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1 for the ladies - how do you keep yours?

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  • coinxoperated
    coinxoperated Posts: 1,026 Forumite
    edited 11 May 2012 at 8:46PM
    It's your choice entirely but that just seems so shallow to me. :o Of course moving from one sexual partner to another is just not a concept I would wish to experience.

    Are you saying you were innocent at 22?

    Who knows when I'm - older - I may want a full hairy mary. Its highly unlikely though!!

    Nothing wrong with enjoying sexual experiences with many different people as long as your safe and each other are adults and consenting. I've been with my partner for 18 months now, no messing about in a relationship. But - I had some memorable times with a 'few' different partners that have led me to have a very healthy sex life and to not be ashamed of what I like and what I don't.

    Also - I see no point in being with somebody initially if your not sexually attracted for them. If you 20 odd years down the line, then sure, people change, you love them. But if they can't meet your initial basic requirements, why take it further?

    :D
  • coinxoperated
    coinxoperated Posts: 1,026 Forumite
    Unfortunately, my darling man is old school, and likes a full one...think I may have to get some Grecian 2000 or Just For Men...:rotfl::D

    Haha! I hear Garnier do an eyelash tinting kit - maybe 3 or 4 of those? If its safe on the eyes... :T
  • coinxoperated
    coinxoperated Posts: 1,026 Forumite
    Exactly. If that's what comes someones mind it says an awful about them and they way they think.

    Do they think the same about shaved arm pits? Does that make them think of pre-pubescent girls too? There's no difference.

    Maybe we should all stop shaving everything and then no men will be thinking about pre-pubescent girls? :rotfl:
  • Torry_Quine
    Torry_Quine Posts: 18,884 Forumite
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    Are you saying you were innocent at 22?

    Who knows when I'm - older - I may want a full hairy mary. Its highly unlikely though!!

    Nothing wrong with enjoying sexual experiences with many different people as long as your safe and each other are adults and consenting. I've been with my partner for 18 months now, no messing about in a relationship. But - I had some memorable times with a 'few' different partners that have led me to have a very healthy sex life and to not be ashamed of what I like and what I don't.

    Also - I see no point in being with somebody initially if your not sexually attracted for them. If you 20 odd years down the line, then sure, people change, you love them. But if they can't meet your initial basic requirements, why take it further?

    :D

    Not quite sure what this is about? :o

    I never said that you shouldn't be with someone that you aren't sexually attracted to, indeed I agree that this is an important aspect of the relationship. You however must have been attracted to someone before discovering they didn't shave so why did that make such a huge difference that you didn't feel able to continue with the realtionship?
    Lost my soulmate so life is empty.

    I can bear pain myself, he said softly, but I couldna bear yours. That would take more strength than I have -
    Diana Gabaldon, Outlander
  • coinxoperated
    coinxoperated Posts: 1,026 Forumite
    Not quite sure what this is about? :o

    I never said that you shouldn't be with someone that you aren't sexually attracted to, indeed I agree that this is an important aspect of the relationship. You however must have been attracted to someone before discovering they didn't shave so why did that make such a huge difference that you didn't feel able to continue with the realtionship?


    Indeed, she had a nice face and was funny.

    For me, it's the equivalent of her having warts or something as off putting as that. Would you continue with a relationship with somebody who has genitals which made you wretch a little because they had a nice face/made you laugh? I understand it's preference and personal opinions, Im just trying to make you understand my way of thinking
  • mildred1978
    mildred1978 Posts: 3,367 Forumite
    I had my legs, underarms and lady garden waxed so often in my 20s that in my mid 30s I don't need to shave anything anymore.

    I did get around a bit, and wasn't (and still aren't) bothered about it being 'inspected'. It's not quite so pretty now that I have a big scar from an episiotomy though :(
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  • Torry_Quine
    Torry_Quine Posts: 18,884 Forumite
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    Indeed, she had a nice face and was funny.

    For me, it's the equivalent of her having warts or something as off putting as that. Would you continue with a relationship with somebody who has genitals which made you wretch a little because they had a nice face/made you laugh? I understand it's preference and personal opinions, Im just trying to make you understand my way of thinking

    You didn't answer my question. ;)

    My point is that I would have obviously seen something in them to want to have a sexual relationship so it seems strange that something like hair would make you completely change your mind.
    Lost my soulmate so life is empty.

    I can bear pain myself, he said softly, but I couldna bear yours. That would take more strength than I have -
    Diana Gabaldon, Outlander
  • coinxoperated
    coinxoperated Posts: 1,026 Forumite
    You didn't answer my question. ;)

    My point is that I would have obviously seen something in them to want to have a sexual relationship so it seems strange that something like hair would make you completely change your mind.


    Personally, I feel you can find someone attractive yet be put off by something. I'm not going to dictate to a potential sexual partner how she should grow her lady garden, but I'm also not about to put up with something that I don't like at the beginning of the relationship just because something else was attractive. They may have a lovely body, gorgeous face etc etc, but if she's got a 1970's Afro going on down there, it is the biggest turn off for me.

    I guess it's just preference. I just find the idea of licking pubic hair vile, and I personally feel its actually a bit unhygienic. Yes it's 'natural', but it's also not 'natural' to brush your teeth, yet you wouldn't want to kiss someone who never brushed :rotfl:
  • morocha
    morocha Posts: 1,554 Forumite
    I usually shave but had everything done for the first time 3 months ago and it was so painful and my sensitive skin was so painful for days, anyway everything has grown again and i want to ask what do you ladies use to get rid of hair there and the hair inbetween the crack ?
    Mejor morir de pie que vivir toda una vida de rodillas.
  • System
    System Posts: 178,374 Community Admin
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    I usually use veet on the nether regions and have never had any problem,though i do use the sensitive one for bikini line etc, and then shave in between
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