Want to do something for a friend but worried its silly!

cjj_2

mygirllollypop wrote: »

I have no idea what to write in the card? I thought of writing a poem or something, I am not very good with words... I wanted to say something like

I know its three years late, but if anybody deserved these gifts it's you.
They cant make up for the past but I hope they go some way to letting you know what an amazing mum & friend you are.

Or something like that, I know its not worded very well, I struggle with emotional stuff haha!

That is perfect. Its from the heart:heart2:, ive filled up me ! Im sure she will love it, I know I would x

catch_me_if_you_can

mygirllollypop wrote: »

I've become really close with a neighbour and we see eachother everyday and our kids always play together, we've both been through some tough times and I've been helping her sort out things and found out that when she had her little boy she was alone in the hospital with him for 5 days with no visitors, his Dad turned up once off his face on crack, stole her bank card and emptied her bank account. Oh and he bought her a nicked "get well soon" card. She just cried for days in the hospital.

She said she'd told her ex all she wanted was a ballon, a card and some flowers after she had him, just the usual stuff a new mum gets really.

Anyway, I know it is 3 years late but I was thinking of getting those things for her... Is that really stupid?

Not stupid at all. You sound very compassionate and a friend in need. xx

clearingout

you have brought tears to my eyes and too many horrible memories back into my head! I gave birth to our third child holding the hand of a wonderful friend as my husband ran off early in the pregnancy with a woman he'd been having an affair with. All I wanted was him to acknowledge his son whilst I was in hospital and he didn't even pick up the phone to me. I left a message which my eldest child later told me they all heard and the girlfriend went straight to the phone and erased it, the ex saying or doing nothing at all. If it wasn't for my friend, I wouldn't have got through those very dark days.

My baby is now a little boy, truly wonderful and will be starting nursery in September. My friend remains loyal and supportive and I know that no matter what, she will always be there for me.

Your friend is lucky to have you, just as I am lucky to have my friend. I am sure she will be touched by any gesture you make.

jewelly

ailuro2 wrote: »

I think linking it to the birth is a bit odd, to be honest. sorry.

You don't want to make her feel uncomfortable, so get her the balloon and the egg and a card with a simple "Happy Easter" card with a "little note to say I appreciate the time you spend being my friend" type note in it.

She will "get" the sentiment behind the balloon without you having to explain I'm sure they will have Easter chick balloons for sale

I totally agree with this post. If it was me (and I have been there), I wouldn't want reminding of the hurt from years ago - even though I know you mean well.

IMO it's best to treat it as an Easter gift. What a lovely friend you are.

rosered1963

How kind you are! A true friend

Gingerjar

You've made me cry. What a great friend you are. All the very best to you and your friend and your lovely children xxx

mr_knight

Awww what a lovely thing to do. Made me smile.

System

I'd make a big fuss over your friend over easter rather than try to make up for what she didnt have when her son was born.

You really are a special friend. Your friend is so lucky to have you in her life.