Why do I feel guilty?

hazyjo

If you pay, you might find it's admitting liability and then she might have more of a leg to stand on. I'd be inclined to follow Gingham R's advice: "I'd reply with: 'Since you are unhappy with my goodwill gesture of £50, I will withdraw it and if you still wish to proceed with a claim I'll be happy to meet you in small claims court.'"

Good luck.

Jx

LandyAndy

Another vote for not sending the cheque.

pulliptears

I wouldn't send her the cheque, but for those saying 'Sold as Seen' this statement would be restrictive of statutory rights. For as often as its come up on these forums it holds little weight in law and the statement on the whole is ineffective as you cannot restrict a buyers rights with that statement.

As for OP, if she described the caravan as "100% shiny, like new, nothing at all wrong with it" then her buyer would possibly have a case for misrepresentation. As it is, it seems to me that the caravan was accurately described and a fault through reasonable wear and tear of a second hand caravan has appeared.

Not a lot she can do really.

sassyblue

hazyjo wrote: »

"I'd reply with: 'Since you are unhappy with my goodwill gesture of £50, I will withdraw it and if you still wish to proceed with a claim I'll be happy to meet you in small claims court.'"

Absolutely this advice ^^^^^

DON'T pay her, you are too nice. She made the decision to buy and should have had the shower checked out herself before buying.

I also wonder if she's a bit skint and is trying it on. You know yourself that shower valve should be a quarter of the quote.....

FatVonD

I wouldn't worry about what your friends will think, the woman is a chancer and if your friends are in close proximity to her she will show her true colours.

Oh, and keep your £50!

londonsurrey

If you are worried about your friends, consider that they might think you a bit daft and/or a bit of a pushover once they hear that you've given the woman £50 after the deal was done.

Anyone who hears about it, and who buys things from you in future will expect ironclad guarantees and money back at premium repair rates. After all, you did it for a woman who is not your friend, so if a friend buys from you, why would you offer a lesser service?

arroli

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

Do you feel guilty because you lied about the washer and you know full well that it was more than that?

Absolutely NO! I honestly thought it was a dripping tap, the shower worked fine, no problems, a tiny drip every now and again - never gave a thought that it was anything else - and she has used the shower for the last 6 weeks

I have learnt my lesson - to keep my mouth shut in future..will certainly think before I speak! I just wanted to be honest with her and told her about minor faults, thinking that if it was me buying I would prefer to know about them, and make my judgement and offer accordingly. She pushed me to move out within one week, she needed to be in soon!! otherwise my hubby would have got round to repairing the odd jobs.

I think this is one of reasons I feel guilty, I would have liked the caravan to be "perfect" for her, together with the fact that she tells me she spent all of her savings to buy the caravan.

I have decided to "sit on it" over the weekend, not decided yet to send the cheque or not to her.

I intend to still visit the site to see my friends, and think I am a bit worried about bumping into her and the abuse she will vent!

londonsurrey

arroli wrote: »

I just wanted to be honest with her and told her about minor faults, thinking that if it was me buying I would prefer to know about them, and make my judgement and offer accordingly. She pushed me to move out within one week, she needed to be in soon!! otherwise my hubby would have got round to repairing the odd jobs.

I think this is one of reasons I feel guilty, I would have liked the caravan to be "perfect" for her, together with the fact that she tells me she spent all of her savings to buy the caravan.(

I can see where you're coming from.
In a nice world, which I would also prefer to inhabit, you can behave like that.

I had a young friend who was doing a house exchange. The other party pointed out some wear in the flooring. My friend naively got the flat's flooring redone. She wanted to be nice.

She was very upset when the other party left their flat in a bit of a state, then hounded her about a few details that weren't perfect in her flat. I had to gently point out that it was a done deal, yes, she was out of pocket for the flooring, which hadn't earned her any "nice" points with the other party, and yes, they were out for more, and the only way to end this was to stop being a nice "yes" person, even though that's the way she would have preferred to behave.

By all means be a nice person. I prefer to be one too.
I've also learnt the hard way that you do have to learn to recognise a "not nice" person when you do encounter one!

Dave101t

ditto your 1st responder! your too nice!!!

and if they huff and puff and say small claims court, laugh in her face. DO NOT worry, or get stressed.

Savvy_Sue

arroli wrote: »

She pushed me to move out within one week, she needed to be in soon!! otherwise my hubby would have got round to repairing the odd jobs.

I think this is one of reasons I feel guilty, I would have liked the caravan to be "perfect" for her, together with the fact that she tells me she spent all of her savings to buy the caravan.

"Dear Mrs Trying It On, I am sorry that the shower turned out to be a bigger job than I realised. However, if you recall you were very keen for us to move out within a week, which we did to suit you. If you had not been so insistent on this, Mr Arroli would have fixed all the little niggles which I pointed out to you, including this. If you want to see me in court, be my guest / make my day."