Funeral - tipping?

elsien

Would never even have crossed my mind as a possibility - I thought the OP was a wind up when I first read it.

no1catman

Thanks for the interest and all the replies.

It would not have occured to me either - it's just that about a year ago at a family member of my OH - the question was raised. And quickly the decision was made - so that at the end - a presentation was made as a thank-you the the driver and other guys of about £50 !!
Personally, I was gobsmacked, but at another one of this time - my family I seen an envelope with 'notes' added with the name on it ready to be passed over! !!!!!!.

PaulFD

vax2002 wrote: »

Given the profit they make, I would say the tip is more than catered for in the bill.

What profit. Vicars, doctors, organist, cremation fees, drivers/bearers, embalmers, rent, rates, vehicles and coffin manufactures all have to be paid. It is not the funeral directors who gets the money.

Spirit_2

For my mum's funeral in 2010 we put money in two envelopes, one to express our thanks to the driver and other FD staff (family members were pall bearers) and the other to the parish priest.

Normal practice in my family to do this.

My husband was responsible for discretely passing these on and expressing our immediate thanks on the day.

FATBALLZ

So what happens if you don't tip, they drop the coffin down the stairs?

blossomhill_2

No, actually I think tipping on the day would look tacky

getzls

As far as i know here in N. Ireland tipping the gravediggers is the norm. Can't remember a funeral i have been at were it was not done.

*Louise*

We tipped the grave diggers, but not the drivers. It was discreetly handed over in an envelope once most of the people had started leaving the cemetery.

The organist got £60 for playing one hymn, that was easy money, no need for a tip for her lol

con1888

I was raised catholic (although not practising anymore, family still are)
Where I live you usually tip the priest, singer/organist (usually price is agreed though), alter servers, grave diggers. I have no idea how much the tip is though, I do know that they don't all get the same amount like the alter servers get the least as usually younger.

con1888

P. S like others have said it's usually in an envelope discretely handed over or handed in on the day.