Stepchildren help?

Debbiejack

duchy wrote: »

Does HE thank HER ?

Maybe just as a family they just aren't good with gift recieving -like father like daughter ?

Yes he does thank her but always has to comment behind her back.

duchy

Sounds like he might be reaping what he's sowing in that case -so leave well alone .

Do *his* daughters send him presents ? If not maybe it's because they know what he's like with the snide comments.....Just a thought.

(Just re-read your OP -they don't. You may have your answer)

red_devil

the kids are selfish not sending him a card on his birthday.

Sambucus_Nigra

Debbiejack wrote: »

The really horrible thing is that my daughter who is same age as his girls always sends him cards and presents for birthday and christmas. He sometimes makes snidey comments about her gifts,which really upsets me.

Thank-you for you're replies x

So you should be! That's well out of order. If he doesn't mind not getting acknowledgement off his own kids then that's his look out but if he is being snidey towards your daughter then that's for you to knock on the head as soon as you can.

Debbiejack

duchy wrote: »

But they aren't kids-they are adult women !

I'm (perhaps wrongly) assuming the OP wasn't around these children growing up so had no input into how they were raised so any comments from her won't be well received.

Honestly if the Dad is upset then he needs to deal with it-it really really isn't her place to do anything other than express her opinion to HIM if it's their joint money that is spent. If he wants things to change it's down to him not someone come later to the family dynamic who may likely be told to mind her own business by these adult women and it could have a negative effect on the father/daughter relationship.

He wasn't around them for most of their childhood as ex wife moved a very long way abroad.

It's not OH that is bothered about not getting cards or thanks from them it's me.

I just find them so rude not to thank him or aknowledge him.

By the way i didn't mention it but i do get on well with all 3 girls.

duchy

red_devil wrote: »

the kids are selfish not sending him a card on his birthday.

If MY Dad had made snide comments about cards or presents I'd sent him in the past then I'd probably at least wonder if it was worth bothering to continue doing it as an adult. (Remember these aren't kids anymore)

Rebecca01

Do they send e cards or wish Happy Birthday on facebook?

As they live abroad they may think thats theres not point on paying postage when the internet is free.

Try not to let it upset you, let it go as its out of your control.

duchy

Debbiejack wrote: »

He wasn't around them for most of their childhood as ex wife moved a very long way abroad.

It's not OH that is bothered about not getting cards or thanks from them it's me.

I just find them so rude not to thank him or aknowledge him.

By the way i didn't mention it but i do get on well with all 3 girls.

Quite honestly if he's not bothered and if there may be a history of no thanks -I'd stop taking it personally and forget about it. If you get on well with them it likely isn't a slight-just the way they have always done things as a long distance family.

I understand it's not YOUR way and it's lovely your daughter is generous to him -but some people just do things differently

Debbiejack

Rebecca01 wrote: »

Do they send e cards or wish Happy Birthday on facebook?

As they live abroad they may think thats theres not point on paying postage when the internet is free.

Try not to let it upset you, let it go as its out of your control.

No they don't send him any messages at all!

The snide remarks he makes about my daughters gifts to him are behind her back,so she doesn't know what he's like. I do remark back to him that at least she remembers him. That usually shuts him up!

duchy

I'd do the same .......