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Moving Out Of My Mums House

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  • hcb42
    hcb42 Posts: 5,962 Forumite
    I agree with the others, energy needs to be in finding a job, your mother will need to put up with you as it were...!
  • caeler
    caeler Posts: 2,638 Forumite
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    Am I old fashioned? I couldn't afford to leave my parents home until I got a job, kept the job and paid my way. I appreciate you want your independance but you need to earn it.
  • hcb42
    hcb42 Posts: 5,962 Forumite
    no not old fashioned, that should be minimum expectation
  • Werdnal
    Werdnal Posts: 3,780 Forumite
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    Its not just being able to afford to keep a roof over your head, even if you could find somewhere. Its having enough left over to feed, clothe and look after yourself. My guess is living at home, there is always food in the cupboard, always milk in the fridge, always shampoo and soap in the bathroom, always clean clothes in the cupboard, always heat/light available - these things just don't happen by some miracle (although I sometimes think my son is under the misunderstanding that they do!)

    Whether you get help with rent/LHA, council tax and JSA, there still won't be enough left over to afford to live or meet the bills and extra costs that your mum probably covers for you now!

    I would swallow your pride about still being at home with mum, find a job, save like h£ll and wait a bit longer before you commit to a rental agreement that you may regret later - when you find yourself wondering whether to put your last £5 on your leccie key - or buy something to eat tonight, and hiding from the LL who is knocking at the door demanding his rent ... sad but true!
  • Some good advice here. I have a lot to think about. My plan was to get a job, save for a bit and then move out. However, my mum is threatening to kick me out soon. She may go back on her word, but I need to keep my options open. I will speak to a housing advisor at county hall with my brother in the near future. I will also re-read all posts on this thread.

    As it stands, I already pay my own food, rent and board at my mums house. My JSA only just covers that. I have £3000 in savings but that won't last long at a rented property if I have little income. I will try my best to remain at my mums house for now. We will see what happens.
  • Hump
    Hump Posts: 519 Forumite
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    Lots of really good advice here, definitely worth re-reading, however if your mum is serious about kicking you out then do 'insist' on making a homeless application to the council - they might try to avoid taking an application by offering you a homeless prevention interview or similar. Whilst not absolutely necessary it would help your application if your mum just happened to give you a written note stating you have to leave - preferably with a date within a month of the date of the note.

    This may - practically - do little to help, but it will ensure you are appropriately banded in the council's housing scheme.
  • bris
    bris Posts: 10,548 Forumite
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    caeler wrote: »
    Am I old fashioned? I couldn't afford to leave my parents home until I got a job, kept the job and paid my way. I appreciate you want your independance but you need to earn it.
    Thats all very well when you have supportive parents. In this case the mum see's the sons as a burden, finanial reasons maybe?
    Regardless of the reasons, there comes a time when you have to fly the nest and make your own way. The OP is now old enough to struggle on his own like million's of others out there. getting away from his mum may even help repair their relationship when no burden is placed on either of them.
  • Suarez
    Suarez Posts: 970 Forumite
    Why should you get a place paid for when there's people who are in work who cannot afford their own place.

    Harsh - but right...
  • Suarez
    Suarez Posts: 970 Forumite
    Oh and I don't think we are getting the full story with the "Mum kicking you out" situation. I think there is more to it. If you really want to move out apply for every job you find. I've worked in loads of places - hated some of them but stuck it out because all money is the same at the end of the day however it's earned...
  • lb364
    lb364 Posts: 1,187 Forumite
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    If you have no home or job then apply for jobs all over the country, don't stop searching at the borders of Norwich. Pubs and hotels sometimes offer accommodation to their staff. I know it is frustrating when you have an education in a specialist subject but you can always go back to that line of work when the opportunity arises or you can post an ad on gumtree and start working for yourself in the meantime?
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