What More Can I do To Help My Son?

Chr1s

Yes we know OhReally, but it's just one of those things. He can never get cover for a lunch break, although he occasionally get a 15 minute break.

MrSnuggles

Chr1s wrote: »

MrSnuggles you are welcome to see it as babysitting, I see it as being a concerned parent who is worried about the mental and physical health of their child. If he didn't have his difficulties, I would let him deal with it himself, as I do my other children, but unfortunately he can't, and as his father I will ensure that his point gets across, if he isn't able to. It's known as loving and looking out for your child, they don't all stop needing guidence, support and encouragement at 18.

That's the difference with a parent caring for a child and an adult getting paid to work for a commercial company. The guy lied not having a disability because he wanted to be treated as a capable adult, equal to every other employee. Now he's being given responsibility and unable to handle it. What he needs is coaching on how to manage his increasing work-load, not someone to look after him even in the workplace.

Like they say, if you feed a homeless person he will starve the following day, but if you teach him to fish he'll be able to sustain himself forever. Someone there to keep a constant watch out over him won't actually help in the long-run in my opinion.

ohreally

The lad could benefit from support mechanisms, whats the issue? ^

Chr1s

Well MrSnuggles we are definately not going to agree here, so it's a pointless discussion.

Chr1s

What are support mechanisms? He has verbal dyspraxia, so his problems are around his speech, short term memory and communication skills, both verbal and non verbal.

DVardysShadow

MrSnuggles wrote: »

Your son shouldn't have lied when applying, omitting the fact or saying he doesn't have a disbility when he clearly does.

Mr Snuggles, before you took on your role as the forum clown, you didn't tell anyone you were not funny. But no one is accusing you of lying. Please extend similar courtesies to others.

ohreally

Chr1s wrote: »

What are support mechanisms? He has verbal dyspraxia, so his problems are around his speech, short term memory and communication skills, both verbal and non verbal.

Work with his steward, agree and implement mentoring, effective supervision, work with a buddy where its identified this would be beneficial, set-up regular review of an informal nature, try and foster a supportive environment which is not a blame culture....a few off the top of my head.

Ensure adequate breaks are available.

Chr1s

Thank you OhReally for the handy tips. It really is simple things like this that would make a whoole lot of difference.

MrSnuggles

DVardysShadow wrote: »

Mr Snuggles, before you took on your role as the forum clown, you didn't tell anyone you were not funny. But no one is accusing you of lying. Please extend similar courtesies to others.

Re-read the thread. I'm not and certainly don't need to accuse anyone of lying, especially when in the OP it's already made clear this guy did lie. You sir should stop taking on the role of forum clown. I never said I'm being funny and this thread has no room for jokes so grow up.

nightingalesgarden

No - Occupational Health is not the same as Access to Work or a report by a sister company such as Remploy.

OH reports (if that is what you have) talk about health and suggest some adjustments - based on what an individual tells them. The report tends to give generic advice - perhaps about the perception of bullying or depression. Perhaps your son had a telephone interview with a nurse or saw a doctor in a private office - this then forms a 1 or 2 page report which doesn't say much.

A2W report will be about making workplace adjustments for the individual - based on real knowledge of disability adjustments. they come to the workplace and give real advice about what could resolve the situation.

Ask your union rep - you should have the A2W report (or equivalent).