Friends Birthday

passatrider

A good friend of mine is having a birthday meal soon and I've been invited.
The trouble is I've seen the menu and it's way way too expensive for me. I only work part-time as it is.

In the email he sent me with the menu attached he did say that it was a bit pricey and that I could just come for drinks if I wanted too afterwards instead.
I replied saying that it was too expensive for me and would rather do both than just the drinks, as it would not feel the same.

I've not heard anything back since and now feel I may of offended him or something.

Did I come across as ungrateful do you think in my reply?:o

londonsurrey

If you replied to me in those words, I would be a bit nonplussed as to what I could say in response. Let's put it this way - what would your ideal response from him be?

joannaspanner

Maybe, I know what you mean, but sure he'd like to see you just for drinks if you can't afford the meal, that way he will still see you and vice versa x

meritaten

could you afford the dessert and join them partway through the meal? no-one need know its cos of the prices - let them think you couldnt get away earlier!
you could scoff a bag of chips earlier if you are hungry!

Tiddlywinks

passatrider wrote: »

I replied saying that it was too expensive for me and would rather do both than just the drinks, as it would not feel the same.

I've not heard anything back since and now feel I may of offended him or something.

I'm confused. Like me, he probably didn't understand the reply... what do you mean by "too expensive.... would rather do both than just the drinks?"

He probably thinks that you will still be going and that by saying 'both' you mean you will be going to the meal and the drinks even though you think they are expensive.

sulkisu

Perhaps he's confused. Are you saying that you will be attending both dinner and drinks, or that you won't be attending either?

CH27

You've sent him a mixed message & he probably doesn't know how to respond.

passatrider

sulkisu wrote: »

Perhaps he's confused. Are you saying that you will be attending both dinner and drinks, or that you won't be attending either?

I won't be attending either. I got narked because we have done birthday meals over the years and never had a problem before. It's as if he's now saying like it or lump it.

Sambucus_Nigra

passatrider wrote: »

I won't be attending either. I got narked because we have done birthday meals over the years and never had a problem before. It's as if he's now saying like it or lump it.

Eh?

He's given you options and you have said it's too expensive but you'd rather do both. Not that you are doing neither. No wonder he's confused.

Tiddlywinks

passatrider wrote: »

I won't be attending either. I got narked because we have done birthday meals over the years and never had a problem before. It's as if he's now saying like it or lump it.

Gawd, I'm now confused again - if you've done meals before then your only concern is the money. Why get 'narked' just be better at explaining what you mean.

You need to appreciate that your first post was ambiguous and this post is also less than clear - maybe your friend also has problems deciphering your 'code'?

CH27

passatrider wrote: »

I won't be attending either. I got narked because we have done birthday meals over the years and never had a problem before. It's as if he's now saying like it or lump it.

So you want him to change the venue to somewhere you can afford?