Having a friend as a lodger

kitrat

moblo wrote: »

Wow that sounds pretty horrendous!

Reminds me, he has left one of the hob rings on twice and gone out. Once with an oily pan steaming away and other time exposed with a towel right next to it. That scared the hell out of me at what could have happened. Just like your friend, how can someone be so careless?

:eek: You definitely made the right decision!

caeler

moblo wrote: »

He came and spoke to me in the kitchen while I was making some dinner. Very down beat and puppy dog eyed. He went to view a couple of houses which sounded pretty terrible and the sort of place I would hate to live. nged for the better since being here, but he is never going to want to live in the same way I do.

Stick to your guns, don't feel guilty or bad. You bought your house and have the right to enjoy it. Let him download but don't suggest if he doesn't find something suitable you will extend the deadline by when he has to leave.

moblo wrote: »

Once with an oily pan steaming away and other time exposed with a towel right next to it. That scared the hell out of me at what could have happened. Just like your friend, how can someone be so careless?

So your lodger is a big safety risk too?!

withabix wrote: »

I would give him until Friday, not the end of April, and they kayak should be out immediately.

I totally agree, with the behaviour you agree 2 months is too much notice. He needs to be gone this month.

Helen1971

Are you sure this guy is your friend? Because it looks to me as if he thought he could treat you like a doormat. Well done for standing up to him. He'll get over it!

moblo

Well I have been feeling pretty chuffed today thinking about having the place to myself. I have had a couple of little bonuses at work and worked a weekend over the last month. Saved around £3000, so I will get cracking with a new kitchen once he is gone. The bathroom needs attention too, but I will have to see how much if any is left over. So feeling excited about turning this place into a building site once more

As much as I would like him out this month. I won't go back on my original dead line and he certainly won't get an extension. This might be tempting fate, but there isn't a lot more he can do I haven't already endured. Perhaps finish off some more of my nice olive oil, or deplete my herbs and spices. I can take that on the chin.

The way some of you have reacted has made me re think how much he has pushed his luck. I think the main problem is his very large ego. He has come across envious at times.

Helen1971 he is great in a social environment. Very out going and chatty, so I always have fun with him. But I think that is where it will start and stop from now on

BigAunty

My fave lodger story is a landlady who went on holiday for 3 weeks and returned to find the lodger hadn't emptied the kitchen bin but had put rubbish around its base and along the adjacent kitchen shelves.

Also, the washing up liquid had run out while the landlady was away so they had rinsed their dishes in plain water...

Caroline_a

The definitive thread on lodgers to read is BadgerLady's one. She's had some real horrors! BadgerLady

moblo

Caroline_a wrote: »

The definitive thread on lodgers to read is BadgerLady's one. She's had some real horrors![/URL]

That thread brought me to this forum!

I have it bookmarked and read through it over a couple of days a few months back. Reading how bad they were made me hold off getting rid of mine.

BigAunty that's just odd. Being a lodger must just make you revert back to being a child/teenager.

BigAunty

Anyone remember the thread from the landlady whose lodger used the tumbledrier nearly every day and it was assumed that her lodger was too lazy to iron her clothes...?

moblo

Guilt trip started tonight. A string of ill thought out excuses.

Him "so I have been thinking, what if I just move out for a bit? I can stay at a friends for a month, even two at a push. Then you can do all the DIY you want."

Me "No sorry I have made my decision. I want the place to myself."

Him "The thing is I haven't planned for getting a deposit and my car insurance is due next month."

Me "Well you can pay car insurance monthly and I have given you until the end of april. You could stay at your friends for a month or two after and save up the deposit"

Him "Yeah, but I want to move straight away rather than have it drag on for ages."

Me *Shrug*

We had some more discussions and then I changed the subject. I am not going to budge, the sooner he realises I am serious the better.

I didn't go in to detail about why HE is a bad lodger, but if he continues to press me I will have to tell him. Which will most likely end up in a full blown row. Seems some pettiness may have started with the lack of toilet paper being purchased.

BitterAndTwisted

There is no need for a row: you have decided that having someone living with you in your home is not what you want any longer. There's no need to go into all the gory details of why he's such a lousy lodger.

His behaviour has been outrageous and I'd have kicked him out long before now. And made him pay for the floor to be repaired as well.

People who have never had responsibility for running their own homes cannot comprehend how irksome it is to save up to have decent things only for some slob to treat them with disrespect and ruin them without a second thought. And therefore treat you with disrespect.

I've had quite a few lodgers in the past and it's always been easier to lay some fair ground-rules at the start and get along with people who have been a friend-of-a-friend rather than actual real pals.

Don't take "no" for an answer from this user.