Seperation advice with no money help !!!

worry_2

hI , IM DESPERATELY LOOKING FOR ADVICE AND GUIDIANCE ,ON LIVING MY HUSBAND |?, I HAVE 3 CHILDREN AND I THE CHILDREN I AM CURRENTLY ON A TEACHER TRAINING COURSE AFTER COMPLETING A DEGREE AND I AM LOOKING FOR PART TIME WORK . I AM WANTING TO LEAVE MY HUSBAND DUE TO EMOTIONAL AND FINANCIAL TRAUMA , HE HAS BEEN SELF EMPLOYED FOR 11 YEARS AND HAS RAN UP HUGE DEBTS AND THE HOUSE IS IN NEGATIVE EQUITY AND HE STILL WONT PAY TAX BILL AND NI AND CONTINUES TO INCURE CHARGES , I HAVE DEALT WITH EVERYTHING FOR 16 YEARS AND HAVE COME TO THE END OF MY TETHER . I WANT TO STAY IN THE HOUSE AS ITS INTEREST ONLY PAYMENTS AND THEY ARE LOWER THAN RENT . BUT HE SAYS HE WONT LEAVE THE CHILDREN .
I HAVE NO SAVINGS OR MONEY WHAT CAN I DO ? PLEASE HELP AND ADVISE

DylanO

You're going to be a teacher?

McKneff

Please dont post in capitols, they are very difficult to read and usually it means you are SHOUTING.

McKneff

DylanO wrote: »

You're going to be a teacher?

Gotcha !!!!

DylanO

McKneff wrote: »

Gotcha !!!!

Scary, isn't it?

worry_2

whats the point in replying if you're not going to be helpful and are sarcastic ?

DUTR

worry wrote: »

whats the point in replying if you're not going to be helpful and are sarcastic ?

You mean like you have just done?
From what the OP has written, they have little hope of staying in the home, the two adults can continue to fight a battle where they will both lose, but common sense (which would be teachers should have) should indicate there is no quick win to be found from their situation .

worry_2

what are you talking about ? what is OP ? i have only used this forum a couple of times and dont really know what to do ! but im very disturbed to discover that instead of advice i am receiving horrid remarks, why cant you see that my plea for help comes from a very emotional woman who has managed to keep a home for 3 small children whilst having to deal with everything and manage debts and a difficult husband , why do you feel the need to comment without understanding , my grammical errors and caps lock is due to trying to type on a very small netbook and tiredness

worry_2

im not looking for a quick win , im looking for security and stability for my children for which my husband has never provided .

DUTR

worry wrote: »

what are you talking about ? what is OP ? i have only used this forum a couple of times and dont really know what to do ! but im very disturbed to discover that instead of advice i am receiving horrid remarks, why cant you see that my plea for help comes from a very emotional woman who has managed to keep a home for 3 small children whilst having to deal with everything and manage debts and a difficult husband , why do you feel the need to comment without understanding , my grammical errors and caps lock is due to trying to type on a very small netbook and tiredness

OP is original poster, I cannot see where you have had horrid remarks, just because you are a woman does not make you a special case blokes get emotional too, your partner has 3 children and a mortgage too. You have already been advised there is no quick get out of your situation, the house will be sold and credit history damaged, sadly that is the reality of what will happen, however do keep reading until you see they type of posts you wish to read, but at some point you and your partner will have to face reality.

Dunroamin

DylanO wrote: »

Scary, isn't it?

What's really scary is that I was just about to post that!