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Urgent Help needed regarding part of my land.
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Given that she appears to be a contorl freak, ignore her it will wind her more.
At the same time make sure you are firm but polite in asserting your rights. If she pushes it I would fence along the boundary.0 -
You have my sympathy. She certainly sounds like a difficult person to have a neighbour. One issue is that you may wish to sell up at some stage in the future, and you would need to disclose any disputes as part of the sale process. Not being on speaking terms is probably not a dispute for this purpose, although you would need to discuss that with your solicitor. On the other hand, if you escalate this into a boundary dispute, that certainly would need to be disclosed.
Just looking at this independently for a moment, your neighbour sounds quite unhappy. Our neighbours have young children, and we positively enjoy hearing them play in the garden, as our youngest is now 20 (and however much we try and persuade him he refuses to hang from the climbing frame and squeal with delight).
Likewise, if you are having dinner in the garden at a reasonable time, she has no right to expect you to be dead silent.
On the other hand, you should respect her feelings about how you maintain your property. I suspect that she comes from a different generation, where keeping up appearances and covering up feelings were much more the norm. (How else could the wartime generation gets through things?) She may well be missing her husband every day, but just covering that up, and you obviously hit a nerve there. I can well imagine that from her point of view you are the neighbours from hell, even though you cannot see that at all.
On a practical basis, you do not need to become bosom pals, but it will be to your benefit to sort out the major differences between you. If it really makes a difference to her how long you leave your washing up on the line for, surely you are being very unfeeling unless you take that into account? You may think that she is batty for worrying about it, but that is because you are not taking into account her point of view.
Likewise, you really, really need to keep your chickens (and your nookie!) under control.No reliance should be placed on the above! Absolutely none, do you hear?0 -
Chicken? What is this about a chicken?0
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ruggedtoast wrote: »Chicken? What is this about a chicken?
See post #19No reliance should be placed on the above! Absolutely none, do you hear?0 -
People who keep chickens are, in my experience, irrational and prone to hyperbole and exaggeration. It is possible the neighbour may not be at fault.0
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OP, this is a public forum and you've named quite a lot of other people in the quote of your initial email / letter.
I suggest that you go back and edit that post.0 -
ruggedtoast wrote: »People who keep chickens are, in my experience, irrational and prone to hyperbole and exaggeration. It is possible the neighbour may not be at fault.
Funny you should say this actually, i asked 3 people who know me VERY well and asked if i had bought this on myself, am i difficult? They all said the same thing (i asked them seperately) they each said because i am to soft and easy going people take advatage of that, then after years of putting up with it i snap, if you look back to my earlier post you will see what neighbour is like, fortunatley (or unfortunately, whatever the case may be) i'm not the only one who sees her as very controling.
Anyway i also have 2 cats and 1 dog so that must make me a mad animal woman :rotfl:,Mortgage Jan 2007, 60000
. Jan 2011, 46,132.86. Feb 2011 45,699.72. July 2011 44,722.48. July 2012 42,400.34. Sept 2012 41,673.83. Jan 2013 40,652.53
Dec 2014 34,834.18 :-)0 -
OP, this is a public forum and you've named quite a lot of other people in the quote of your initial email / letter.
I suggest that you go back and edit that post.
Thank you for that Yorkie 1
, done it now Mortgage Jan 2007, 60000. Jan 2011, 46,132.86. Feb 2011 45,699.72. July 2011 44,722.48. July 2012 42,400.34. Sept 2012 41,673.83. Jan 2013 40,652.53
Dec 2014 34,834.18 :-)0 -
ruggedtoast wrote: »People who keep chickens are, in my experience, irrational and prone to hyperbole and exaggeration. It is possible the neighbour may not be at fault.
You what?
That's quite random. Any science in that observation?"If you think it's expensive to hire a professional to do the job, wait until you hire an amateur." -- Red Adair0
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