Close relation spreading malicious gossip and lies

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

andygb wrote: »

It is potentially a bit more serious than that. She is threatening to repeat something which was said about some quite unsavoury (violent, criminal) characters, who I knew a few years ago. I did not involve myself in their business, but she for some reason found them quite appealing, so I let her know a few facts about them, purely because I did not want to see her mixed up in their lifestyle. She is now threatening to contact these people and tell them what I said to her in confidence. At the time she was quite grateful that I had told her the full story about them, but now she seems prepared to lash out at me in any way possible.

Unless the info was where a body was buried, I expect more than one person knows the information already. So if she did tell them something, it wouldn't necessarily be met with shock, horror and decisions involving you, a baseball bat and three pigs.

Most scrotes don't appreciate someone who was all interested in being friends years ago, but then dropped them like a ton of bricks, suddenly waltzing up and saying 'guess what I heard about you?'. Partly because it makes them jumpy that this could be a clumsy trap to get them by the police. So it could backfire on her spectacularly if she really means to do it.

If it actually came to it and one of the family knocked on your door, a 'Sorry, I don't really speak to her much because she's a bit funny, makes stuff up about people, but she gets cross when we don't believe her stories, is she doing the same to you now?' would be a reasonable enough answer, along with if he repeats the tale 'Really? Where did she get that from?'.


Just chill out a bit. It's quite possible that she's getting a reputation for spreading lies and gossip - the group of people who heard the last load of venom all know it, for a start. So even if she did try and make herself sound really spesh, they'd probably brush her off as a pain best ignored.


And the nuclear option is, if one comes knocking saying she said you said xxxxx about them, you reply 'She's nuts. She told me that your DB stole the crown jewels/killed Lady Di/some other impossible thing. What can you do, she's delusional, we all try to ignore her, but she gets angry when she's ignored, so makes stuff up to try and get attention'.

ruby-roo_2

Completely ignore her. This lady is behaving in this way because she craves attention and is after a reaction. Sometimes people get so low and lonely that even bad attention is better than none to them. As you stated yourself she has a very small social circle. People will realise what she is like and distance themselves from her. So there is very little she can do or say to cause you any problems.

thegirlintheattic

Ignore her! Simples, chances are she already has a reputation for being a liar and a gossip so I doubt many people would take her seriously anyway.

As for recording, as someone said, to use it as evidence you need to warn her.