Am I right or wrong - opinions please!

mountainofdebt

Well I do most of the ironing - that is when I can't get Junior to do it - and in fairness if the OH needed a shirt ironed he wouldn't be adverse to doing it either.

As far as the OP's situation is concerned, it sounds as if it bothered her more than it bothered her OH about him going out in an unironed shirt

But would bother me is the fact that he works 5 minutes away and yet still drives whilst she works further and has to relie on public transport. Now I know he does the cooking becuase he gets home earlier but if he works that close then (especially this time of year) it wouldn't it make financial sense for the OH to walk to work or at least cycle?

Catmom

mountainofdebt wrote: »

Well I do most of the ironing - that is when I can't get Junior to do it - and in fairness if the OH needed a shirt ironed he wouldn't be adverse to doing it either.

As far as the OP's situation is concerned, it sounds as if it bothered her more than it bothered her OH about him going out in an unironed shirt

But would bother me is the fact that he works 5 minutes away and yet still drives whilst she works further and has to relie on public transport. Now I know he does the cooking becuase he gets home earlier but if he works that close then (especially this time of year) it wouldn't it make financial sense for the OH to walk to work or at least cycle?

Just to clarify, I dont drive. Never, have, probably never will, the thought terrifies me And yes, he will sometimes cycle to work, but only if the weather is ok, so its been a while...

cobbingstones

It sounds like you both work hard. Why not pay for someone to do it for you? I think in my area they charge around £4 per kilo (that's about 4/5 shirts). Life is for living!

Good luck

VfM4meplse

I consider it an honour when any man asks me to iron his shirt. Yes, seriously!

The reason being, all the men in my family, and those that have wandered in and out of my life have been very fussy about their shirts and never trust women to iron them (unless professionally laundered). For example, my father and younger brother would never allow my mum anywhere near their shirts, but do let me if I offer - which is almost never as we live separately! - on the grounds that I iron them nearly as wel as they do!

missprice

years and years ago I ironed my (now ex) hubby's shirts and he threw one back at me and said it was not ironed properly.
so I threw it back at him and said iron your own darn shirts from now on then.
from that day I have only ironed my own stuff and my kids stuff when they were younger. now I don't remember the last time the ironing board was out because I rarely bother unless its a 'going out' top
kids don't bother cos they teens and don't care and OH doesn't bother unless its 'going out 'clothes and we neither have been out to more than the pub in the last few years and not often at that.
so its not 'womens' work and if your hubby want to go out in creased clothes then let him, he all growed up now and can make the choice:)

ska_lover

No one irons in our house. who are we doing it for? if you are clean, i dont care if a shirt is unironed.

you can save a lot of creases by hanging things up whilst damp, to dry

VJsmum

It wouldn't be the fact of the ironing that bothered me but rather the expectation.

My OH will do the ironing and even if I do most of it - he will often come in at the end and do his own shirts. But he doesn't expect me to do it and if he particularly wanted a shirt done then he would do it himself.

What riled me the other weekend was that I had been away - for work purposes - and MIL came to stay (not to help cos she didn't do anything) and when I got back told me that OH had done "all the washing for you and the shopping for you". Now not all the ironing is mine and I wasn't even there to appreciate the shopping :rotfl:

the_pink_panther_2

When I got together with my hubby (now ex- hubby) he expected me to do the housework. He explained to me that that is the way that it had always been in his house, that him mum did the housework except for taking the bins out, which he said was a man's job. I was pretty irritated with this and explained to him that that arrangement was his parents' choice; that his parents had agreed on it and didn't mean that I had to. His dad worked full time, his mum part time and so perhaps that was why it suited their relationship, but given that I worked full time, longer hours than he did, in addition to I just plain and simple did not agree with this man's job/women's job idea I would not accept it. Oddly enough my hubby understood. Having said that, that doesn't mean to say that he actually did any housework to speak of. In fact I did pretty much all housework, DIY and gardening. The one thing I didn't do was his ironing; if he wanted to go out in un-ironed clothes then that was his choice and I never mentioned the state of his clothing if he went out looking a mess; that's his choice and didn't affect me, unlike most other household chores. As it happened that was the only job he did consistently. My suggestion is leave him to it, if he chooses to go out in un-ironed clothing then that's his decision. If he is unhappy with it he will iron. He might be resenting not the fact that his clothes are un-ironed, but the fact that you complain that they aren't ironed and he might feel that unjust given that he might not have cared one way or the other whether or not his clothes were crumple-free and didn't like you imposing your standards on him.

londonsurrey

VJsmum wrote: »

MIL came to stay (not to help cos she didn't do anything) and when I got back told me that OH had done "all the washing for you and the shopping for you". Now not all the ironing is mine and I wasn't even there to appreciate the shopping :rotfl:

Ye gods, I HATE that! My MIL once gave me some insipid handicraft thing as a present, as "something to do when you're waiting for him".

I earned 50% more than her precious son! *mutter, mutter, mutter*
It wouldn't have been so bad if he'd been rich or something. I really should have married a rich man.

Anyone got one to spare?

the_pink_panther_2

londonsurrey wrote: »

Ye gods, I HATE that! My MIL once gave me some insipid handicraft thing as a present, as "something to do when you're waiting for him".

I earned 50% more than her precious son! *mutter, mutter, mutter*
It wouldn't have been so bad if he'd been rich or something. I really should have married a rich man.

Anyone got one to spare?

Maybe start a thread looking for one - I want one too;-)