Child Support under a court order

kelloggs36

.3.5.7 Applications to the Court for Maintenance for Children

The Court does not ordinarily have the jurisdiction to make an order for Child maintenance between the child’s parents unless there is a pre-existing order in force or the application is by consent (agreement) of the parties. The CSA may have made an assessment, and the parent is applying for a "topping-up" order. The Court will not easily be persuaded that a "topping -up" order is appropriate, and you should seek legal advice upon this point before proceeding further.

There are other circumstances in which the Court will make an order for child maintenance including:

a) if the child is 19 years or over and in full time education or training, or

b) the Payer is ordered to meet some or all of the expenses incurred in connection with the provision of instruction or training; or

c) if the child is suffering from disability, the Court may make an order requiring the person to meet some or all the expenses attributable to that child’s disability

kelloggs36

This is from the CSA website


http://www.csa.gov.uk/new/options/court_orders.asp

Another site: Scroll down and it states that the CSA have to deal with child mainenance if you want it done officially. Of course, private agreements can be made between yourselves but they can't be enforced

http://www.lawontheweb.co.uk/basics/family.htm

There is a bit more detail here:

http://www.manches.com/practices/family/service.php?id=142

so it appears that FOR 1 YEAR ONLY the Courts can make an order.

MXW

Thanks for the information you have sent, I am very grateful. As I understand the information you have posted, the court order was made as it was consented by both parties.........the court order is for the children, not for me, the judge at the time said that if my ex was going to pursue getting a share in the house, then because of his previous actions, he would have to pay me support as well as the kids, at this point he backed down and agreed to the order.

Many thanks xxx

MXW

PS. the court order was made in 2002, the above applies for orders made after 2003.

xxx

Prudent

MXW wrote:

I also work, maybe your earnings cover your living expenses, mine don't and i'm not being nasty. When your ex lives all but 5 minutes away and has recently bought a 4 bedroomed detached house, drives a new BMW and takes his partner and her grown up kids abroad at least twice a year and his own kid's go without......then I think he has a right to support his children, his earnings 5 years ago were well in excess of £50,000.

Been there too. My ex is a high earner, drives a mercedes and takes his girlfriends children abroad. He has never taken his own dd abroad. When he first left me he lived with a woman with four children. He bought bought them toys, pets, took them for meals in expensive hotels, took them abroad etc. He refused to buy his own dd a red nose when he bought one for girlfriend's children saying he couldn't afford an extra one. I have already posted in a previous thread how he refused to buy his sick dd a £3 bottle of medicine when she had a temperature. Recently he asked me to pay £3.50 as he collected her school tie. He earns £109,000.

Last week he was having a conversation with dd about old people. She said to him that when her parents were old and needed help, she would remember which parent had cared for her. He wasn't best pleased :rotfl:

Taloola78

Zara33 wrote:

Taloola78 lets just hope you never find yourself in a position unemployment for example where you have no choice but to tell the CSA who the father is.
You are ineffect denying your child something that she is entitled to.

I have never denied my child anything.

MXW

Prudent wrote:

Been there too. My ex is a high earner, drives a mercedes and takes his girlfriends children abroad. He has never taken his own dd abroad. When he first left me he lived with a woman with four children. He bought bought them toys, pets, took them for meals in expensive hotels, took them abroad etc. He refused to buy his own dd a red nose when he bought one for girlfriend's children saying he couldn't afford an extra one. I have already posted in a previous thread how he refused to buy his sick dd a £3 bottle of medicine when she had a temperature. Recently he asked me to pay £3.50 as he collected her school tie. He earns £109,000.

Last week he was having a conversation with dd about old people. She said to him that when her parents were old and needed help, she would remember which parent had cared for her. He wasn't best pleased :rotfl:

Although it's sad that the kid's feel that way...no matter how much money our ex's have, we have the love of our kids..that's much more important xx

Zara33

Taloola78 wrote:

I have never denied my child anything.

I beg to differ but.............that's just my opinion each to their own.

Edit to say: Taloola if you have anything to say to me do it here rather than send me private messages i prefer it that way, i don't take the bait in pm's thanks

Taloola78
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Where did I say I was denying my child of anything? If you mean her father then, no I havent stopped him from seeing her, he doesn't want to.
And I have been in the position of being unemployed but for a very minimal time. It was only minimal though as I have no wish for anyone to be paying for my child to be brought up.

Your comment was not needed as I had already said I would no longer take part in the discussion.

Just because people think differently from you does not make them wrong, or bad people. and it's really not nice to be jumping to conclusions with only limited information.

Seems to me the op is more concerned about the NRP spending all his cash on another girlfriend and kids. Smacks slightly of jealousy. but this is only how I see it.
I've been on both sides of the coin so consider myself to be well experienced about it.
Thanks though for ill informed opinion.

MXW

Are we talking of ill informed opinions? Then I suggest you take a look at the message you sent me....your comments were not needed and were not helpful. I am not jealous of my ex or the life he has now, I could have had that life if I put up with his controling nature and mental and physical abuse, so before you form opinions about me via someone else..GET THE WHOLE STORY!!! Thanks for your kind words, they will really help me the next time I am in front of a judge!!!

thesaint

For anyone else that gets PM's that they do not like, simply put them on ignore.
The squabbling on this thread does not need to be seen by everyone else.