if only i knew then how i feel now!

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Jollyone wrote: »

:(Hi I'm a regular user but changed my id as my hubby knows my normal id.

Hubby and I have 2 children. He had the snip 6 months ago after we decided we couldn't really afford any more children. We both regret the decision soooo much and I am desperate to have another baby. I feel so upset. It doesn't help that Everyone around me is pregnant. I just don't know what to do, all i think about is having another baby. I think I'm going to end up resenting him for having it done. (i asked him a few times in the 2 weeks leading up to it not to have it done) I just feel so sad. I love my children but i want to have another baby and have 3 children. I also feel like a rubbish wife because he feels somewhat the same. I'm 85% sure that if he hadn''t have had the snip i'd be pregnant by now. ahhhhh
sorry just need to vent some of my sadness

When i was sterilized. I knew what i was doing. I knew it was the right thing but it still didnt stop me greiving for my fertility. I know it sounds silly but i was really proud of myself for being able to get pregnant 'at the drop of a hat'.

Do i regret it now? No.

Mara69

I wanted a third child a good few years ago now. I was very broody and ended up with a cat, two rabbits and two dogs! The feeling does pass and like so many others I am so glad I didn't have a third. Two healthy children were enough. Just because you are feeling sad and broody doens't mean you have to have another child. Try and find a way to deal with your feelings instead.

Swampmonster

I am in the same boat as you. Husband had the snip 13 years ago and I'm 37 now. He knows I want more children, as does he but he won't due to previous complications, have the vasectomy reversed for which I can't say I blame him. At my age we know we are getting to the now or never stage and he himself has mentioned sperm donors but its a big step. Just can't shake the feeling of wanting another.

vicx

Be happy with what you have got. Many people can't have children for different reasons and you're unhappy because you can't have a third...

toomanyshoesfortwofeet

Mara69 wrote: »

I wanted a third child a good few years ago now. I was very broody and ended up with a cat, two rabbits and two dogs! The feeling does pass and like so many others I am so glad I didn't have a third. Two healthy children were enough. Just because you are feeling sad and broody doens't mean you have to have another child. Try and find a way to deal with your feelings instead.

This is nice to hear.

I think I'm programmed to want more children. If I had three, I'd want four and then I'd want five and before I knew it I'd be on some channel 4 documentary with 15. I'm sticking at two despite the desire to have another because that's the decision that's right for our whole family. So it's good to know that this baby manic phase will pass.