Sister is pregnant at 16

taxi36

I came onto this site just a few months ago when I discovered that my own Daughter was pregnant. Granted she was 17 so a little (but not much) older than your sister.

At the time of my first post I had a whole range of emotions running through my head , most of which I am sure you and your own family can relate to right at this moment in time. I was shocked , stunned and a little disappointed in the situation.

I had dreams and hopes for my Daughter which hadnt really included her being a teenage Mum!

After the initial shock wore off - which I have to admit didnt take very long - I actually became excited at the thought of the new addition to our family.
My Daughter knew that her life was going to change , she knew that the baby was going to HER responsibility but that both myself and my Wife were on hand to help (both her and the baby live with us) and she wanted to continue with the pregnancy. This was a decision which we left entirely up to her as we held the opinion that at 17 she knew her own mind. I think at 16 , the best thing you and your parents can do is sit down and tell your sister her life will change when the baby arrives and that the bulk of reponsibilty will fall on her but that you will all always be there for her...and then allow her to reach her own decision.

I remember thinking that my Daughters life would change so much and it DID but she can still do everything she hoped to do , however now she shares this with another little person lol.

My Grandson is now almost 10 weeks and to be honest I cant imagine our home or lives without him here. He makes my day and I find myself hurrying home from work just to get cuddles with him . He really is the best thing to have happened to our family in a long time. He is the light of all of our lives.

Trust me , the next few months will be hard as your family adjusts to the changes happening but come back her and post again in a few months...I bet you all feel just as happy as my family feel right now.

Good luck .

Gillyx

Glad to hear your daughter and family are doing well Taxi! Im a good bit older than your daughter and I think my dad felt the same way with me and now wee mister is here he is proud as punch!

lizzywig

I'm a new mum with a 14wo baby and I had no idea how hard it was going to be, not that I would change a single second!

My advice would to be there for her, to talk to her about how she's feeling and what she's looking forward to/scared of. I also saw a programme on TV a few weeks back presented by Kim Marsh about teen mums, it was very good and very insightful. It made me see it from another point of view http://www.tv-replay.co.uk/kym-marsh-teen-mums-and-me/. Just don't ram anything down her throat because she needs to be able to talk to someone openly and honestly. By the sound of it she'll have her boyfriend but has she thought about what would happen if they broke up. I'm sure she'd say it's not on the cards but my goodness do babies test you lol.

All I know is that if I was 16 and pregnant I probably would have kept the baby but looking back now knowing what I know I wouldn't keep the baby. My reasons why, because having not had a baby early on has enabled me to buy a house and get married and I wouldn't be with my now husband. That's just the way I feel though.

Good luck to your sister, if she does keep the baby she will be fine, she will, but her life will change in ways she never thought possible, both good and difficult.