It wasn't me! An apology!

balletshoes

Hi pukkamum,

If this was your sister last night on the lifestyle choices thread, her posts weren't remotely humourous, in my opinion.

However, on this thread recently

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/comment/50098603#Comment_50098603

you wrote this -

"Another one here for just going for it.
I do think though that it all comes down to how much you are willing to sacrifice, we have 3 children (started when i was 26 and the eldest is 10) our youngest is now one and we are having our first holiday abroad in 6 yrs (camping all the way for us before).
We have a tiny old banger for a car, we don't have meals out, we budget our food bills very tightly as with most other things.
Lots of the kids clothes and equipment are second hand and i sell on what they grow out of.
Doing all this has meant i have been able to stay at home since having our first (something neither of us was willing to compromise on) and although things are sometimes tough i wouldn't change it for the world, when we are sat down on a saturday with our homemade pizzas watching a dvd with our brood lounging all over us the contentment and happiness i feel is better than any material thing i could buy.

On the other hand my sister and her DH had their first at 38 by this time they were used to a certain lifestyle filled with holidays, socialising and satisfaction coming from material things, to them this is what always made them happy and they cannot get used to a life without them leading my sister to go back to work way before she ever wanted to once she had a child as their life feels empty without them."

so it would seem, from that post, that your opinions on being a SAHM are more in tune with what your sister was alledgedly posting about last night, and that your sister would be the one who would be advocating returning to work to carry on with having the "luxuries"?

For the record, I have no issue at all with whichever way families choose to raise their children, for some SAHM/D is the way to go, for some it isn't. I do however think its arrogant to think that one person's way of doing it is the only way thats acceptable, and that everyone else is doing it wrong if they're not doing it the same way.

sassyblue

pukkamum wrote: »

It certainly has, it being if your sister is giggling whilst on your laptop check what she is doing!!!!

She thought it was funny to wind people up? that's trolling - apart from being childish.

peachyprice

So, was it your sister posting on your account on 11th January too? Something isn't right here.

emsywoo123

**wades in**

I know Pukka Mum of old (hello old preggers buddy)

I have no idea what she wrote, didn't write, sister wrote.........but I DO know that she is one of the lovely posters here, totally non-confrontational.

I personally feel even if she had written the posts (which IMHO I do not think she did) she would not have started a thread to highlight them.

**wades out**

rachbc

Hope your sister didn't read all your thread complaining about her whilst she was using your account or you really could be in bother!

pukkamum

balletshoes wrote: »

Hi pukkamum,

If this was your sister last night on the lifestyle choices thread, her posts weren't remotely humourous, in my opinion.

However, on this thread recently

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/comment/50098603#Comment_50098603

you wrote this -

"Another one here for just going for it.
I do think though that it all comes down to how much you are willing to sacrifice, we have 3 children (started when i was 26 and the eldest is 10) our youngest is now one and we are having our first holiday abroad in 6 yrs (camping all the way for us before).
We have a tiny old banger for a car, we don't have meals out, we budget our food bills very tightly as with most other things.
Lots of the kids clothes and equipment are second hand and i sell on what they grow out of.
Doing all this has meant i have been able to stay at home since having our first (something neither of us was willing to compromise on) and although things are sometimes tough i wouldn't change it for the world, when we are sat down on a saturday with our homemade pizzas watching a dvd with our brood lounging all over us the contentment and happiness i feel is better than any material thing i could buy.

On the other hand my sister and her DH had their first at 38 by this time they were used to a certain lifestyle filled with holidays, socialising and satisfaction coming from material things, to them this is what always made them happy and they cannot get used to a life without them leading my sister to go back to work way before she ever wanted to once she had a child as their life feels empty without them."

so it would seem, from that post, that your opinions on being a SAHM are more in tune with what your sister was alledgedly posting about last night, and that your sister would be the one who would be advocating returning to work to carry on with having the "luxuries"?

For the record, I have no issue at all with whichever way families choose to raise their children, for some SAHM/D is the way to go, for some it isn't. I do however think its arrogant to think that one person's way of doing it is the only way thats acceptable, and that everyone else is doing it wrong if they're not doing it the same way.

Yes this was me and i often have this conversation with my sister who thinks i am bonkers for living this way, hence i think her posts, as you can see from the last bit of the post i have no issue with people who do and abhor people who think theirs is the only way that is right.
I went back to work part-time for a short time between number 2 and 3 and i hated it, it wasn't for me the reason we have made these sacrifices.

pukkamum

rachbc wrote: »

Hope your sister didn't read all your thread complaining about her whilst she was using your account or you really could be in bother!

Different sister rach she agrees with my opinions on eldest sister i was showing her the posts re the birthday that was why it was still open.

Seanymph

pukkamum wrote: »

I have posted on the thread too x

I'll check again, but all I could see was a post from yourself saying you'd sent pm's to two members.

It fell short of the apology and explanation given on here.

I didn't post because I care what people think of you after last night - I posted because you are apologising which implies you do. As someone who read both it would be more applicable to have a full explanation publicly on the thread it concerned, so any readers would have immediate access to your sister story.

A seperate thread often isn't read by the same audience.

Of course you may still be your 'long standing' and 'nanny for many years' sister in which case you don't want an observers feedback on how to limit the damage...

pukkamum

emsywoo123 wrote: »

**wades in**

I know Pukka Mum of old (hello old preggers buddy)

I have no idea what she wrote, didn't write, sister wrote.........but I DO know that she is one of the lovely posters here, totally non-confrontational.

I personally feel even if she had written the posts (which IMHO I do not think she did) she would not have started a thread to highlight them.

**wades out**

Thank you emsywoo beginning to think i should have just deleted the posts with no explaination but i would hate people to think of me as having that attitude!

pukkamum

Seanymph wrote: »

I'll check again, but all I could see was a post from yourself saying you'd sent pm's to two members.

It fell short of the apology and explanation given on here.

I didn't post because I care what people think of you after last night - I posted because you are apologising which implies you do. As someone who read both it would be more applicable to have a full explanation publicly on the thread it concerned, so any readers would have immediate access to your sister story.

A seperate thread often isn't read by the same audience.

Of course you may still be your 'long standing' and 'nanny for many years' sister in which case you don't want an observers feedback on how to limit the damage...[/QUOTE/]

I will put a link into the other thread seanmyph if it worries you that much!