , im looking for security and stability for my children for which my husband has never provided .

You picked him. If he never provided, why on earth did you have children?

You obviously just want a quick fix despite there not being one. I suggest you go bankrupt and rent - you'll only be putting off the inevitable if you don't. Do you really want to have to be forced to start again in your 50s or 60s? Do it now while you still stand a chance of being able to get back on track.

DUTR

worry wrote: »

you obviously have issues and come onto these forums to try belittle people when they are vunerable , im not interested in your personal opinion of my situation i am looking for practical advice on seperating from my husband , i deal with my debts head-on and always have done and dont have to justify myself and my teaching ability to you or anyone else, im a great mum and wife , you know nothing of what ive had to handle in 16 years so i suggest you clear off and go throw you comments as someone who wants to hear your slur ..

When you are able to hold a relationship and clean credit record then you are able to judge me about having issues, this is the 21st century and a time of equal rights, other than to donate juice to produce the children, you should not need a man surely?
It is easy for folk to see what you have typed in the past, your life circumstances did not occur overnight and they will not resolve overnight, do you really think you can get up and run from your responsibilties and hope the husband picks up the pieces?
You both should have lived within your means, inthe meantime it will take many years to get back on the straight and narrow from the situation you describe yourself in.

DUTR

faerie~spangles wrote: »

Has to be a troll?


Surely not someone training to be an educationalist?


If the op is for real I'm glad my g/kids live abroad!

They are not trolling , even though a lot of their threads get locked.

worry_2

You dont pick who you fall in love with and i stayed because i thought he would grow up and take life more seriously especially when we had children < but this hasnt happened , i have wanted to go bankrupt many time for a few years but he wont ! , we have joint amounts so not much point me doing it by myself < i dont mind renting but i will need money for deposit and rent , ive put myself though uni and now teaching and volunteering to try and get a secure fulltime job time job for my children . but i feel incredibly guilty ending my marriage

merlin68

You wont get any benifits as your doing a course.
Also you wont get housing or council tax benifit as you own your own home.
If your suferring abuse you could ring womens aid and go into a refuge not the nicest of places and they would help you to sort things out.
you would get child tax credit but changing to a single claim can take weeks and the child beneifit.

worry_2

i worked full time and paid all the bills untill i had children and then worked part time and inbetween each birth then since have worked part time and done party planning and now selling on ebay , i have brought money in every month , if it wasnt for me checking the bank account daily and trying to grab money from all over the pay the utility bills we would have been evicted long ago , i sort the bills he brings no money in and charges are put on ! , i set arrangements but no regular money defaults happen . I dont run away from my debts i deal with them everyday .