Why do I feel guilty?

arroli

Thanks for all your comments and advice.
No not yet sent her cheque for £50 - but think I will do

One of my problems is that two of my closest friends also have caravans on this site..and I just know she will be "bad mouthing me" to everyone!

I now wish, in hindsight I hadn't been as honest and pointed out problems to her - live and learn I guess:o

Gingham_R

I'd withdraw the £50 offer too. I bet she didn't send you the bill either. It was probably nowhere near that and even if it was, that's her issue. She knew about the dripping tap when she bought it and it's hers now, not yours.

I'd reply with: 'Since you are unhappy with my goodwill gesture of £50, I will withdraw it and if you still wish to proceed with a claim I'll be happy to meet you in small claims court.'

Gingham_R

Your friends might hear bad things about you but they won't believe them. And maybe they'll stand in your corner. Then again, maybe they won't need to because this woman knows she's being unreasonable?

FATBALLZ

This really depends what exactly you said when you told them you "thought it needed a new washer". If that was your honest opinion, and you made it clear it was only your opinion and not based on any actual plumbing knowledge, then she should have taken this into account and accepted the risk.

If on the other hand you misled her into being certain it was just a washer, then you should pay for the repair.

Welshwoofs

Rip the cheque up. You pointed out the faults to her (which you didn't have to do) and if she was at all worried about the costs of repairs for those faults then she could have got in a quote to fix them before parting with money.

If you'd maintained that the caravan was perfect and had no faults then I could see her POV, but she can't expect you to cough up on a fault you pointed out, presumably on the basis the repairs are more than she assumed.

meritaten

Dont send the cheque hun - otherwise you will set a precedent and be paying for a load of repairs she will 'claim to predate your selling the 'van'!
so she badmouths you! everyone on a caravan site KNOWS that you buy secondhand at your own risk! and if she chooses to employ someone who rips her off its her own problem!

I really wouldnt pay her hun - not to stop her badmouthing you - your friends will think you a fool instead!

Stan_Here

Its no different to buying a house; you look around, you decide to buy on a whole range of things, such as location, price, condition, and if you have concerns, you get an independent survey done, which you then use to negotiate on the price.

She has not paid out as much as she would have for a survey and it was sold as seen. You have no liability, moral or legal, and if you make a payment you may find that she takes this as some admission of guilt and it could lead to other claims. Rip the cheque up and if she makes contact tell her that on completion of the sale, she took on all responsibility for the caravan and you have no other liability. Then ask her not to contact you again as you feel that she is harrassing you.

skypie123_2

Please don't send her that cheque! If you do the demands will keep coming!

Your friends will know the truth and everyone else she blabs to (if she even does) will think she is off her rocker for hassling you like this.

DVardysShadow

arroli wrote: »

Thanks for all your comments and advice.
No not yet sent her cheque for £50 - but think I will do

One of my problems is that two of my closest friends also have caravans on this site..and I just know she will be "bad mouthing me" to everyone!

I now wish, in hindsight I hadn't been as honest and pointed out problems to her - live and learn I guess

For being honest, you have less reason to pay her than if you had kept quiet. About the only thing you should have done differently was rather than say that a washer was required, you should just have said the shower leaks. By giving an opinion on the fix, you have arguably misled her - but it is still a matter of 'sold as seen'.

londonsurrey

If you give her the money, you're opening a door to a LOT more claims from her. It's not just this money that you're risking.