Wedding job for future wifes uncle

adamg

Help, need some advice as to what job to give my future wifes uncle. I dont want him as a groomsmen. I am only having a best man and 2 groomsmen and already have a brother, god father, 1 close cousin, 6 'best mates' to choose from who all probably expect they will get chosen.
I am not close to him as live 150 miles away and hardly know the guy. I do not want any more then 2 groomsmen also due to suit hire cost etc.
I do for her though want him involved in the wedding, I am probably going to hire cars without drivers and ask 2 of mates to drive us to the venue. Other then master of ceremony which we are considering are there any other 'roles' people can think of so we can include him in the wedding? Also is master of ceremony a potential job which could ruin the wedding if not done by a professional?

thorsoak

Why do you need to give him a "job" at the ceremony? Isn't it enough that he just turns up????

Brighton_belle

IMO master of ceremony is an important job that needs to be done by someone who completely understands what you what and is confident and capable of dealing with people well and has a good sense of organisation. Absolutely no need to hire a professional, you just need the righ friend/relative to ask. Doesn't sound like you know if this uncle has these qualities.

Do you think he expects to have a role? It has certainly never been expected in any of our family weddings for an uncle to play a part other than guest. However, it sounds like there is more to this situation and you are being considerate and thoughtful. Is there any non live music to be played that needs someone to press the 'play' button at the right time (e.g. when bride walks in). An small but important role to get right.

burnoutbabe

maybe the chap who helps the photographer get the right guests together for the photos?

still not sure why he should have any job, is he effectivly her dad. If your wife wants him to have a role, why shouldn't she think of one?

LondonDiva

Can you get him to do a reading?

System

he could hand out the order of service booklets as people enter the church.

Emmzi

usher
gift acceptor
informal photos

Armchair23

I don't see any need for a role at all he's a guest.
And this is exactly why my DH got married in a registry office without guests - I'd have lost the plot long before the wedding !

StumpyPumpy

Drunkard at reception?
Chatterup of bridesmaids?
Recounter of inappropriate story to vicar?

I don't understand why everyone has to have "jobs" at a wedding these days. At any wedding I'm invited to I'm always terrified of being"chosen" to act in some official capacity; be it best man, usher or some made up role to "make everyone feel involved".

adamg

Her dad was groomsmen at his daughters wedding, so my oh expects for him to do something

ellay864

The whole point of a groomsman is that they are the GROOM's men, so you should be choosing the people you want. There's plenty of things he can do, most of which get done without the need for a fancy title but if it helps to get him to announce the bride and groom coming to the wedding breakfast, or to introduce the speeches then let him if you feel comfy with him and call him master of ceremonies. Or any of the other suggestions others have said.
I think it's a bit sad when people feel under an obligation to do one thing just because somebody else did something at their wedding. It shouldn't be conditional like that