Manners

KittyLady

Mrs_Arcanum wrote: »

Then I do things like let someone with a few items go in front of me at the supermarket. Gives me time to unload onto the conveyor belt & get my bags ready.

I do, but then I really hate when I've dived in to the shops to grab food before collecting the kids from school and the person behind me has a bottle of milk and starts huffing and tutting as loudly as possible, shifting from side to side in the queue behind me. I know you're there, it must be frustrating to wait behind me with my ten items, but I'm in a rush too so stop expecting me to be nice when you can't be well mannered.

Oh and biggest peeve in the shops. Keep yourself and your trolley by the conveyor side of the checkout, I do not appreciate you standing so close we're touching while I'm trying to enter my pin number or pay. Back off and be patient!

MultiCat

I was in Asda's the other day using the loo after going food shopping. As I was coming back down the stairs 3 employees were walking towards me carrying shopping baskets so naturally I stepped aside (as there was a woman with a pushchair waiting for the lift on the other side of the corridor) and waited patiently for them to get past. Not one word of thank you. Really gets on my nerves.

Can't forget the people who insist on standing on your toes they're that close to you. Went to a cashpoint to get some money out and whilst I was stood entering my PIN a little kid decided to run up and practically park his nose on the keypad. I turned to the mum and said excuse me whilst gesturing to her kid and she just told me to f- off and carried on smoking her cigarette and chatting loudly on her phone.

The nerve of some people. Thankfully I'm too polite to say anything back or these people would get a few choice words from me.

juliep123

I hate litterbugs -there really is no excuse for it - and as for people who don't pick up after their dogs -disgusting !!!
Jules

scottishblondie

People at work who don't out their phones on silent, and then go away to meetings while their phones sit on their desks ringing away with really irritating ringtones.

And people who don't indicate on roundabouts or when changing lanes.

thriftymanc

I'm glad I'm not the only person who has noticed the problem of random people thinking it's ok to rub up against you in public. I'm not a particularly 'touchy feely' person even with people that I like and know well so I don't want that kind of contact off complete strangers.

If I'm in a queue or a crowd, I always keep a good amount of personal space and apologise if I accidentally brush against someone or bump them with a bag. I don't understand why other people seem to think it's ok to stand so close that they're pretty much leaning on you for support, especially when you're in a queue and there's plenty of space. If you're in a gig crowd it can obviously a little harder to keep from touching other people completely depending on the sort of gig, but even at a half-sold quiet show with loads of space I always seem to end up standing next to someone who uses me as a convenient rest for their pint-holding arm (if the pint's that heavy why you don't try something more managable like a dainty little Malibu and coke? What, not manly enough?!) or next to someone who thinks that crushing me with their bag is ok because their bag isn't part of their body so I musn't be able to feel it.

It just seems to happen everywhere. People who sit next to you on a nearly empty bus and press their thighs against you, this actually makes me gag so I have to get up and sit somewhere else. And If I stop on a street somewhere out of the way to check my phone or because I'm waiting to meet someone, you can guarantee that the only other person on the street will walk right in my face and brush past me even though I couldn't physically get any further out of the way if I tried.

Laura_Scotland

For me it's buses! I'll wait patiently in line at the bus stop, then when the bus comes the people who decided to stand outside the stop or lean themselves against the front of it blocking the view of everyone else expect to get on before the people who were in the queue.

Also, if the bus stops further down the stop nearer the people at the back they'll often just go straight on with no regard for the others who waited first! Older people seem to be particularly bad for this.

I'm up early for work so the bus isn't that busy, I sit upstairs and find it so strange when the whole upstairs is empty pretty much and someone sit close to me, it seems a bit creepy! Especially as I've had people do this in the past and try and have a conversation - "Are you a Christian?" was one of the questions I was asked! Weird!

