Child Support under a court order

Zara33

thesaint wrote:

For anyone else that gets PM's that they do not like, simply put them on ignore.
The squabbling on this thread does not need to be seen by everyone else.

Thankyou i have now disabled the private messaging feature altogether if someone has something to say the should say it in here instead of the back door b!tching.

jazzyjustlaw

I know the answer to this but am reluctant to post as it is a grey area with little case law if your income is low go to a Solicitor to see if you qualify for Public Funding. I would just say one thing an Order can include child maintenance!!

MXW

Thanks, I have tried to get legal aid but have been told by the solicitor that I do not qualify by a very small amount...we are talking a few pounds here. Looks like I will just have to do my best my court.

Taloola78

If we look back through the thread then you will see that I was only reiterating what Zara33 had said, people shouldnt rely on child support, which was my main point.
I wasn't trying to be nasty or vindictive,and I never made any assumptions when I posted that comment.
I apologise MXW for making judgements on you from something you later posted but I was very angry at what Zara33 had posted.

I sent a PM to Zara33 as I didnt want to get into a slanging match on here as I didnt think it would benefit MXW any. And also because I had already stated I wasn't going to get involved in the discussion any longer.
What I said wasn't much different to what you said, but for some reason I was being nasty.:rolleyes:

Zara33

***yawn***

Zara33

I still stand by what i said and i also agree with what MXW said afterwards

MXW wrote:

You are right,but most woman cannot manage without it.

Then and this is only my honest opinion you posted trying to belittle MXW and every other single parent seeking child support for their child by saying:

Taloola78 wrote:

I do.
I'm a single parent and have never had a penny from my daughter's father. He doesn't want to know. He is in the armed forces and I know for a fact if I chased it he would be made to pay but I am not the type of person to do so.
I got myself a job and decided there and then that I would never rely on him for anything.
I am not trying to be nasty but as one of the op has said, you should never really rely on child support to pay bills. I would treat it as a bonus.

Taloo78 the point that i was trying to make was infact that you are denying your child the right to be supported by BOTH parents, i made no reference to whether your daughter has any contact with her father or not, this is what angered you and led you to send me that PM. Where you state:

Seems to me the op is more concerned about the NRP spending all his cash on another girlfriend and kids. Smacks slightly of jealousy. but this is only how I see it.

Well pot, kettle, black springs to mind. Until you have walked a mile in someone elses shoes then who are to judge!

You may well choose not to seek child support for your daughter that is your decision, but MXW was asking for advice regarding her situation and her child support.

MXW i apologise for taking your thread way off topic, you came here for advice not back door b!tching.

kelloggs36

jazzyjustlaw wrote:

I know the answer to this but am reluctant to post as it is a grey area with little case law if your income is low go to a Solicitor to see if you qualify for Public Funding. I would just say one thing an Order can include child maintenance!!

I would be grateful for more info regarding Court orders and child maintenance. As far as I understand it there are only very minimal circumstances where this can apply such as child being disabled, child being over 19 and being at university for example. As for bog standard maintenance it has to be via the CSA if is is to be legally binding. There are temporary provisions that can be made provided that both parties agree, but that doesn't preclude anybody from going to the CSA at a later date.

Further legal info would be extremely useful as I would dearly love to go to the Courts to get my ex to pay!

Taloola78

It was never my intention to belittle anybody, I only intended to be supportive and show MXW that it could be done. She may not get her problem sorted as we all know from reading these boards that what should happen and what actually does are 2 different things. I was merely trying to be supportive in showing her that it isn't the end of the world.It will be hard but she still has her kids and will still love them.
I have already apologised for the statement I made later and have said it was wrong to say but I said it in anger.
Can we leave it please you have stressed your point, I've stressed mine.

Zara33

Taloola78 wrote:

It was never my intention to belittle anybody, I only intended to be supportive and show MXW that it could be done. She may not get her problem sorted as we all know from reading these boards that what should happen and what actually does are 2 different things. I was merely trying to be supportive in showing her that it isn't the end of the world.It will be hard but she still has her kids and will still love them.
I have already apologised for the statement I made later and have said it was wrong to say but I said it in anger.
Can we leave it please you have stressed your point, I've stressed mine.

I agree! thankyou

MXW

Seems we have moved away from my original question. Does anyone have any idea how the courts work out whether a person has enough disposable income to pay his child support, based on if he was on benefits and his situation as it is now? What do they class as an outgoing? Would the child support be an essential outgoing as opposed to a loan for a car etc? Any advise would be welcomed.