Weight issues

cottonhead

Thanks everyone for the support and advice. Until now I hadnt spoken to anyone about how this was making me feel. I have got to the stage where I dont like to eat in front of my husband / mum as I feel they are giving me dissaproving looks. Hence I eat rubbish when nobody is around and end up eating even more. Went for coffee with my mum but didnt enjoy it as I felt she was again dissaproving of the slice of cake !!
I have tried various diets and the things is I do know what to eat / not eat and how to be healthy , I just cant stick to it.
I think the point about keeping busy is a good one. Before I started the weight gain I was always busy and now I have more time to myself I start nibbling. I a also always eating carbs. Nearly nothing else.
Have been tested for thyroid just a few months back as had all the symptoms but it came back OK so I think I am just very unhealthy !
Thinking I might get an excercise bike to ride in the evenings whilst watching tv and that might keep me busy. Just feel down today that my husband and mum are ashamed or embarassed by me. I know deep down thats an overeaction but I just feel less of a person beig heavy ( even though I am technically more of one !! ) .
I think I will investigate the counselling thing. I was just a bit worried I might not be taken seriously.

daska

If you're eating pretty much only carbs then you're probably low on a lot of nutrients, hence the feeling pretty carp and sliding into the comfort eating. How about starting small and aiming to eat a plate of veg (lots of leafy veg, different colours) WITH your family once a day. If they see you making an effort they will probably be more supportive which will make you feel a bit better and help you with the next step which could be to cut out all the crisps, then all the biscuits etc. Did your GP test for diabetes as well?

heretolearn_2

I've taken up Zumba. I'm also pretty big now at nearly 16 stone but the class comes in all ages, shapes and sizes, and we have a laugh with it. No one is judging anyone else at all. Try and find some sort of exercise you can enjoy as it helps you lose weight, and you feel great afterwards. It really boosts your mood, which helps you avoid comfort eating, so it's win win.

Bluemeanie_2

I swear by weightwatchers. You have to keep going to the meetings regularly to stop it creeping back on.

I am 5 feet 11" tall. My healthy BMI range is 10st 3lbs to 12st 11lbs. When I started I was 14st 5.5lbs and a size 18 (I have been 16st, size 20, I got the first bit off myself then plateaued, as I didn't know how to diet and was making classic mistakes).

I can't do anything in moderation and binge. I can't have 1 biscuit or one piece of chocolate, or one piece of pizza. Once I get a taste for it I'm done.
I'm also a "hormonal" eater. Crave chocolate, salty crisps and stodge around PMT time!

I'm now 12st and a size 14. (I'll never be a smaller size because of my frame and height) and feel pretty skinny and trim.

Nothing tastes as good as being thin feels for me!

My advice is try weightwatchers. It really is a good long term plan as it doesn't ban any type of food so it feels like a way of life rather that a "diet".

continualdiamond

I'm another for saying weight watchers.
I'm 5'9 tall and was a shameful size 26 weighing in at 20 stone :eek:
I am now 11st 7lbs and a size 12.

The new plan for me is just amazing and I never looked at it as a diet, I looked at it as a lifestyle change.

I am 3 mths into being at my gold weight, the heaviest I can weigh is 12st 1lb.

I was ready this time to commit to the changes I needed to make forever, before hand I was only ever commited to make them temporary and then went back to my old ways.

zcrat41

I'd second Bluemeanie. I've lost 6 stone with WW and totally used to be like you - I'd eat for any other reason except for actually being hungry. Happy - sausage roll, sad - ice cream, angry - cake, upset - curry etc etc.

No need to buy a bike - just go out the door and walk for half an hour. Much better ( and cheaper !) for you!

I'd also second TeamLowe about setting small goals and nice treats. I booked myself a massage for every half a stone I lost.

Sounds like you are in the right place to do it so go for it girl!!

meritaten

as cottonhead has declined to post her hieght and weight/dress size as I requested (though you COULD PM me hun - if you dont want to make this known), there is no way I am taking her word that she is overwieght.
I think its rather irresponsible to give dietary advice without knowing AT LEAST the basic facts!

meritaten

Izzy. wrote: »

cottonhead doesn't need to share her height and weight with you if she chooses not to. You don't have the 'facts' you require, so leave her alone and stop trying to bully her into giving you information she obviously doesn't want to share!

you only have cottonheads word that she is overweight - not one of you KNOWS how much she wieghs or her hieght or IF she is really overwieght! DO YOU!
I am not bullying her - If she cares to PM me I would advise her in full possession of the facts.
I have a sis who is extremely slim and constantly on a 'diet'. to me she should put ON a few pounds - but she thinks she is fat! so I am extremely wary of advising people to lose weight.
and as you say - I dont have any FACTS - and NEITHER do YOU!

KxMx

Find ways of improving you diet and make changes slowly, ie have more fruit & veg, change things like a frozen family pizza into a fresh mini-one, cut down portion sizes ie 3 scoops of something and not 4, use smaller plates. Have a treat such as that slice of cake with coffee less often, not every time, maybe every third or fourth time. My way of saying this is, when it comes down to chocolate or a bananna, choose the choc by all means, but choose the banana more often
Cut down on empty calories as much as you can, like fizzy drinks, biscuits and even sweets. They all add up and they're things you don't really need, but again once in a while is fine, just not day after day.
Limit takeaways, in this house it is strictly one a month. I enjoy them much more now than I did 2-3 times a month! Takeaway week make sure you are extra good with what else you eat to balance it out.
Personally I wouldn't bother with a quick fix diet/slimming world because as soon as you stop the weight comes back. And if you're looking long term, more £ will have to be spent on meetings etc, you might find one day you're simply too busy and then the weight comes back... Far better to make improvements and changes in everyday diet.
If it's not in the house then you can't eat it.
And it is also ok to be hungry, no need to eat so much that you feel full 24/7.
The advice about having a glass of water and eating after half an hour is good.

Janey3

I'm with KxMx, it worked for me, forget the word diet - think of it as a healthy eating lifestyle - start off gradually, if you have a tsp sugar in drinks - cut down to half. Marge/butter - use a tad less when buttering. When making sandwiches, I would have one less than normal. If I'm having salady sarnies, I don't use marge/butter, just a smattering of salad cream spread on the bread instead. Use smaller plates, imagine plate in quarters - one quarter is for meat the other three quarters is for veg.
I love parsnips, not everybody does, I know, but I cut them up like chips and cook them alongside my normal HM chips which OH likes.

Good luck.

Once you start making little changes the rest will follow.