Urgent Help needed regarding part of my land.

GDB2222

Shame you sent the letter when angry. Really, the last thing you want is to inflame the situation. What this needs is everybody sitting down with a nice cup of tea, in the mood for a bit of give and take.

davilown

any update on this?

rigsby1967

davilown wrote: »

any update on this?

Hi, yes there is an update.

I THINK the neighbour realises she was way out of order and emailed me after my email to her saying i can use her (my) part of the front as long as long as we treat it with respect (like we don't otherwise:mad:) so i emailed her back with...

I need the use of the front without you photographing and coming out threatening who is outside,
That time you were waving your hands at me from your front window to move my car, when i was at the car, i knew you were thier but i chose to totally ignore you as i was doing nothing wrong.

I and others DO respect the front and i expect you to respect our privacy without the use of a camera and coming out to "have words".
What you don't seem to realise is you brought this on yourself.

Same from me, you won't hear another word from me about the front as long as you keep your camera and your words to yourself.

My son in law is rather annoyed and found out (rightly or wrongly??) that legally she shouldnt be taking photos of people the way she did and wants the photo got rid of, What she planned with the photo, i have no idea.

My daughter told me only today of other times she had been accousted by the neighbour about the parking of her car on her (my) front but just hadn't mentioned it to me and just chose to ignore her.

I have only today just realised how lovely it is to have that extra foot back as the 2 cars on our fronts are no longer almost hitting eachother and a real tight fit when trying to get out of the car .

rpc

rigsby1967 wrote: »

My son in law is rather annoyed and found out (rightly or wrongly??) that legally she shouldnt be taking photos of people the way she did and wants the photo got rid of, What she planned with the photo, i have no idea.

If you are in a public place, with no expectation of privacy, then there is nothing stopping someone taking your photo. Your driveway is pretty public.

That doesn't mean she can do what she likes with the photos, but there is usually nothing stopping her from taking them.

rigsby1967

rpc wrote: »

If you are in a public place, with no expectation of privacy, then there is nothing stopping someone taking your photo. Your driveway is pretty public.

That doesn't mean she can do what she likes with the photos, but there is usually nothing stopping her from taking them.

Thanks rpc

GDB2222

Can I just suggest that this has got completely out of hand? Neighbour disputes can cost tens of thousands of pounds in court fees, without anybody being significantly better off at the end of it. So, you do not want to go there!

Apart from that, any disputes need to be disclosed if either of you wants to sell your house, and this could knock thousands off the value or make a sale fall through.

Really, there is much more advantage to both of you in resolving these issues, rather than going at this hammer and tongs.

You need to recognise that probably both of you have some legitimate grievances, and you both need to try to change whatever is upsetting your neighbour. There is no point aggressively telling your neighbour not to take photographs, when she has every right to take photographs. Likewise, you really do not want to be e-mailing each other when you live next door. Perhaps you can go out for coffee together and try and reconcile your differences?

m0bov

OP got it all sorted with an e-mail!

davilown

m0bov wrote: »

OP got it all sorted with an e-mail!

I wouldn't say it was sorted.............. just quiet again. Perhaps you should follow advice and have a nice cup of tea and a chat without the emotion. as mentioned previously, it's likely it will flare up again, even if you have sold up.

rigsby1967

davilown wrote: »

I wouldn't say it was sorted.............. just quiet again. Perhaps you should follow advice and have a nice cup of tea and a chat without the emotion. as mentioned previously, it's likely it will flare up again, even if you have sold up.

Yes you could well be right but a nice cup of tea together is totally out of the question.

Neighbour is VERY controling and a perfectionist and if things are not done her way then its the wrong way.

Just to give you an idea i will put a couple of examples of the things she says, your whites aren't white, sort them, youve left your washing on the line to long, get it in, tidy your garden, you make to much noise with the kids playing games in the back garden (games such as charades, i-spy, talking in summer while outside having dinner ect) this one is rather embaressing but she had a go as she heard myself and partner having nookie and just had to say how discusting , you talk to your kids to much, you give them to much, and so it goes on and on, the real icing on the cake was when she told me very sharply "i don't know why you are so bothered about your brother dying (he died under tragic circumstances and i was totally devistated) i snapped and told her we all react different to a loved ones death and just because she shed more tears over her cat than her husband doesn't mean we all have to be like that, well that was the wrong thing to say as she went mad and never wanted to speak to me again or associate with me again, it's her way or no way, I took the way she spoke to me for waaaaay to long and since she hasn't spoken to me has made it difficult about the front gardens and has had numerous goes at daughter, son-in-law and other about them being to far over on her side when it was actually my part we were on and when i decided to bring this to light to her she didn't like it, hence the emails back and forth until she realised i wasn't going to stop using my part just because she said i had to.

Anyway i haven't got time to re-read what i have typed as i have to go to work so i hope it makes sense to all.

csnann

rigsby1967 wrote: »

Yes you could well be right but a nice cup of tea together is totally out of the question.

Neighbour is VERY controling and a perfectionist and if things are not done her way then its the wrong way.

Just to give you an idea i will put a couple of examples of the things she says, your whites aren't white, sort them, youve left your washing on the line to long, get it in, tidy your garden, you make to much noise with the kids playing games in the back garden (games such as charades, i-spy, talking in summer while outside having dinner ect) this one is rather embaressing but she had a go as she heard myself and partner having nookie and just had to say how discusting , you talk to your kids to much, you give them to much, and so it goes on and on, the real icing on the cake was when she told me very sharply "i don't know why you are so bothered about your brother dying (he died under tragic circumstances and i was totally devistated) i snapped and told her we all react different to a loved ones death and just because she shed more tears over her cat than her husband doesn't mean we all have to be like that, well that was the wrong thing to say as she went mad and never wanted to speak to me again or associate with me again, it's her way or no way, I took the way she spoke to me for waaaaay to long and since she hasn't spoken to me has made it difficult about the front gardens and has had numerous goes at daughter, son-in-law and other about them being to far over on her side when it was actually my part we were on and when i decided to bring this to light to her she didn't like it, hence the emails back and forth until she realised i wasn't going to stop using my part just because she said i had to.

Anyway i haven't got time to re-read what i have typed as i have to go to work so i hope it makes sense to all.

After all that, do you really care if she stops talking to you? She sounds like a complete nightmare!