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When I asked for luck I didn't mean the bad variety!!!
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Thought you could use some of these ((((Hugs))))
Good luck to Connor, hard choice for her. Wonder if she'll get to hear more of the stories behind their nominations
Hooe OH is ok and its the count down that's making him feel unsettled. Will be good to get past that mark
Have a good weekend
Granny xTargets
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Fab news that Connor came first :j I hope that he is chosen as overall winner!
Fingers crossed DH makes it way past the 16 weeks point WELL and without seizure
((((hugs)))) to you though sounds like you need one xxMORTGAGE BALANCE when we moved Aug 2024, £120,000. January 1st £118,267.06. May 1st, £116, 123, June 1st, £115,536, New mortgage added for extension- £165,000 July 1st!Mortgage Overpayments - September-December, £152.46. J- £103.27, F- £115, M- £91.50, A- £100, M- £200, J- £200. J- £200. Aug-£200.
Total- £1362.23
Goal pay off 1% of current mortgage in 1 year. £1650
EF- first goal £300
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Everything crossed for Connor !Its just a bad day, Not a bad life .. :cool:0
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Hello
SO glad about Connor winning, that is fab
I hate count downs and reminders, very hard not to think on them. So massive hugs if you do think on
take care lovely Lady XXNevertheless she persisted.0 -
Thanks for the hugs everyone, I really do need them. Having a down day.
Went out with the usual family for coffee and no one asked how I was. Feels like everyone has moved on and forgotten about what happened. I would have said I was ok anyway (lie!), but it hurt not to have even been asked. I then called in to Mr A's for a few bits and the lady behind me in the queue had a tiny baby and the guy in front had toddler twins. I really felt my loss.
Told DH I felt down and got "what's wrong with you NOW?" as a response. Not what I needed, especially as normally I'm the one giving out the sympathy not the one needing it.
Sorry for the whinge. Not sure if I'm supposed to be over it all by now. XxDebts @ LBM £23,729.31. Debts @ 08/04/2016 £0 :j
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please-let-me-be-lucky wrote: »I then called in to Mr A's for a few bits and the lady behind me in the queue had a tiny baby and the guy in front had toddler twins. I really felt my loss.
:grouphug: big hugs xx
please-let-me-be-lucky wrote: »Told DH I felt down and got "what's wrong with you NOW?" as a response. Not what I needed, especially as normally I'm the one giving out the sympathy not the one needing it.
Sorry for the whinge. Not sure if I'm supposed to be over it all by now. XxYou are quite within your rights to whinge and expect sympathy from DH! And as for being over it by now? In your mind you lost a baby, of course not. In their mind it was only a pregnancy and there was no baby for them as I said before I think usually it is only the woman who had the MC that feels the loss as you are. All I can offer is hugs and I hope you are feeling better 'in yourself' very soon
MORTGAGE BALANCE when we moved Aug 2024, £120,000. January 1st £118,267.06. May 1st, £116, 123, June 1st, £115,536, New mortgage added for extension- £165,000 July 1st!Mortgage Overpayments - September-December, £152.46. J- £103.27, F- £115, M- £91.50, A- £100, M- £200, J- £200. J- £200. Aug-£200.
Total- £1362.23
Goal pay off 1% of current mortgage in 1 year. £1650
EF- first goal £300
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please-let-me-be-lucky wrote: »Thanks for the hugs everyone, I really do need them. Having a down day.
Went out with the usual family for coffee and no one asked how I was. Feels like everyone has moved on and forgotten about what happened. I would have said I was ok anyway (lie!), but it hurt not to have even been asked. I then called in to Mr A's for a few bits and the lady behind me in the queue had a tiny baby and the guy in front had toddler twins. I really felt my loss.
Told DH I felt down and got "what's wrong with you NOW?" as a response. Not what I needed, especially as normally I'm the one giving out the sympathy not the one needing it.
Sorry for the whinge. Not sure if I'm supposed to be over it all by now. Xx
Sorry mate, but their response especially your OH is out of order(is that to do with his brain injury?) . I can understand that it can be difficult for other people to ask how you are when out in public, some people worry about upsetting you by reminding you(cos you know you'd forget.....) and they won't know how to help you. But I do think a quick squeeze of the hand or a hug wouldn't hurt.
As for being over it, this is only my view obviously but I think you don't get over exactly. I don't mean to say that it will always feel like this. I just mean the grief you are feeling, that terrible final sense of loss that everyone will experience in some form is the (horrible) part of life. It becomes part of you, you get used to it, it won't weigh so heavily on you every day but some days like today the loss hits and there are reminders sodding everywhere and it is too hard. You will have days (and have had days) when you are grateful for all the good things in life and you feel better, but they aren't every day and you are so entitled to feel these other feelings they are no less valid. There is no point in pretending, you should acknowledge the grief. Feel your feelings. It is such early days PLMBL, please above all be kind to yourself, talk to us. Do what you need to feel better and when you don't know what that is cry. It is ok. it is normal. you will be alright.
Massive hugs.
Buffy xx
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Dearest Lucky, I empathise on the DH front. I was weepy on Thursday (lots of family health stuff) and DH laughed. He was reading an article about emotional health at the time... cue much sarcasm from me. Didn't speak to him until today.What would you get if all you got was what you were thankful for?0
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Honey of course it is all still raw and no one in their right mind would say you should be over it. Sadly there are some things in life that we never get over, although it does get easier. I'd worry more about you if you were over it by now tbh x
You are a kind caring person and rightly expect others to treat you how you would treat them in the circumstances. Unfortunately for the world, not everyone is as thoughtful as you
I'm sure your family didn't want to upset you and probably don't know what to say to help. As for OH, he's said he's feeling out of sorts at the mo, so it's possible he's forgotten. When you feel up to it and feel he is able to cope remind him exactly what has happened to you over the last couple of years. 4 lost babies is bound to bring even the happiest soul to their knees.
I lost my twins 26 years ago and still feel a pang when I see twin children, they will always be babies in my eyes
Know that there are many of us in this box who know exactly what you are going through and are here to support you through this most difficult time
Lots of love and hugs
Granny xTargets
Trip to Australia (On hold until 2022 now) to meet new grandson born jan 21!
Lose 84lbs. Update (minus 65lbs mostly during lockdown as of 18.05.21)
LBM : July 11 - £56,962
DEBT FREE 21-05-21
MORTGAGE FREE 13-06-18
Loving my kitty cat
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Some days you just need to cry.
You just need to let your tears flow down your cheeks—emotional molecules leaking from your heart-space and from your throat.
The lump in your throat is worst right before you finally break.
You feel it build and you force yourself to swallow it down—your emotion becoming a clogged dam, now nestled deeply inside the base of your neck.
And then the dam bursts.
At first it’s horribly inconvenient, but then it’s surprisingly glorious—this release, this letting go.Targets
Trip to Australia (On hold until 2022 now) to meet new grandson born jan 21!
Lose 84lbs. Update (minus 65lbs mostly during lockdown as of 18.05.21)
LBM : July 11 - £56,962
DEBT FREE 21-05-21
MORTGAGE FREE 13-06-18
Loving my kitty cat
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