How do you know when a marriage is over?

nonnatus

You will realise it's over when you get the courage to investigate how you will possible manage without him.
Be proactive! Make some phonecalls, make arrangements to leave, make sure you will be safe and warm somewhere away from him and then show him what you've done.
He'll either be mortified and ready to talk you down or he'll be grateful that one of you has made the decision and he'll be off.

Either option has to be better than the misery you're wallowing in at present surely?

Good luck x

Wootball

One sided story gets one sided answers. Talk to your husband.

FBaby

COuld your husband be exhausted, not happy at work and feel frustrated that he spends most of his time at work to see all his money only paying the bills rather than allowing him so luxuries for it, all this because you are staying home with your child. Add to this that he might consider that you have it quite good at home, meeting with friends, having time for naps, enjoying a hobby perhaps and he is growing more jealous and resentful every day?

VfM4meplse

No one can answer that question for you, what's been posted so far is mostly conjecture.

You need to go think hard about the vows you made to each other, and consider the point at which they started to be violated. If one or other of you can no longer keep them, or prioritise what's best for you LO then maybe it is time to exit stage left.

picnmix

Ask him! Tell him not to talk to you like that.

No-one can tell you when a marriage is over, only the 2 people involved know. Talk, tell him how you feel, ask him how he feels and listen to each other. x

*SuzySue*

FBaby wrote: »

COuld your husband be exhausted, not happy at work and feel frustrated that he spends most of his time at work to see all his money only paying the bills rather than allowing him so luxuries for it, all this because you are staying home with your child. Add to this that he might consider that you have it quite good at home, meeting with friends, having time for naps, enjoying a hobby perhaps and he is growing more jealous and resentful every day?

He's a high earner and wants for nothing. He finds his job very easy and doesn't really have any daily stress. He works from home. He goes out once a week, has time for the gym, has all his meals prepared for him, washing and ironing done etc. I take my LO to one class a week and might go out for an evening with a friend once every 3 months.

Millie2008_2

Would you think about going to Relate? I can highly recommend them

Molly41

Are you cramping his style as you are both now at home? Does he have anyone else? Sorry but you need time away from him x

Mara69

*SuzySue* wrote: »

He's a high earner and wants for nothing. He finds his job very easy and doesn't really have any daily stress. He works from home. He goes out once a week, has time for the gym, has all his meals prepared for him, washing and ironing done etc. I take my LO to one class a week and might go out for an evening with a friend once every 3 months.

To be honest, I've seen posts like yours time and time again. All your post (above) demonstrates to me is that you are clearly missing something that is going on in your husband's life - he is behaving the way he is for a reason. You think he has it easy - I would wager he thinks the same about you. Your posts are demonstrating that you're not (yet) prepared to take a long, hard look at your behaviour.

You need to talk calmly and openly with (not to) your husband. Be honest with each other to find out what problems you both have and how you can resolve them. You both need to work on this - you have a child together who deserves to be living in a two parent family.

Molly41 wrote: »

Are you cramping his style as you are both now at home? Does he have anyone else? Sorry but you need time away from him x

!!!!!!! How can you say that based on the minuscule amount of information the OP has given us?!? Do you not think she and her husband need to work on resolving their problems?? What good is walking away going to do? If it is because they are together a lot then they need to resolve this problem.

Molly41

Where did I suggest that she leave him? I meant if they are both ar home together that they get on each others nerves. Dont swear at me!