SnowBelle_2

It seems like I have a little bit of many of the posts in my gripe!
My manager....insists on going 'for a fag' and leaving his phone on his desk as he does'nt want to be bothered,the it rings a million times & repeats when he is gone
A collegue who breathes so loudly through his nose I can literally hear his nasal hair whistling!
people who never hold doors open,just let them go on you.
Also people who loudly shout to each other in shops,recently I was in the US and a British family came in,shouting loudly 'ooh look at this,look at this' I was cringing they were being so common:D
People who don't wash,then have the bad manners to inflict their smell on your nostrils......is it me or does there seem to be more soap dodgers than ever about lately?

miss_independent

Heavy breathers irritate me, especially if they are breathing on my neck when im queuing. Similarly, people standing too close to me, it's almost as if alot of people have no concept of "personal space".

Something that really irritates me is people assuming that because someone is young they have no right to sit down in a public space. When I was 14, I was in town with my mother shopping for the first time since coming down with glandular fever. After about 30 minutes of wandering round town, I felt so ill I thought I was dying. My mother found a seat for me outside M&S changing rooms whilst she tried clothes on as I was deathly pale and clammy. After 3 minutes, a woman in her late 60's who was perfectly mobile marched up to me and said, "Right young lady, you have perfectly strong legs you can get up and give that seat to me." I AM polite, and was taught to respect my elders (though sometimes I don't know why as there are so many rude elders!) so I stood up for the next 20 minutes, truly feeling god awful. My mum took her time, thinking I was safely sat down and when she came out asked me why on earth I was standing up. I explained the lady told me to and my mum politely explained that I had glandular fever and this was my first time out in 6 weeks - "well she looks fine to me." was the lady's response. I should add she wasn't waiting for anyone and there were other seats in the main shopping centre she could have sat on. My legs literally wouldn't carry me any further or I would have looked for somewhere else to sit. I had to go straight home. Sady that bout of glandular fever left me with a permanent heart condition and as a resut I often faint when I've been standing for long periods. You wouldn't believe the amount of times I have been given filthy looks by members of the public for sitting down on benches in shopping centres for example. Usually by middle aged men and the elderly. I've been told to move or that I can't sit there. On a good day, on the tube or if I've had a sit down, I will ALWAYS give my seat up for the elderly or pregnant women. I was on a bus once, crying my eyes out as I had just injured my foot on the way to the bus - it was witnessed by everyone waiting for the bus, I had to be carried to the bus by father (we were on a family holiday), when I got on the bus I was forced to stand for over half hour (it was a shuttle bus to our hotel) - not one person offered me a seat, the bus was full of predominantly young and middle aged men who were all commenting on how painful my accident seemed but no one thought to let me sit down! If the shoe were on the other foot (pardon the pun) my conscience would not have let me sit there contentedly saying "see that girl stood crying over there, did you see her get trampled and run over by that double pushchair on the way to the bus? Yeah, it look SO painful! I'm pretty sure her foot is broken, she can't weight bear and you can see its swelling like a balloon and it's bruising already." without asking if she would like to sit down. People were shouting out, "you need to get some ice on that!" and every time we went over a pot hole or speed bump going "ouch" and laughing! That's not even bad manners it's bloody sadistic.

Hmm71

rustyboy21 wrote: »

Sitting by someone in a room, when they either have a blocked nose, or just are breathing heavy.

Is like someone scraping their fingernails down a blacboard after a while to me.

Either blow your nose or stop breathing is going through my head. Have said to one person in the past, it's like sitting with Darth vader, sitting in a room with you.

I think that's a bit unfair and rather rude of you yourself rustyboy. A few years ago I had a nasal problem and my nose was permanently blocked, blowing it did no good. Wouldn't it be more polite of you to find out if the person has a medical problem first before having a go at them about their heavy breathing/blocked nose?

Hmm71

KittyLady wrote: »

I do, but then I really hate when I've dived in to the shops to grab food before collecting the kids from school and the person behind me has a bottle of milk and starts huffing and tutting as loudly as possible, shifting from side to side in the queue behind me. I know you're there, it must be frustrating to wait behind me with my ten items, but I'm in a rush too so stop expecting me to be nice when you can't be well mannered.

Oh and biggest peeve in the shops. Keep yourself and your trolley by the conveyor side of the checkout, I do not appreciate you standing so close we're touching while I'm trying to enter my pin number or pay. Back off and be patient!

And of course the person with a bottle of milk behind you couldn't possibly be in a rush themselves could they? Organise your time better sweetie and stop diving into shops just before you need to collect your kids from school.