Broken ankle alone wih 3 year old

dseventy

jak wrote: »

I dont 'want' money, I need practical help.

You have had practical help. From how to get up the stairs to leaving your son longer with your ex.

You do clearly want money as you say in your OP.

jak wrote: »

Can I access money to get someone to support me

So lets get past that bit.

Assuming you had money, who would you ask to pick up your kids and do the housework? Unless you have someone lined up its going to be a while before you can advertise, vet them with your kids etc.

Its much better to get help. Either from family, the ex, friends, school, home/sure start, and if you can't do it... social services.

D70

pmlindyloo

I think the OP was panicking a bit when she first posted. I imagine she is feeling pretty sore at the moment and not knowing how she's going to cope. So possibly the immediate thought was if I could get someone to help then it would be OK, ..............they would need paying,............ can't afford it, ................is there any money available for such circumstances?..................

Let's face it, breaking your ankle is no fun whatever the circumstances and with a young child......

Let's be nice (smiley face)

dseventy

pmlindyloo wrote: »

I think the OP was panicking a bit when she first posted. I imagine she is feeling pretty sore at the moment and not knowing how she's going to cope. So possibly the immediate thought was if I could get someone to help then it would be OK, ..............they would need paying,............ can't afford it, ................is there any money available for such circumstances?..................

Let's face it, breaking your ankle is no fun whatever the circumstances and with a young child......

Let's be nice (smiley face)

Am being nice and heres a smiley face to prove it

Perhaps now the OP has had time to reflect she sees the suggestions she got (all pratical) are the best route rather than money.

D70

cr1mson

As it is a temporary condition it is very difficult to get help in my experience. I was on crutches for 3 months when my son was 2 and despite being in the fortunate position to be able to afford to pay for some assistance I couldn't find any.

I was lucky in that my husband and I lived together but he worked long hours. Could your ex move back in on a temporary basis or help you set up a bed downstairs?

The other thing I would say that it is amazing what you learn to do with crutches!

Good luck!

C

pmlindyloo

dseventy wrote: »

Am being nice and heres a smiley face to prove it

Perhaps now the OP has had time to reflect she sees the suggestions she got (all pratical) are the best route rather than money.

D70

Thank you...and here's a proper one from me

sunnyone

You manage because you have too, there is no money to help as its a very short term injury and not a disability, the advice given so far is about the only help you will get unless you ring SS and let them sort it out and 99% of parents would rather struggle like hell than ring them unless their really was no other option.

I did as another poster said and went up and down stairs on my bum/hands, internet shopping wasnt around then and that would have made life much easier for me than it is for the OP and a few weeks of ready/easy/take away delieverd meals wont kill anyone.

Housework dosnt matter, a clean, decent home will take longer than the injury lasts to get disgusting and unsanitary and the working friends can come in an empty the bin etc. though its is true and you really learn who your friends are and that was a big eye opener.

Now you know that you wont get any benefit help OP you might want to start another thread on the famlies board about practical help?

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dseventy wrote: »

Am being nice and heres a smiley face to prove it

Perhaps now the OP has had time to reflect she sees the suggestions she got (all pratical) are the best route rather than money.

D70

I usually find that people who have to tell us they are being nice,aren`t

shop-to-drop

Go stay with a family member for a week or two and until you have a weight bearing cast if they are unable to come stay with you. Or ask your son's dad to have him temporarily. Hope your ankle heals quickly and fully.

SingleSue

A suggestion for doing basic housework (i.e picking up bits and pieces from the floor etc), is to sit down and clear one bit, then shuffle across the floor on your bum to do the next bit. Yes, it is time consuming but it gets the worst of it done so that it looks halfway decent.

For washing up, have a chair near by and stand on the uninjured leg supported by resting yourself on the sink front, when that gets too painful/tiring, sit down on the chair and rest until you feel able to stand up again for a few minutes to do some more washing.

For making meals, use the same process as for washing up.

For bathing your little one, could your ex help out there by coming round every other day or so to do the bath time duty?

Sorry, I don't really have a suggestion for getting your child to and from playgroup.

Hope that helps, I use these methods every day due to a falling apart body!

mazza111

Good practical advice there. I would tend to call the school and see if there's anyone who lives near you who could take your child to school. Taxi's just aren't really practical.

I do feel for you, my daughter had a spiral fracture on 31st October, break slightly worse as she wouldn't take my advice and go up/down stairs on her behind. She moved back home with me until just after Christmas. Sorry to say she's still in an aircast until 13th March, when she has her next X Ray. Please take some of the advice on here, and don't find yourself in the same position as my DD.

She's got to the stage now where she's ready to cut her leg off. At least she can bathe properly now though, always a bright side