Driving lessons...

victory

VikkiiKawaii wrote: »

I don't know what's causing it but my cousin did exactly the same thing. He got his motorbike licence instead and for a while got around on his motorbike but then eventually went back to using public transport/family members.

DID he go back to it?

red-boxer

19 is alot of lessons to give up on. Just one thought, is he scared/apprehensive of the theory and actual practical test? My sons driving instructor likes to have them ready for their test by 20 lessons (although i think that's far too soon). Has he done is theory yet, as that only lasts for 2 years, and if you haven't passed the practical by then, you have to resit the theory again.

londonTiger

Maybe if you ask him enough he'll tell you.

I felt deflated a few times during my driving lessons. There were many factors, I lost hours in my part time job, so suddenly the cost of driving lessons was quite steep.

I needed to spend money on other stuff, clothes, phones. I couldn't see myself driving any time soon either, so I felt continuing lessons was pointless.

Driving lessons aren't actually hard, so I don't know why he would feel like he's driving badly.

It doesn't really get difficult, you learn all the manouvers you need to know by lesson 6 or 7, you spend the remaining 23+ lessons just practising in order to get everything to become second nature. If anything it's just a bit monotonous.

victory

red-boxer wrote: »

19 is alot of lessons to give up on. Just one thought, is he scared/apprehensive of the theory and actual practical test? My sons driving instructor likes to have them ready for their test by 20 lessons (although i think that's far too soon). Has he done is theory yet, as that only lasts for 2 years, and if you haven't passed the practical by then, you have to resit the theory again.

I fully agree that 19 lessons is a lot to give up on, hence the concern:D he has metioned and talked to his mates about the theroy test, he has been through it on the DVD's we bought him, with his mates and with his dad, he also has an app for it on his ipod and some books about it so has been reading/watching learning that way , his instructor did say that the theory would be on the 20th at the very start....

He has not done his theory no, he seems to have a mental block about it all and is very dismissive if you ask, he just says no, one of the time he said ot me the lessons were too expensive but that can't be it because the lessons have always been that price, they have not gone up?

jackieglasgow

My husband had about 15 lessons at 17/18, but just wasn't all that interested. Gave up, and never tried again at all until unexplicably when he was 32 he decided he'd had enough of catching the bus, did a 1week course, passed his test and hasn't looked back. It made a huge difference to our quality of life, and its nice to have someone else to ferry the kids about. He says he's still annoyed at himself for not persevering when he was younger.

Peater

victory wrote: »

it would really take the heat of his dad keep having to give him lifts (some of the dads take it in turns in a rota)

There's a contributory factor.

He see's no actual need to spend all his money in the short-term as he knows he can get a lift!

victory

londonTiger wrote: »

Maybe if you ask him enough he'll tell you.

I felt deflated a few times during my driving lessons. There were many factors, I lost hours in my part time job, so suddenly the cost of driving lessons was quite steep.

I needed to spend money on other stuff, clothes, phones. I couldn't see myself driving any time soon either, so I felt continuing lessons was pointless.

Driving lessons aren't actually hard, so I don't know why he would feel like he's driving badly.

It doesn't really get difficult, you learn all the manouvers you need to know by lesson 6 or 7, you spend the remaining 23+ lessons just practising in order to get everything to become second nature. If anything it's just a bit monotonous.

His lessons are outside 6th form and his works, his instructor makes them around the hours that he is free so he has no wage loss.

I know at one stage he was concerned he could not pay his hol and his lessons but that is not it now as he has practically paid for his hol so he has no outstanding financial restraints/debts.

System

My daughter got a bit stuck when she failed her second driving test. However, she bought a 3 year old car to drive when she had passed.

She loved the car and it spurred her on for that final driving test in which she passed. She just needed the encouragement and something to aim for.

Mind you, people did think it was odd that she had spent such a lot of money on a car and hadnt passed her test yet.

victory

Peater wrote: »

There's a contributory factor.

He see's no actual need to spend all his money in the short-term as he knows he can get a lift!

Yes and no, the lift is on a 4 weekly rota with the other 3 dads, OH making up the 4th and only if OH is available/not working away on a course, so he can get a lift but has to be more reliant than if he took his own lessons passed his test and car shared with another person which is what he was going to do.

jackieglasgow

Just remembered something else my husband said, that he will never get over how upset he was that he couldn't drive me and the babies home from hospital atfer they were born, and that, that is his biggest regret about it. (my sister drove us, it never bothered me as much as it did, him)