Baptism - folks staying over, yes or no?

super41

felicity1 wrote:

Or, am I being totally unreasonable? I know it's a long way to travel, but if it were me I'd just book a b&b. Views appreciated, thank you.

I don't think you're being at all unreasonable, in fact I think they're being unreasionable asking you if they can stay. Had a very similar situation ourselves a few months ago. It was my OH's family so I asked him to say we had enough on without pressure of other people around. People say they will help etc but to be honest I find by the time you've explained things you might as well have done it yourself!

So stick to your guns and get OH to explain the situation tactfully, they probably just need to see it from your point of view.

Suggest you do what others suggest and get a list of cheap b&bs - they may do a cheap rate off-season, or travelodge or even YHA if you have one local (my friends get cheap deals at those with Tesco vouchers).

Wishing you all the best for your child's special day!

Penny-Pincher!!

Could you not rough it for just one night

PP
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Timmne

Penny-Pincher!! wrote:

Could you not rough it for just one night

PP
xx

Point is it's not really the OP's job to be roughing it! It's a very special time having their daughter baptised and one that should be cherished especially by the immediate family. If OP has to rough it, it will automatically tarnish the event for them, and it will remain in their memory....

Stick to your guns OP!

Spendless

When you say IL and there's 5 adults and 5 children who is it? Is it your OH brothers/sisters and family? At the very least I'd restrict it to MIL/FIL stopping at your place and only then if they are the type to help you on the day itself.;)

super41

Penny-Pincher!! wrote:

Could you not rough it for just one night

PP
xx

Some people would be prepared to do this but I think the OP wouldn't have posted if she felt like that. And I don't blame her. I often think people 'hijack' events such as this by being unreasonable - they are not the focus of this event, it is the OP and her family - lovely to have the extended family to stay, but in their place!

LondonDiva

Can't you take the kids into your room for the night, give one to PIL and the other as a changing room for those kipping on the living room floor. OR have the kids as a sleepover & give ideas for the parents?

I'd have to say that I wouldn't go all that way to a christening (with kids!)where the parents don't make an effort to either come up with accomodation or give me info on where I could sleep. You have to bear in mind it's not exactly a day trip & they are making an effort to support you.

Timmne

.... if they're not bothered enough to find their own accommodation I wouldn't want them sharing the day with me anyway!

morlandbanks

Are you a Tesco Clubcard points collector? Do you have any points you could change up for hotel tokens and put them up somewhere close by? For such a special occasion it would be worth it.
I can understand you not wanting to wake up to a houseful of people on the day!! Do you have any neighbours/friends who would be willing to offer a spare room?

felicity1

Sorry, should have said, it goes without saying we would be more than happy to have mil with us. However, we simply don't have the space, nor inclination, to put everybody else up.

I take London Diva's point about providing info regarding accommodation, I have been doing some research anyway but it has already been intimated that folk cannot or will not pay for b&b. Which kind of puts us in an awkward position really. Whatever we do, somebody won't be happy, and I really don't wan't it to be us. That IS selfish, but then, as a previous poster said, it is our day.

Smashing

felicity1 wrote:

, I have been doing some research anyway but it has already been intimated that folk cannot or will not pay for b&b.

But not specifically stated? I would go with having the in-laws to stay and give everyone else accommodation info. You are giving them the option - if they do not wish to pay then that is their choice - you're already shelling out for food etc. for the party afterwards. It's your day and isn't supposed to be a giant headache.

I take it your husband feels the same way?