Confused by feelings for a man

System

Men do like their ego's to be boosted from time to time.

FBaby

pretty certain there is someone else in his life. The 'I am flattered' was key from the start. He is indeed flattered and so enjoyed the texting which he probably considered innocent enough. Nothing like someone telling you how wonderful you are. When it became clear that you wanted more, he tried to ignore and stick to the fun texts, hoping that you would settle for this. You didn't, sent him that long email, that was his clue to back off. He took the easy way out, told you to go and find someone else. It is your clue that he is not interested in taking things forward. You need to forget about him. Sorry.

McKneff

Emmzi wrote: »

you've been too full on. leave him be.

Exactly, too much from you, too soon

And if he is that gorgeous, he's possbily gay, then you know he's defo not interested.

quietheart

Judi wrote: »

Men do like their ego's to be boosted from time to time.

so do women! :j

System

quietheart wrote: »

so do women! :j

Personally i'd rather be loved than toyed with.

Bangton

Everything *max* said, I would agree with.

Put bluntly you should never have to wonder if feelings are reciprocated...someone genuinely interested would make it known and would be keen to hook up. I appreciate he has messaged you but rather than get your hopes up I think you would be wiser to cease contact as it seems to be the ego boost that he is enjoying....

...I know it's not nice when you really do like someone

Miss_Pixie

Thanks all.

Definitely think he is single as he's mentioned it several times before he knew I was interested in him.

Think I've just made a complete fool of myself then

I'm a recovering DV survivor and probably just craving being loved too much. He knows that as well which makes it feel a million times worse that he was probably just ego boosting

System

Think I've just made a complete fool of myself then

No it just means despite your DV you havent got a heart of stone.

Seanymph

It also means you are ready to move on a bit, which is lovely.

Just perhaps guard against banging 'mr right' badges on men until you really get to know them - and make them work REALLY hard for you. You're worth that.

gibson123

We have all at one time got carried away and over-eager, cool off for a bit, if he is interested, he'll come running. You have probably scared him s**tless. it's all Glenn Closes fault for boiling the bunny...