can a lodger be a lodger when he's a boyfriend?

allen35

If you did decide to move in together your DLA wouldn't be affected but your your Incapacity benefit would be eventually as this is moving towards being means tested depending on your disability so if you meet the criteria for the support group, your disability benefits may not e affected by his income.

princess*daisy

HappyMJ wrote: »

It is possible for two unrelated friends to live together and potentially not quite be a couple as yet and claim as two seperate single people.

But it is quite clear they are a couple. She calls him her "boyfriend" - unless she is American, she means that they are in a relationship together. Arguing the toss between "boyfriend" and "partner" is just playing about with semantics.

HappyMJ wrote: »

You obviously work and pay your own mortgage which would not be covered by benefits but if you stopped working for whatever reason would you expect your partner to pay your mortgage and still have no claim on your property? As soon as your partner is seen as contributing to the mortgae or the maintenance of the property then he can have a claim on the property.

I would not EXPECT my partner to pay anything. But I KNOW that he would, because our relationship is about trust and support, not £ signs. When I asked him to move in with me, I trusted him enough to not ditch me at the first sign of financial trouble. Likewise, when he agreed to move in with me, he trusted me that I was not doing so just use him as an additional source of income to subsidise my mortgage.

I am not trying to slate the OP, I am just trying to put across the point that financial trust is just as important in a relationship as any other type of trust. If I didn't trust my boyfriend fully (including financially), I wouldn't ask them to move in with me. Furthermore, I wouldn't class my boyfriend as a lodger if we were in a relationship together.

BigAunty

Well, the OP may have a variety of valid experiences, financial and emotional, that shape her relationship with her current partner but the DWP has a less subtly nuanced approach to separate finances - "Computer Says No".

redbicycle

Does the DWP employ surveillance agents, to check whether two friends in a houseshare are a couple - what do they do - install microphone bugs to record what happens in the bedroom?! This really is Orwell's 1984.

backinbusiness

I think your reservations shine through in your first post OP. It may be too much too soon after your previous unhappy experience.

If you were really ready to go for it I think this would shine through too, but it doesn't.

Wait until you are 100% sure.


BiB